800 Inspirational Untamed Glennon Doyle Quotes (2023)
1. “Judgment is self-abandonment.”
2. “The only thing that was every wrong with me was my belief that there was something wrong with me.”
3. The epitome of womanhood is to lose one’s self completely. That is the end goal of every patriarchal culture. Because a very effective way to control women is to convince women to control themselves
4. People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help.
5. Be careful with the stories you tell about yourself
6. If I want my world to be less vicious, then I must become more gentle.
7. “People will like me or not, but being liked is not my one thing; integrity is… I’m willing to lose anything that requires me to hide any part of myself.”
8. “I am worthy of rest.”
9. The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that there was something wrong with me.
10. The opposite of sensitive is not brave. It’s not brave to refuse to pay attention, to refuse to notice, to refuse to feel and know and imagine. The opposite of sensitive is insensitive, and that’s no badge of honor
11. We forgot how to know when we learned how to please.
12. “Being fully human is not about feeling happy, it’s about feeling everything.”
13. “I don’t want to take anything to the grave. I want to die used up and emptied out. I don’t want to carry around anything that I don’t have to. I want to travel light. ”
14. “We don’t understand why we hurt those we love. ”
15. “Being human is not hard because you're doing it wrong, it's hard because you're doing it right. You will never change the fact that being human is hard, so you must change your idea that it was ever supposed to be easy.”
16. “No woman on earth doesn’t give a fuck—no woman is that cool—she’s just hidden her fire. Likely, it’s burning her up. ”
17. There is no greater burden on a child than the unlived life of a parent
18. You are here to decide if your life, relationships, and world are true and beautiful enough for you.
19. “Every life is an unprecedented experiment. This life is mine alone. ”
20. “Heartbreak delivers your purpose.”
21. “Here’s to The Untamed: May we know them. May we raise them. May we love them. May we read them. May we elect them. May we be them.”
22. “Happiness is low expectations paired with a short-term memory problem. ”
23. “It’s not the cruel criticism from folks who hate us that scares us away from our Knowing; it’s the quiet concern of those who love us. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
24. “What if we revised our memo? What if we decided that successful parenting includes working to make sure that all kids have enough, not just that the particular kids assigned to us have everything? What if we used our mothering love less like a laser, burning holes into the children assigned to us, and more like the sun, making sure all kids are warm?”
25. “It is a blessing to know a free woman. Sometimes she will stop by and hold up a mirror for you. She will help you remember who you are. ”
26. “Trusting people is terrifying. Maybe if love is not a little scary and out of our control, then it is not love at all.”
27. “To me, intimacy is about communication. Through the written or spoken or physically expressed word, communicating is how we get into each other’s hearts and minds.”
28. “You are not crazy. You are goddamn cheetah.”
29. “We think our job as humans is to avoid pain, our job as parents is to protect our children from pain, and our job as friends is to fix each other’s pain. Maybe that’s why we all feel like failures so often — because we all have the wrong job description for love.”
30. People aren’t changing, after all. It’s just that for the first time, there’s enough freedom for people to stop changing who they are.
31. “If there’s a silver lining to the emptiness, here it is: The unfillable is what brings people together. I’ve never made a friend by bragging about my strengths, but I’ve made countless by sharing my weakness and my emptiness.”
32. “The warrior knows that her heartbreak is her map.”
33. “Untamed” is one of the memoirs written by Doyle, published in 2020. It remained New York Times non-fiction bestseller for seven weeks straight. Here are some famous Glennon Doyle quotes from the book.
34. “There is always more on its way – more opportunities, more ideas, more love. Know that there is enough. Know that you are enough. Know that you have enough. ” — Glennon Doyle
35. “Anger delivers our boundaries to us. Our boundaries deliver our beliefs to us.”
36. “Just do the next right thing, one thing at a time. ”
37. “The old definition of Mother doesn’t ring true enough.”
38. “Grief is love’s souvenir. It’s our proof that we once loved. Grief is the receipt we wave in the air that says to the world: ‘Look! Love was once mine. I love well. Here is my proof that I paid the price.'”
39. “Glennon, you refer to God as "she"--why do you believe that God's a female?
40. Grief is a cocoon from which we emerge new.
41. “If you sit with what pisses you off and breaks your heart, that will be a big red arrow pointing you towards purpose.”
42. “Life is brutal, but it’s also beautiful. Life is Brutiful. ”
43. “What I Know: 1. What you don’t know, you’re not supposed to know yet. 2. More will be revealed. 3 Crisis means to sift. Let it all fall away and you’ll be left with what matters. 4. What matters most cannot be taken away. 5. Just do the next right thing one thing at a time. That’ll take you all the way home. ” — Glennon Doyle
44. I think I love my people more than normal people love their people. My love is so overwhelming and terrifying and uncomfortable and complicated that I need to hide from it.
45. “Change is incremental, and it is sometimes quiet. And it is happening. I promise you it is happening.”
46. “Here is the world. Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Don’t be afraid.”
47. “I will not stay, not ever again—in a room or conversation or relationship or institution that requires me to abandon myself. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
48. “A woman who is full of herself knows and trusts herself enough to say and do what must be done. She lets the rest burn. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
49. “We have to get back into our own bodies and figure out what the hell we want to do. And then the next step is doing it without explaining ourselves. ” — Glennon Doyle
50. “I see your pain and it is difficult and it is hard, but it was made just for you and I also see that your courage is greater than your fear. ” — Glennon Doyle
51. The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that there was something wrong with me
52. “A woman who is full of herself knows and trusts herself enough to say and do what must be done. She lets the rest burn. ”
53. The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that there was something wrong with me. -Glennon Doyle
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55. “Wherever you go, there you are. ”
56. “Jung suggested: There is no greater burden on a child than the unlived life of a parent.”
57. A woman becomes a responsible parent when she stops being an obedient daughter.
58. “We tell our children that brave means feeling afraid and doing it anyway, but is this the definition we want them to carry as they grow older? ... Brave does not mean feeling afraid and doing it anyway.
59. “Being human is not hard because you're doing it wrong, it's hard because you're doing it right.”
60. “I’m trying to strip myself down to my barest essentials so I can figure out where I begin and where the woman the world told me to be begins. I’m going back to the starting line.”
61. “She said, “Yes, everyone you love would be uncomfortable for a long while, maybe. What is better: uncomfortable truth or comfortable lies? Every truth is a kindness, even if it makes others uncomfortable. Every untruth is an unkindness, even if it makes others comfortable.” I said,”
62. “People who are hurting don’t need avoiders, protectors, or fixers. What we need are patient, loving witnesses. People to sit quietly and hold space for us. People to stand in helpful vigil to our pain.”
63. “Self-love means that I have a relationship with myself built on trust and loyalty. I trust myself to have my own back, so my allegiance is to the voice within. ” — Glennon Doyle
64. “Every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. ”
65. “Since brokenness is the way of folks, the only way to live peacefully is to forgive everyone constantly, including yourself.”
66. “I think one of the keys to happiness is accepting that I am never going to be perfectly happy. ”
67. Love is the opposite of control, Love demands trust. -Glennon Doyle
68. “The only meaningful thing we can offer one another is love. Not advice, not questions about our choices, not suggestions for the future, just love. ” — Glennon Doyle
69. “To be alive is to be in a perpetual state of revolution. Whether I like it or not, pain is the fuel of revolution. Everything I need to become the woman I’m meant to be next is inside my feelings of now. Life is alchemy, and emotions are the fire that turns me to gold.”
70. “What I thought would kill me, didn’t. Every time I said to myself: I can’t take this anymore — I was wrong. The truth was that I could and did take it all — and I kept surviving. Surviving again and again made me less afraid of myself, of other people, of life.”
71. “We only control what we don’t trust. ”
72. “Be careful with the stories you tell about yourself.”
73. “We can either control our selves or love our selves, but we can’t do both. ”
74. “I numbed myself with food and booze trying to control my anger. When I quit, I learned that my anger never meant that there was something wrong with me. It meant that there was something wrong. Out there. Something I might have the power to change. I stopped being a quiet peacekeeper and started being a loud peacemaker. My anger was good.
75. “It’s nearly impossible to blaze one’s own path while following in someone else’s footsteps. ”
76. Judgment is self-abandonment.
77. “It is a blessing to know a free woman. Sometimes she will stop by and hold up a mirror for you. She will help you remember who you are.” — Glennon Doyle
78. “There is no one way to live, love, raise children, arrange a family, run a school, a community, a nation. ”
79. “When choosing between something you Know and something other people taught you to believe, choose what you Know.”
80. “You do not have to agree with me to love me.”
81. Grief is love’s souvenir. It’s our proof that we once loved.
82. “We forget how to know when we learned how to please.”
83. “The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that there was something wrong with me. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
84. “Recovery is unbecoming. My healing has been a peeling away of costume after costume until here I am, still and naked before God, stripped down to my real identity.”
85. “Listen. Every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job, throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.”
86. “Because love is not something for which to search or wait or hope or dream. Its simply something to do. ”
87. “The culture depends on the sensitivity of a few, because nothing can be healed if it’s not sensed first.”
88. “I’ll not abandon myself. Not ever again. Me and myself: We are till death do us part. We’ll forsake all others to remain whole. I unbecame a woman who believed that another would complete me when I decided that I was born complete.”
89. “I’m nothing if not a tangled, colorful ball of contradictions. ”
90. “I will not stay, not ever again—in a room or conversation or relationship or institution that requires me to abandon myself. ”
91. “Here's my hunch: nobody's secure, and nobody feels like she completely belongs. Those insecurities are just job hazards of being human. But some people dance anyway, and those people have more fun. ”
92. “When we call martyrdom love we teach our children that when love begins, life ends. This is why Jung suggested: There is no greater burden on a child than the unlived life of a parent.”
93. “Why do women find it honorable to dismiss ourselves? Why do we decide that denying our longing is the responsible thing to do? Why do we believe that what will thrill and fulfill us will hurt our people?”
94. “I realized that imagination is not just the catalyst of art, it’s also the catalyst of compassion. Imagination is the shortest distance between two people, two cultures, two ideologies, two experiences.”
95. Being fully human is not about feeling happy, it’s about feeling everything.
96. “Here’s my hunch: Nobody’s secure, and nobody feels like she completely belongs. Those insecurities are just job hazards of being human. But some people dance anyway, and those people have more fun.”
97. “There isn’t anyone who isn’t recovering from something. Alcohol, drugs, over-eating, perfectionism, anxiety, unkindness, something. ”
98. “If depression feels like sinking below, anxiety is a shaky hovering above.... Anxiety is feeling terrified about my lack of control over anything, and obsessing is my antidote.”
99. “The truest, most beautiful life never promises to be an easy one. We need to let go of the lie that it’s supposed to be. ”
100. All the devil has to do to win is convince you he’s God.
101. “Being human is not hard because you're doing it wrong, it's hard because you're doing it right. ”
102. “I have learned that if I want to rise, I have to sink first. I have to search for and depend upon the voice of inner wisdom instead of voices of outer approval. This saves me from living someone else’s life. It also saves me a hell of a lot of time and energy.”
103. “We look at our lives and wonder: Wasn’t it all supposed to be more beautiful than this? We quickly silence that question, telling ourselves to be grateful, hiding our discontent — even from ourselves.”
104. “Life is brutal, but it’s also beautiful. Life is Brutiful. ” — Glennon Doyle
105. Maybe there is no way for love to fail, because the eventual result of all love is New Life.
106. “These things will be hard to do, but you can do hard things. ”
107. “Privilege is being born on third base. Ignorant privilege is thinking you’re there because you hit a triple. Malicious privilege is complaining that those starving outside the ballpark aren’t waiting patiently enough.”
108. “Suffering is what happens when we avoid pain and consequently miss our becoming.”
109. The truest, most beautiful life never promises to be an easy one. We need to let go of the lie that it’s supposed to be.
110. “Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyways” Untamed quote print.
111. “If you sit with what pisses you off and breaks your heart, that will be a big red arrow pointing you towards purpose. ”
112. “When a woman finally learns that pleasing the world is impossible, she becomes free to learn how to please herself. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
113. “Be careful with the stories you tell about yourself. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
114. “Every life is an unprecedented experiment. This life is mine alone. So I have stopped asking people for directions to places they’ve never been.”
115. “Sometimes being brave requires letting the crowd thing you're a coward. Sometimes being brave means letting everyone down but yourself.”
116. I wondered if joy had as much to teach me as pain did. If so, I wanted to know.
117. “You can never get enough of what you don’t need. ”
118. Because love is not something for which to search or wait or hope or dream. It's simply something to do.
119. “Revelation must come before revolution.”
120. “Pain is mandatory for all of us. It’s what teaches us. Suffering is what's optional. That's what happens when we try to skip over the pain.” — Glennon Doyle
121. To be brave is to forsake all others to be true to yourself. That is the vow of a confident girl
122. This is the most revolutionary thing a woman can do: the next precise thing, one thing at a time, without asking permission or offering explanation
123. “The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that there was something wrong with me.”
124. “Life is a quest to find an unfindable thing. We are put here needing something that doesn’t exist here. ”
125. Having something to say and no one to hear it is so lonely.
126. I have to search for and depend upon the voice of inner wisdom instead of voices of outer approval
127. “Life is alchemy, and emotions are the fire that turns me to gold. I will continue to become only if I resist extinguishing myself a million times a day. If I can sit in the fire of my own feelings, I will keep becoming. ” – Glennon Doyle, Untamed
128. “So what is it in a human life that creates bravery, kindness, wisdom, and resilience? What if it’s pain? What if it’s the struggle?”
129. “Grief and pain are like joy and peace; they are not things we should try to snatch from each other. They’re sacred. ”
130. We are so afraid of dying. Also of living.
131. “I understand myself differently now. I was just a caged girl made for wide-open skies.”
132. “We are so afraid of dying. Also of living. ”
133. “If you are uncomfortable—in deep pain, angry, yearning, confused—you don’t have a problem, you have a life. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
134. Why does a woman’s neutral face mean anger, while a man’s neutral face means neutral?
135. You will never change the fact that being human is hard, so you must change your idea that it was ever supposed to be easy
136. Here is the world. Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Don’t be afraid
137. Grief shatters. If you let yourself shatter and then you put yourself back together, piece by piece, you wake up one day and realize that you have been completely reassembled.
138. “As an LGBTQ+ entrepreneur, real estate investor, former USA Rugby Player, and fitness fanatic, I’ll teach you what your parents and teachers should’ve taught you, but didn’t know themselves.” -Cade Hildreth
139. “But good enough is what makes people drink too much and snark too much and become bitter and sick and live in quiet desperation until they lie on their deathbed and wonder: What kind of life/relationship/family/world might I have created if I’d been braver?”
140. “The building of the true and beautiful means the destruction of the good enough.”
141. When you write your truth, it is a love offering to the world because it helps us feel braver and less alone.
142. “Grief is a cocoon from which we emerge new. ”
143. “When reentering society and risking rejection, the library is a good place to start. They have low expectations. I love the library. Also church. Both have to take you in. ”
144. “Reading is my inhale and writing is my exhale. ”
145. “You are not crazy. You are a goddamn cheetah.”
146. “Privilege is being born on third base. Ignorant privilege is thinking you’re there because you hit a triple. Malicious privilege is complaining that those starving outside the ballpark aren’t waiting patiently enough. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
147. “No woman on earth doesn’t give a f*ck — no woman is that cool —she’s just hidden her fire. Likely, it’s burning her up. ”
148. “When I see a joyful, confident woman moving through the world with swagger, I’m going to forgive myself for my first reaction because it’s not my fault, it’s just my conditioning. First reaction: Who the hell does she think she is? Second reaction: She knows she’s a goddamn cheetah. Halle-fucking-lujah.”
149. “What if pain — like love — is just a place brave people visit?”
150. “The voice I finally heard that day was my own--the girl I'd locked away at ten years old, the girl I was before the world told me who to be--and she said: Here I am. I'm taking over now.”
151. “If grace isn’t shocking and countercultural and scandalous and a little ridiculous, then it’s not grace.”
152. “We’re like snow globes: We spend all of our time, energy, words, and money creating a flurry, trying not to know, making sure that the snow doesn’t settle so we never have to face the fiery truth inside us – solid and unmoving.”
153. “I am confident because I believe that I am a child of God. I am humble because I believe that everyone else is too. ”
154. “It's just that living with anxiety - living alarmed - makes it impossible to enter the moment, to land inside my body and be there. I cannot be in the moment because I am too afraid of what the next moment will bring. I have to be ready. ”
155. “There is no glory except straight through your story.”
156. Privilege is being born on third base. Ignorant privilege is thinking you’re there because you hit a triple. Malicious privilege is complaining that those starving outside the ballpark aren’t waiting patiently enough
157. “Every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else.”
158. “All the devil has to do to win is convince you he’s God.”
159. “Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world. Every girl must decide to settle for adoration or fight for love.”
160. “Grief is love's souvenir. It's our proof that we once loved. Grief is the receipt we wave in the air that says to the world: Look! Love was once mine. I love well. Here is my proof that I paid the price. ”
161. “I am a sensitive, introverted woman, which means that I love humanity but actual human beings are tricky for me. I love people but not in person. For example, I would die for you but not, like… meet you for coffee. I became a writer so I could stay at home alone in my pajamas, reading and writing about the importance of human connection and community.”
162. “The amazing thing about love and attention and encouragement and grace and success and joy is that these things are infinite. We get a new supply every single morning, and so we can give it away all day. We never, ever have to monitor the supply of others or grab or hoard. ”
163. “Every time you’re given the choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else.”
164. “Pain is mandatory for all of us. It’s what teaches us. Suffering is what's optional. That's what happens when we try to skip over the pain.”
165. “Your job, throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.”
166. “Your body is not your art — it's your paintbrush. Whether your paintbrush is a tall paintbrush or a thin paintbrush or a stocky paintbrush or a scratched-up paintbrush is completely irrelevant.”
167. It’s not: I love you no matter which of my expectations you meet or don’t meet. It’s: My only expectation is that you become yourself. The more deeply I know you, the more beautiful you become to me.
168. “Now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good. And now that we don’t have to be good, we can be free.”
169. “Bring all of yourself to life. And if you’re told you’re ‘too much’ – smile and think: Maybe. Or maybe their capacity is too small?”
170. “The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that there was something wrong with me
171. The anxiety that makes it difficult to exist in my own skin also makes it difficult to exist in a world where so may people are in so much pain - and that makes me a relentless activist.
172. “I used to numb my feelings and hide. Now I feel my feelings and share. ” — Glennon Doyle
173. We don’t understand why we hurt those we love.
174. “Since it doesn’t use words to explain itself to me, I quit using words to explain myself to the world. This is the most revolutionary thing a woman can do: the next precise thing, one thing at a time, without asking permission or offering explanation. This way of life is thrilling.”
175. “When you write your truth, it is a love offering to the world because it helps us feel braver and less alone. ”
176. “The truest, most beautiful life never promises to be an easy one.”
177. “Kind people are brave people. Brave is not something you should wait to feel. Brave is a decision. It is a decision that compassion is more important than fear, than fitting in, than following the crowd. ”
178. “Pain is not tragic. Pain is magic. Suffering is tragic. Suffering is what happens when we avoid pain and consequently miss our own becoming. That is what I can and must avoid — missing my own evolution because I am too afraid to surrender to the process.”
179. “You are here to decide if your life, relationships and world are true and beautiful enough for you. And if they are not and you dare to admit they are not, you must decide if you have the guts, the right—perhaps even the duty—to burn to the ground that which is not true and beautiful enough and get started building what is. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
180. “Freedom is not being for or against an ideal, but creating your own existence from scratch.” — Glennon Doyle
181. “When we free our wild, that frees other people to free themselves too. ”
182. “Sometimes to live again, we have to let ourselves die completely. We have to let ourselves become completely, utterly new. When grief rings, surrender. There is nothing else to do. The delivery is utter transformation.”
183. We are all bilingual. We speak the language of indoctrination, but our native tongue is the language of imagination.
184. I think one of the keys to happiness is accepting that I am never going to be perfectly happy.
185. “Everything I need to become the woman I'm meant to be next is inside my feelings of now.”
186. The beauty industry convinces us that our thighs, frizz, skin, fingernails, lips, eyelashes, leg hair, and wrinkles are repulsive and must be covered and manipulated, so we learn to not trust the bodies we live in
187. “I’m not big on advice, mainly because most days I learn what an idiot I was yesterday. ”
188. “Loves, listen to me: The wounded become the healers. Your pain will not be wasted. Trust it. Be brave enough to be still in it and you’ll learn that your pain will NOT consume you. It will become the fire you burn to light and warm the world. ”
189. The change that happens to people who really sit in their pain -- whether it's a sliver of envy lasting an hour or a canyon of grief lasting decades -- it's revolutionary.
190. “I’m willing to lose anything that requires me to hide any part of myself. ”
191. “We can do hard things.” — Glennon Doyle
192. I decided that if I kept doing the 'right' thing, I would spend my life following someone else's directions instead of my own.
193. “We weren’t born distrusting and fearing ourselves. That was part of our taming. We were taught to believe that who we are in our natural state is bad and dangerous. ”
194. “There is a life meant for you that is truer than the one you’re living. But in order to have it, you will have to forge it yourself. You will have to create on the outside what you are imagining on the inside. Only you can bring it forth. And it will cost you everything.”
195. “Judgment is self-abandonment. ”
196. Courage says, “I will not let the fact that I cannot do everything keep me from doing what I can.
197. “When we hand our children phones we steal their boredom from them. We are raising kids with commodified views of sex, lack of real connection, filtered concepts of what it means to be human. As a result we are raising a generation of writers who will never write, artists who will never doodle, chefs who will never make a mess of the kitchen.”
198. “No Fear In. No Fear Out. Only Love In. Only Love Out.”
199. “It takes special bravery to honor yourself when the crowd is pressuring you not to. It’s easier just to give in. You didn’t give in to the crowd today. You stood strong in what you felt and knew. To me, that’s the greatest bravery. That’s true confidence, which means loyalty to self.”
200. “The truest, most beautiful life never promises to be an easy one. We need to let go of the lie that it’s supposed to be.”
201. I see your fear, and it’s big, I also see your courage, and it’s bigger, we can do hard things. -Glennon Doyle
202. “Perhaps imagination is not where we go to escape reality but where we go to remember it.”
203. “Human qualities are not gendered. What is gendered is permission to express certain traits. Why? Why would our culture prescribe such strict gender roles? And why would it be so important for our culture to label all tenderness and mercy as feminine?”
204. “When one is burying a dream, one might as well plant another dream. ”
205. It’s okay to feel all of the stuff you’re feeling. You’re just becoming human again.
206. “Expecting less than true friendship in my most important relationship is so depressing. ”
207. “I'm willing to lose anything that requires me to hide any part of myself.”
208. “The culture depends on the sensitivity of a few because nothing can be healed if it's not sensed first.”
209. Our hearts will stay light and open with lots of room for good new things to come. ”
210. “Understand and like you; others won’t. But the way others respond to your confidence is not your business. Your business is to stay loyal to you.”
211. “Loving fiercely and grieving deeply are often two halves of the same whole. ”
212. “If you wish me well but vote against my family being protected by the law, you do not love me. Thank you for understanding that to love me as yourself means to want for me and for my family every good thing you want for yourself and your family.”
213. “Each day, we’re making sandcastles I know will be washed away. I long for something solid, lasting, strong between us. ”
214. “The epitome of womanhood is to lose one’s self completely. Because a very effective way to control women is to convince women to control themselves.”
215. “I stopped being a quiet peacekeeper and started being a loud peacemaker. My anger was good.”
216. “I am here to keep becoming truer, more beautiful versions of myself again and again forever. To be alive is to be in a perpetual state of revolution.”
217. “The miracle of grace is that you can give what you have never gotten.”
218. “Hard work is important. So are play and non productivity. My worth is tied not to my productivity but to my existence. I am worthy of rest. ”
219. “Service and art are the two things that have saved me. ” — Glennon Doyle
220. “We only control what we don’t trust.”
221. “Life is a conversation. Make it a good one.”
222. I wondered if joy had as much to teach me as pain did. If so, I wanted to know
223. “What if the call of motherhood is not to be a martyr but to be a model?”
224. “Gotta uncover before you can recover.”
225. Every life is an unprecedented experiment.
226. I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.
227. “I was wild until I was tamed by shame.”
228. “These things will be hard, but you can do hard things. ”
229. I remain compelled by the Jesus story. Not as history meant to reveal what happened long ago, but as poetry meant to illuminate a revolutionary idea powerful enough to heal and free humanity now.
230. “I learned that I need to move toward the pain. Pain doesn’t go away. If you don’t embrace it, it will be passed onto someone else, usually those around you. ” — Glennon Doyle
231. “No woman on earth doesn’t give a f*ck — no woman is that cool —she’s just hidden her fire. Likely, it’s burning her up.”
232. Being human is not hard because you’re doing it wrong, it’s hard because you’re doing it right
233. “I just think there are as many different versions of feminism as there are women. ” — Glennon Doyle
234. “You are not here to waste your time deciding whether my life is true and beautiful enough for you. You are here to decide if your life, relationships, and world are true and beautiful enough for you.”
235. “I’m not a mess but a deeply feeling person in a messy world. I explain that now, when someone asks me why I cry so often, I say, ‘For the same reason I laugh so often — because I’m paying attention. ’ I tell them that we can choose to be perfect and admired or to be real and loved. We must decide. ”
236. It’s nearly impossible to blaze one’s own path while following in someone else’s footsteps
237. If you are uncomfortable, in deep pain, angry, yearning, confused, you don’t have a problem, you have a life. -Glennon Doyle
238. “I think of love and marriage in the same way I do plants — We have perennials and annuals. The perennial plant blooms, goes away, and comes back. The annual blooms for just a season, and then winter arrives and takes it out for good. But it's still enriched the soil for the next flower to bloom. In the same way, no love is wasted.”
239. “To be alive is to be in a perpetual state of revolution. Whether I like it or not, pain is the fuel of revolution.”
240. “Nobody is more ready to show up than anybody else. It’s just that some people show up before they’re perfect and before they’re ready. ” — Glennon Doyle
241. “Life is not safe, and so our task is not to promise our kids there will be no turbulence. It’s to assure them that when the turbulence comes, we will all hold hands and get through it together.” — Glennon Doyle
242. “You are not here to waste your time deciding whether my life is true and beautiful enough for you. You are here to decide if your life, relationships, and world are true and beautiful enough for you.” — Glennon Doyle
243. I will not let the fact that I cannot do everything keep me from doing what I can.
244. “I've only begun the work that needs to be done here. Not yet, the voice says. Not yet. See this through. Unbecome, Glennon. Unbecome until you uncover who you really are. ”
245. “I have met myself and I am going to care for her fiercely. ”
246. “If you are uncomfortable — in deep pain, angry, yearning, confused — you don't have a problem, you have a life. Being human is not hard because you're doing it wrong, it's hard because you're doing it right. You will never change the fact that being human is hard, so you must change your idea that it was ever supposed to be easy.”
247. “You do not have to agree with me to love me. ”
248. All the devil has to do to win is convince you he’s God
249. “We are all bilingual. We speak the language of indoctrination, but our native tongue is the language of imagination.”
250. “When we let ourselves feel, our inner self transforms. When we act upon our Knowing and imagination, our outer worlds transform. Destruction is essential to reconstruction.”
251. “It’s ok to feel too much and know too little. ” — Glennon Doyle
252. “Love is the opposite of control. Love demands trust.”
253. Grief shatters. If you let yourself shatter and then you put yourself back together, piece by piece, you wake up one day and realize that you have been completely reassembled. You are whole again, and strong, but you are suddenly a new shape, a new size
254. “I don’t think that gayness is contagious. But I am certain that freedom is.”
255. “Here is the world. Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Don’t be afraid.” — Glennon Doyle
256. The blueprints of heaven are etched in the deep desires of women.
257. “Glennon Doyle” by “OSC Admin“, licensed under CC BY-NC 2.0
258. “Being fully human is not about feeling happy, it's about feeling everything.”
259. “Trusting people is terrifying. Maybe if love is not a little scary and out of our control, then it is not love at all. It is wild to let others be wild. ”
260. “The most revolutionary thing a woman can do is not explain herself.”
261. “A woman becomes a responsible parent when she stops being an obedient daughter” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
262. “When a woman finally learns that pleasing the world is impossible, she becomes free to learn how to please herself.”
263. “You are not supposed to be happy all the time. Life hurts and it’s hard. Not because you’re doing it wrong, but because it hurts for everybody. Don’t avoid the pain. You need it. It’s meant for you. Be still with it, let it come, let it go, let it leave you with the fuel you’ll burn to get your work done on this earth. ” — Glennon Doyle
264. “What if pain – like love – is just a place where brave people visit?”
265. “This is the most revolutionary thing a woman can do: the next precise thing, one thing at a time, without asking permission or offering explanation. This way of life is thrilling.”
266. “Life is alchemy, and emotions are the fire that turns me to gold. I will continue to become only if I resist extinguishing myself a million times a day. If I can sit in the fire of my own feelings, I will keep becoming.”
267. “Books are how I learned to disappear, to live in a world other than the uncomfortable physical one. ”
268. “Life is hard—not because we’re doing it wrong, just because it’s hard. ” — Glennon Doyle
269. “If you are uncomfortable—in deep pain, angry, yearning, confused—you don’t have a problem, you have a life. Being human is not hard because you’re doing it wrong, it’s hard because you’re doing it right.”
270. “Every beautiful thing in life comes out of the mess.”
271. “An activist is anybody who, inside their life, family, or community, sees something that needs to change and acts on it.”
272. Be careful with the stories you tell about yourself.
273. There is no one way to live, love, raise children, arrange a family, run a school, a community, a nation
274. “The truest, most beautiful life never promises to be an easy one. We need to let go of the lie that it's supposed to be.”
275. “It’s just that living with anxiety – living alarmed – makes it impossible to enter the moment, to land inside my body and be there. I cannot be in the moment because I am too afraid of what the next moment will bring. I have to be ready.”
276. Blessed are those brave enough to make things awkward, for they wake us up and move us forward
277. “My courage comes from knowing I can handle whatever I encounter. I was born to do this. ”
278. “A broken family is a family in which any member must break herself into pieces to fit in. A whole family is one in which each member can bring her full self to the table knowing that she will always be both held and free.” (Untamed Quotes)
279. I became a writer so I could stay at home alone in my pajamas, reading and writing about the importance of human connection and community. It is an almost perfect existence.
280. “What if in skipping the pain, I was missing my lesson?”
281. “The braver I am, the luckier I get.”
282. “If no pain, then no love. If no darkness, no light. If no risk, then no reward. It’s all or nothing. In this damn world, it’s all or nothing
283. “There is no such thing as bad weather, only different kinds of good weather.” — John Ruskin
284. Healing is not the reward for those who love the most or best.
285. “Life is brutal, but it’s also beautiful. Life is Beautiful. ”
286. “If you are uncomfortable — in deep pain, angry, yearning, confused — you don’t have a problem, you have a life. Being human is not hard because you’re doing it wrong, it’s hard because you’re doing it right. ”
287. “These things will be hard, but you can do hard things. ” — Glennon Doyle
288. “There is no greater burden on a child than the unlived life of a parent.”
289. The thing that gets me thinking and questioning most deeply is a leader who warns me not to think or question
290. What if pain – like love – is just a place where brave people visit?
291. Rebellion is as much of a cage as obedience is. They both mean living in reaction to someone else’s way instead of forging your own.
292. “These things will be hard to do, but you can do hard things
293. “We forgot how to know when we learned how to please. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
294. “Because love is not something for which to search or wait or hope or dream. It’s simply something to do.”
295. “Reading is my inhale and writing is my exhale. ” — Glennon Doyle
296. “Life is hard — not because we’re doing it wrong, just because it’s hard.”
297. “When a child got sick, it was assumed that she was broken. We didn’t yet understand that many sick children are canaries in coal mines, passively inhaling toxins in the air of their families or cultures or both. So I was separated, sent away to therapists and doctors who tried to fix me instead of trying to fix the toxins I was breathing.”
298. I have learned that if I want to rise, I have to sink first. -Glennon Doyle
299. “I hated writing ‘Love Warrior. ’ It’s the hardest thing I’ve every written. I cried so much. ”
300. “I am a human being, meant to be in perpetual becoming. If I am living bravely, my entire life will become a million deaths and rebirths. ”
301. “Be critical, fine, that’s fair. But don’t be cruel. Every damn one of us knows the difference. ”
302. “Life is hard—not because we’re doing it wrong, just because it’s hard. ”
303. I’m willing to lose anything that requires me to hide any part of myself.
304. “If I want to know: Is there anyone on earth who won’t betray me? I must answer myself: Yes. Look in the mirror. She won’t betray you. ”
305. “Every life is an unprecedented experiment. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
306. “We have to be gentle with ourselves.”
307. My children do not need me to save them, My children need to watch me save myself. -Glennon Doyle
308. “Your river is strong. Let it flow. ”
309. “It’s nearly impossible to blaze one’s own path while following in someone else’s footsteps.”
310. You are not crazy. You are a goddamn cheetah
311. “The warrior knows that her heartbreak is her map. ”
312. “First: I can feel everything and survive.
313. The truest, most beautiful life never promises to be an easy one, We need to let go of the lie that it’s supposed to be. -Glennon Doyle
314. “I understand now that I’m not a mess, but a deeply feeling person in a messy world. I explain that now when someone asks me why I cry so often: “For the same reason I laugh so often – because I’m paying attention. ” — Glennon Doyle
315. A woman who is full of herself knows and trusts herself enough to say and do what must be done. She lets the rest burn.
316. You can never get enough of what you don’t need.
317. “Mothers have martyred themselves in their children’s names since the beginning of time. We have lived as if she who disappears the most, loves the most. We have been conditioned to prove our love by slowly ceasing to exist.
318. There is no one way to live, love, raise children, arrange a family, run a school, a community, a nation. The norms were created by somebody, and each of us is somebody. We can make our own normal
319. Numbness keeps us from becoming.
320. “Mothers have martyred themselves in their children’s names since the beginning of time.”
321. “DROPPING KEYS The small woman Builds cages for everyone She Knows. While the sage, Who has to duck her head When the moon is low, Keeps dropping keys all night long For the Beautiful Rowdy Prisoners. —HAFIZ”
322. “There is beauty to be found in the pain. Life is brutal, but it’s also beautiful. Life is Brutiful. ”
323. “What if we used our mothering love less like a laser, burning holes into the children assigned to us, and more like the sun, making sure all kids are warm?”
324. Whether you are brave or not cannot be judged by people on the outside. Sometimes being brave requires letting the crowd think you’re a coward. Sometimes being brave means letting everyone down but yourself
325. Selfless women make for an efficient society but not a beautiful, true, or just one.
326. Our judgment is self-protection; it’s a cage we put around ourselves. We hope it will keep danger out, but it only keeps tenderness and empathy from coming in
327. “I learned that I’d never be free from pain but I could be free from the fear of pain, and that was enough.”
328. Love is not a victory march; it’s a cold and it’s a broken hallelujah.
329. “What a terrible burden for children to bear—to know that they are the reason their mother stopped living.”
330. “My courage will come from knowing I can handle whatever I encounter there — because I was designed by my creator to not only survive pain and love but also to become whole inside it. I was born to do this. I am a warrior.”
331. “Being human is not hard because you’re doing it wrong, it’s hard because you’re doing it right.”
332. “Bring all of yourself to life. And if you’re told you’re ‘too much’ – smile and think: Maybe. Or maybe their capacity is too small?” — Glennon Doyle
333. “Your body is nature, and nature is pure. I know that’s hard for you to accept because you have been at war with your body for so long. You think your body is bad, but it is not. It’s wise. Your body will tell you things your mind will talk you out of. Your body is telling you what direction life is in. Try trusting it.”
334. When a woman finally learns that pleasing the world is impossible, she becomes free to learn how to please herself. -Glennon Doyle
335. Being human is not hard because you’re doing it wrong, it’s hard because you’re doing it right.
336. “Don’t let yourself become so concerned with raising a good kid that you forget you already have one.”
337. Here’s to The Untamed:
338. This life is mine alone. So I have stopped asking people for directions to places they've never been. There is no map. We are all pioneers.
339. “I will not stay — not ever again — in a room or conversation or relationship or institution that requires me to abandon myself. ”
340. “People aren’t changing, after all. It’s just that for the first time, there’s enough freedom for people to stop changing who they are.”
341. “I have decided that I want to be in love with a person, not a feeling. I want to be found in love, not lost in it. I’d rather exist than disappear.”
342. “We forgot how to know when we learned how to please. ” – Glennon Doyle, Untamed
343. The thing that gets me thinking and questioning most deeply is a leader who warns me not to think or question. -Glennon Doyle
344. “To me, this is exciting, because discontent is the nagging of the imagination. Discontent is evidence that your imagination has not given up on you. It is still pressing, swelling, trying to get your attention by whispering: “Not this.”
345. “Every beautiful thing in life comes out of the mess. ”
346. My children do not need me to save them. My children need to watch me save myself.
347. The truest, most beautiful life never promises to be an easy one. We need to let go of the lie that it’s supposed to be
348. It is wild to let others be wild.
349. Nothing you can ever do will make me love you more, and nothing you can ever do will make me love you less.
350. We know we must decide whether to stay small, quiet, and uncomplicated or allow ourselves to grow as big, loud, and complex as we were made to be.
351. “Imagination is how personal and worldwide revolutions begin. “I have a dream,” said Martin Luther King, Jr. “Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning,” said Gloria Steinem.”
352. “Defensiveness is for people who are afraid that what they have can be taken from them.”
353. “There is no greater burden on a child than the unlived life of a parent. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
354. Every time you pretend to be less than you are, you steal permission from other women to exist fully.
355. “No woman on earth doesn’t give a fuck — no woman is that cool —she’s just hidden her fire. Likely, it’s burning her up.”
356. If I am living bravely, my entire life will become a million deaths and rebirths.
357. “The journey is learning that pain, like love, is simply something to surrender to. It’s a holy space we can enter with people only if we promise not to tidy up. ” — Glennon Doyle
358. “while rock bottom feels like the end—it’s always the beginning of something. I knew that this was the moment I’d either relapse with a couple shots of self-pity and resignation, or I’d double down on my racial sobriety and carry on. I told myself: Breathe. Don’t panic and flee. Sink. Feel it all. Be Still. Imagine. Let it burn.”
359. “Now when I feel lost, I remember that I am not the woods. I am my own tree. So I return to myself and reinhabit myself. As I do, I feel my chin rise and my body straighten.”
360. Hard work is important. So are play and nonproductivity. My worth is tied not to my productivity but to my existence. I am worthy of rest
361. “The journey is learning that pain, like love, is simply something to surrender to. It’s a holy space we can enter with people only if we promise not to tidy up. ”
362. “I have learned that if I want to rise, I have to sink first. I have to search for and depend upon the voice of inner wisdom instead of voices of outer approval.”
363. “What if pain—like love—is just a place brave people visit?
364. “We have to get back into our own bodies and figure out what the hell we want to do. And then the next step is doing it without explaining ourselves. ”
365. “The Ache is not a flaw. The Ache is our meeting place. It's the clubhouse of the brave. All the lovers are there. It is where you go alone to meet the world. The Ache is love.”
366. “You are here to decide if your life, relationships, and world are true and beautiful enough for you. And if they are not and you dare to admit they are not, you must decide if you have the guts, the right — perhaps even the duty — to burn to the ground that which is not true and beautiful enough and get started building what is.” — Glennon Doyle
367. “The opposite of sensitive is not brave. It’s not brave to refuse to pay attention, to refuse to notice, to refuse to feel and know and imagine. The opposite of sensitive is insensitive, and that’s no badge of honor.”
368. People aren’t changing, after all. It’s just that for the first time, there’s enough freedom for people to stop changing who they are
369. “We don’t understand why we hurt those we love. ” – Glennon Doyle, Untamed
370. “Life is a conversation. Make it a good one. ”
371. “Ten is when we learn how to be good girls and real boys. Ten is when children begin to hide who they are in order to become what the world expects them to be.”
372. “You have to turn your head to see peripheral miracles.”
373. “A broken family is a family in which any member must break herself into pieces to fit in. A whole family is one in which each member can bring her full self to the table knowing that she will always be both held and free.”
374. Despair says, 'The heartbreak is too overwhelming. I am too sad and too small, and the world is too big. I cannot do it all, so I will do nothing.'
375. “Here is the world. Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Don’t be afraid. ”
376. When a woman finally learns that pleasing the world is impossible, she becomes free to learn how to please herself
377. “What is better: uncomfortable truth or comfortable lies? Every truth is a kindness, even if it makes others uncomfortable. Every untruth is an unkindness, even if it makes others comfortable.
378. “Blessed are those brave enough to make things awkward, for they wake us up and move us forward.”
379. This life is mine alone. So I have stopped asking people for directions to places they’ve never been.
380. “We are mugs filled to the brim, and we keep getting bumped. If we are filled with coffee, coffee will spill out. If we are filled with tea, tea will spill out. Getting bumped is inevitable. If we want to change what spills out of us, we have to work to change what’s inside of us.”
381. A boundary is the edge of one of our root beliefs about ourselves and the world.
382. “Treat yourself like someone you love. ”
383. “Maybe the yes comes before the readiness. Maybe you say yes and then you become equipped to handle whatever is about to happen. ” — Glennon Doyle
384. “People will like me or not, but being liked is not my One Thing; integrity is…I’m willing to lose anything that requires me to hide any part of myself. ” – Glennon Doyle, Untamed
385. I do not adjust myself to please the world. I am myself wherever I am, and I let the world adjust.
386. “Since brokenness is the way of folks, the only way to live peacefully is to forgive everyone constantly, including yourself. ”
387. “If you keep living with confidence, the rest of your life will unfold exactly as it is meant to. It won’t always be comfortable. Some will recognize your brave; others won’t. Some will.”
388. “Kind people are brave people. Brave is not something you should wait to feel. Brave is a decision. It is a decision that compassion is more important than fear, than fitting in, than following the crowd.”
389. “Our culture was built upon and benefits from the control of women. The way power justifies controlling a group is by conditioning the masses to believe that the group cannot be trusted. So the campaign to convince us to mistrust women begins early and comes from everywhere. ”
390. “Brave means living from the inside out. Brave means, in every uncertain moment, turning inward, feeling for the Knowing, and speaking it out loud. ”
391. I cannot be in the moment because I am too afraid of what the next moment will bring. I have to be ready.
392. “If you are uncomfortable — in deep pain, angry, yearning, confused — you don’t have a problem, you have a life. Being human is not hard because you’re doing it wrong, it’s hard because you’re doing it right.”
393. “Maybe Eve was never meant to be our warning. Maybe she was meant to be our model.
394. “Because love is not something for which to search or wait or hope or dream. It’s simply something to do. ”
395. “All of the beliefs that anger delivers come with a return label.”
396. Freedom is not being for or against an ideal, but creating your own existence from scratch.
397. “Life is a conversation. Make it a good one.” — Glennon Doyle
398. “The boys looked inside themselves. The girls looked outside themselves. We forgot how to know when we learned how to please. This is why we live hungry.”
399. “Brave means living from the inside out. Brave means, in every uncertain moment, turning inward, feeling for the Knowing, and speaking it out loud.”
400. Blessed are those brave enough to make things awkward, for they wake us up and move us forward.
401. “This is why they call it falling in love, because there is suddenly no solid ground beneath you anymore.”
402. “We are here to fully introduce ourselves, to impose ourselves and ideas and thoughts and dreams onto the world, leaving it changed forever by who we are and what we bring forth from our depths. So we cannot contort ourselves to fit into the visible order. We must unleash ourselves and watch the world reorder itself in front of our eyes.”
403. The truest, most beautiful life never promises to be an easy one.”
404. “Consumer culture promises us that we can buy our way out of pain—that the reason we’re sad and angry is not that being human hurts; it’s because we don’t have those countertops, her thighs, these jeans. This is a clever way to run an economy, but it is no way to run a life.”
405. “I think one of the keys to happiness is accepting that I am never going to be perfectly happy.”
406. The facts were right there in front of me to see. But the truth was right there inside of me to feel
407. “Life is not safe, and so our task is not to promise our kids there will be no turbulence. It’s to assure them that when the turbulence comes, we will all hold hands and get through it together.”
408. “Forgiveness does not mean access. We can give the other person the gift of forgiveness and ourselves the gift of safety and freedom at the very same time.”
409. “I’m not a mess but a deeply feeling person in a messy world. I explain that now, when someone asks me why I cry so often, I say, ‘For the same reason I laugh so often — because I'm paying attention.’ I tell them that we can choose to be perfect and admired or to be real and loved. We must decide.” — Glennon Doyle
410. “A woman becomes a responsible parent when she stops being an obedient daughter”
411. “What is it that affects you so deeply that whenever you encounter it, you feel the need to look away? Look there. Where is the pain in the world that you just cannot stand? Stand there. The thing that breaks your heart is the very thing you were born to help heal. Every world changer's work begins with a broken heart.”
412. “I learned that you can break a child's heart without breaking a child.”
413. “Don’t let yourself become so concerned with raising a good kid that you forget you already have one. ”
414. “Grief is love’s souvenir. It’s our proof that we once loved. Grief is the receipt we wave in the air that says to the world — ‘Look! Love was once mine. I love well. Here is my proof that I paid the price.’”
415. “People who are hurting don’t need Avoiders, Protectors, or Fixers. What we need are patient, loving witness. People to sit quietly and hold space for us. People to stand in helpful vigil to our pain. ”
416. “Maybe Eve was never meant to be our warning. Maybe she was meant to be our model. Own your wanting. Eat the apple. Let it burn.”
417. Grief is a cocoon from which we emerge new. -Glennon Doyle
418. “I understand now that I’m not a mess, but a deeply feeling person in a messy world. I explain that now, when someone asks me why I cry so often: ‘For the same reason I laugh so often – because I’m paying attention. ”
419. “Addiction is a hiding place where sensitive people go. I was a super-sensitive kid—addiction is where I went to hide from risk, to hide from pain, to hide from love. ” — Glennon Doyle
420. “Grief shatters.
421. “Sister, who needs an umbrella when you are the whole sky?” All. ”
422. “I had been deceived. The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that there was something wrong with me. ”
423. “I am a sensitive, introverted woman, which means that I love humanity but actual human beings are tricky for me. I love people but not in person. For example, I would die for you but not, like...meet you for coffee. I became a writer so I could stay at home alone in my pajamas, reading and writing about the importance of human connection and community.”
424. “Every beautiful thing in life comes out of the mess. ” – Glennon Doyle, Carry on Warrior
425. “I don’t give a rat’s ass how much respect you earn for yourself out in the world if you are not showing respect to the people inside your home. If you don’t get that right, nothing you do out there will matter much.”
426. “We are so afraid of dying. Also of living. ” – Glennon Doyle, Untamed
427. “I decided that if I kept doing the ‘right’ thing, I would spend my life following someone else’s directions instead of my own.”
428. “If you are uncomfortable—in deep pain, angry, yearning, confused—you don’t have a problem, you have a life. Being human is not hard because you’re doing it wrong, it’s hard because you’re doing it right. You will never change the fact that being human is hard, so you must change your idea that it was ever supposed to be easy.”
429. Perhaps imagination is not where we go to escape reality but where we go to remember it.
430. “There is no one way to live, love, raise children, arrange a family, run a school, a community, a nation. The norms were created by somebody, and each of us is somebody. We can make our own normal.”
431. “What if I don’t need your permission slip because I’m already free?”
432. “We need their science because they need our poetry. We don’t need to be more pleasant, normal, or convenient, we just need to be ourselves. We need to save ourselves because we need to save the world.”
433. “I have met myself and I am going to care for her fiercely.”
434. We can do hard things
435. When grief rings: Surrender. There is nothing else to do. The delivery is utter transformation.
436. “There is another kind of pain that comes not from losing beautiful things but from never even trying for them.”
437. “This is what people are like. We are all so fucked up and so magical. Life is so brutal and beautiful. Life is brutiful. For all of us. I remember now. If you want to get jaded and numb, watch the news. If you want to stay human, read letters. When trying to understand humanity, seek out firsthand accounts.”
438. “Life is not safe, and so our task is not to promise our kids there will be no turbulence. It’s to assure them that when the turbulence comes, we will all hold hands and get through it together
439. “Whether you are brave or not cannot be judged by people on the outside. Sometimes being brave requires letting the crowd think you’re a coward. Sometimes being brave means letting everyone down but yourself.”
440. There is no greater burden on a child than the unlived life of a parent.
441. “First the pain, then the waiting, then the rising. All of our suffering comes when we try to get to our resurrection without allowing ourselves to be crucified first.”
442. “When a woman finally learns that pleasing the world is impossible, she becomes free to learn how to please herself. ”
443. “I had been deceived. The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that there was something wrong with me. ” — Glennon Doyle
444. “The building of the true and beautiful means the destruction of the good enough.” — Glennon Doyle
445. What if in skipping the pain, I was missing my lessons?
446. “Our boys are born with great potential for nurturing, caring, loving, and serving. Let’s stop training it out of them.”
447. We can choose to be perfect and admired or to be real and loved.
448. I did not know that I was supposed to feel everything. I thought I was supposed to feel happy
449. Grief shatters. If you let yourself shatter and then you put yourself back together, piece by piece, you wake up one day and realize that you have been completely reassembled
450. “Feminism has to be defined as freedom. ”
451. “The braver I am, the luckier I get. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
452. “That’s the thing about parenting: anxious if you do, anxious if you don’t.”
453. Human qualities are not gendered. What is gendered is permission to express certain traits. Why? Why would our culture prescribe such strict gender roles? And why would it be so important for our culture to label all tenderness and mercy as feminine?
454. I am a human being, meant to be in perpetual becoming. If I am living bravely, my entire life will become a million deaths and rebirths
455. “Education is like Christmas. We’re all just opening our gifts, one at a time. And it is a fact that each and every child has a bright shiny present with her name on it, waiting there underneath the tree. God wrapped it up, and he’ll let us know when it’s time to unwrap it. ”
456. “What is wrong with me? Why did I stay and suffer? The door wasn’t even locked.”
457. “I decided that if I kept doing the ‘right’ thing, I would spend my life following someone else’s directions instead of my own. ”
458. You can’t lose people who never even found you.
459. “I stopped being a quiet peacekeeper and started being a loud peacemaker. My anger was good. ”
460. “I’m a grown-ass woman now and I do what the fuck I want. I mean this with deep respect and love—and with the desire that you, too, will do what the fuck you want with your own singular precious life.”
461. “We can do hard things. ”
462. Rebellion is as much of a cage as obedience is. They both mean living in reaction to someone else’s way instead of forging your own. Freedom is not being for or against an ideal, but creating your own existence from scratch
463. “Blessed are those brave enough to make things awkward, for they wake us up and move us forward. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
464. “All the devil has to do to win is convince you he’s God. ” – Glennon Doyle, Untamed
465. “I am in the One Big Ache of lovepainbeautytendernesslonginggoodbye”
466. Trusting people is terrifying. Maybe if love is not a little scary and out of our control, then it is not love at all
467. “The only meaningful thing we can offer one another is love. Not advice, not questions about our choices, not suggestions for the future, just love. ”
468. “Love is the opposite of control. Love demands trust. ”
469. I could imagine the kind of love in which I was fully seen, known, and cherished.
470. “What if in skipping the pain, I was missing my lessons?” — Glennon Doyle
471. We only control what we don’t trust.
472. “I understand myself differently now.
473. “I will not stay, not ever again – in a room or conversation or relationship or institution that requires me to abandon myself. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
474. “Our culture was built upon and benefits from the control of women. The way power justifies controlling a group is by conditioning the masses to believe that the group cannot be trusted. So the campaign to convince us to mistrust women begins early and comes from everywhere. ” — Glennon Doyle
475. “Let’s conjure up from the depth of our souls: The truest, most beautiful lives we can imagine. Let’s put it all on paper. Let’s look at what we’ve written and decide these are not pipe dreams; these are our marching orders. These are the blueprints for our lives, our families, and the world.”
476. “Feeling discontent is exciting. Discontent is the nagging of the imagination. Discontent is evidence that your imagination has not given up on you. It is still pressing, swelling, trying to get your attention by whispering: Not this.”
477. “If you ask a woman who she is, she’ll tell you who she serves and sometimes what she does. But that isn’t the whole story. ”
478. “Love casts out fear. A woman who has recovered her true identity as a Love Warrior is the most powerful force on earth. All the darkness and shame and pain in the world can’t defeat her.”
479. “Feminism has to be defined as freedom. ” — Glennon Doyle
480. “What matters is not what is real, but what I can convince others is real. What matters is not how I feel inside, but how I appear to feel on the outside. How I appear to feel will determine how others feel about me. What matters is how others feel about me. So I act like someone who feels Golden.”
481. “We can choose to be perfect and admired or to be real and loved. We must decide. ” — Glennon Doyle
482. “Wherever you go, there you are. ” — Glennon Doyle
483. “You can be shattered, and then you can put yourself back together piece by piece. But what can happen over time is this: You wake up one day and realize that you have put yourself back together completely differently. That you are whole, finally, and strong — but you are now a different shape, a different size.”
484. “Grief and pain are like joy and peace; they are not things we should try to snatch from each other. They’re sacred. ” — Glennon Doyle
485. “Peace isn’t the absence of distraction or annoyance or pain. It’s finding Me, finding peace and calm, in the midst of those distractions and annoyances and pains. ”
486. Love is the opposite of control. Love demands trust.
487. “Your river is strong. Let it flow. ” — Glennon Doyle
488. I have learned that if I want to rise, I have to sink first
489. Being human is not hard because you're doing it wrong, it's hard because you're doing it right.
490. “We weren’t born distrusting and fearing ourselves. That was part of our taming. We were taught to believe that who we are in our natural state is bad and dangerous. ” — Glennon Doyle
491. The braver I am, the luckier I get
492. “Since brokenness is the way of folks, the only way to live peacefully is to forgive everyone constantly, including yourself. ” — Glennon Doyle
493. “Your body is not your art — it's your paintbrush. Whether your paintbrush is a tall paintbrush or a thin paintbrush or a stocky paintbrush or a scratched-up paintbrush is completely irrelevant.” — Glennon Doyle
494. Every life is an unprecedented experiment, This life is mine alone. -Glennon Doyle
495. “What a terrible burden for our daughters to bear—to know that if they choose to become mothers, this will be their fate, too. Because if we show them that being a martyr is the highest form of love, that is what they will become.”
496. “And now that we don’t have to be good, we can be free.”
497. “To be brave is to forsake all others to be true to yourself. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
498. “Healing is not the reward for those who lose the most or best.”
499. Love is the opposite of control. Love demands trust
500. “My most important parenting job is to teach my children how to deal with being human. There is really only one way to deal gracefully with being human, and that is: forgive yourself.”
501. “We need to love ourselves if we want our kids to love themselves. We don’t necessarily have to love them more; we have to love ourselves more.”
502. “Being human is not hard because you’re doing it wrong, it’s hard because you’re doing it right. You will never change the fact that being human is hard, so you must change your idea that it was ever supposed to be easy.”
503. Because once we feel, know, and dare to imagine more for ourselves, we cannot unfeel, unknow, or unimagine. There is no going back
504. “You have been offered ‘the gift of crisis’. As Kathleen Norris reminds us, the Greek root of the word crisis is “to sift”, as in, to shake out the excesses and leave only what’s important. That’s what crises do. They shake things up until we are forced to hold on to only what matters most. The rest falls away. ” — Glennon Doyle
505. “I will not stay, not ever again — in a room or conversation or relationship or institution that requires me to abandon myself.”
506. “This life is mine alone. So I have stopped asking people for directions to places they’ve never been. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
507. “Our judgment is self-protection; it’s a cage we put around ourselves. We hope it will keep danger out, but it only keeps tenderness and empathy from coming in. ”
508. Every life is an unprecedented experiment. This life is mine alone
509. “Let's conjure up, from the depths off our souls: The truest, most beautiful lives we can imagine”
510. “Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning,” said Gloria Steinem.”
511. This life is mine alone, so I have stopped asking people for directions to places they’ve never been. -Glennon Doyle
512. “That’s how you can tell that you’re filling yourself with the wrong things. You use a lot of energy, and in the end, you feel emptier and less comfortable than ever. ”
513. “You can never get enough of what you don’t need. ” — Glennon Doyle
514. “The amazing thing about love and attention and encouragement and grace and success and joy is that these things are infinite. We get a new supply every single morning, and so we can give it away all day. We never, ever have to monitor the supply of others or grab or hoard.”
515. “This life is mine alone. So I have stopped asking people for directions to places they’ve never been. ”
516. “Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyway.”
517. “There comes a point where we need to stop just pulling people out of the river. We need to go upstream and find out why they’re falling in. —Archbishop Desmond Tutu”
518. It is a blessing to know a free woman. Sometimes she will stop by and hold up a mirror for you. She will help you remember who you are.
519. Who else but a sibling travels with you from the start of life's path to the bitter end?
520. Brave means living from the inside out. Brave means, in every uncertain moment, turning inward, feeling for the Knowing, and speaking it out loud
521. “The braver I am, the luckier I get. ”
522. “I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better. ”
523. “I did not know that I was supposed to feel everything. I thought I was supposed to feel happy.”
524. “The blueprints of heaven are etched in the deep desires of women.”
525. “I’m a grown-ass woman now and I do what the fuck I want”
526. “I am as ancient as the earth I’m planted in and as new as my tiniest bloom. I am my own Touch Tree: strong, singular, alive. Still growing. I have everything I need, beneath me, above me, inside me. I am never gonna lose me.”
527. “We are alive only to the degree to which we are willing to be annihilated.”
528. “Since I got sober, I have never been fine again, not for a single moment. I have been exhausted and terrified and angry. I have been overwhelmed and underwhelmed and debilitatingly depressed and anxious. I have been amazed and awed and delighted and overjoyed to bursting. I have been reminded, constantly, by the Ache: This will pass; stay close.
529. “It is a blessing to know a free woman. Sometimes she will stop by and hold up a mirror for you. She will help you remember who you are.”
530. “Hard work is important. So are play and nonproductivity. My worth is tied not to my productivity but to my existence. I am worthy of rest. ”
531. “To be alive is to be in a perpetual state of revolution.”
532. “But I would never again be alone in a relationship and pretend that was love. I would never again settle for a relationship or life less beautiful than the one I’d want for my child.”
533. “Hard work is important. So are play and nonproductivity. My worth is tied not to my productivity but to my existence. I am worthy of rest.”
534. “I lost myself when I learned how to please.”
535. “We are all bilingual. We speak the language of indoctrination, but our native tongue is the language of imagination. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
536. “May we all live in communities where every person’s truest Self is both held and free.”
537. “I began to insist on my right and responsibility to feel it all, even when taking the time for feeling made me a little less efficient, a little less convenient, a little less pleasant.”
538. “The epitome of womanhood is to lose one’s self completely. That is the end goal of every patriarchal culture. Because a very effective way to control women is to convince women to control themselves. ”
539. “People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help. ” — Glennon Doyle
540. “I’m willing to lose anything that requires me to hide any part of myself. ” – Glennon Doyle, Untamed
541. “I understand myself differently now. I was just a caged girl made for wide-open skies. I wasn’t crazy. I was a goddamn cheetah.”
542. “women have to almost die before we give ourselves permission to live how we want.”
543. God approaches us in the disguise of other people.
544. And now that we don’t have to be good, we can be free.
545. “Maybe we do not need all the answers today. Maybe today, we need only reach deeply within ourselves, see and affirm our undeniable dignity, and reaffirm a resolute commitment: We will never give up, We will never go away.”
546. Life is alchemy, and emotions are the fire that turns me to gold. I will continue to become only if I resist extinguishing myself a million times a day. If I can sit in the fire of my own feelings, I will keep becoming.
547. The deep desires of women are precious. They are a magic that has the capacity to lift every person to their greatest most loving potential.
548. “It turned out what I needed most was inside the one place I’d been running from my entire life: pain.”
549. Reading is my inhale and writing is my exhale.
550. “The anxiety that makes it difficult to exist in my own skin also makes it difficult to exist in a world where so may people are in so much pain - and that makes me a relentless activist.”
551. Grief is a cocoon from which we emerge new
552. “The thing that gets me thinking and questioning most deeply is a leader who warns me not to think or question.”
553. “Learning how to gracefully accept criticism and compliments is hard, but I’m trying. ”
554. “I know that when the pain and the waiting are here, the rising is on its way. I hope the pain will pass soon, but I’ll wait it out because I’ve tested pain enough to trust it. And because who I will become tomorrow is so unforeseeable and specific that I’ll need every bit of today’s lessons to become her.”
555. “There is no greater burden on a child than the unlived life of a parent. ”
556. “Stop making parenthood harder by pretending it’s not hard.”
557. “Feel it all — It’s my daily reminder to let myself burn to ashes and rise, new.”
558. “We don’t understand why we hurt those we love.”
559. “As every architect or designer knows, there is a critical step between vision and reality. Before imagination becomes three-dimensional, it usually needs to become two-dimensional. It’s as though the unseen order needs to come to life one dimension at a time.”
560. “He was brave enough to be honest; you be brave enough to handle it. Life is hard; friends need to be safe places for each other.”
561. “And now that we don't have to be good, we can be free.”
562. “Loving fiercely and grieving deeply are often two halves of the same whole. ” — Glennon Doyle
563. Perhaps imagination is not where we go to escape reality but where we go to remember it
564. “I see your fear, and it's big. I also see your courage and it's bigger. We can do hard things, baby. We are fireproof.”
565. “Feeling all your feelings is hard, but that’s what they’re for. Feelings are for feeling. All of them. Even the hard ones. The secret is that you’re doing it right, and that doing it right hurts sometimes.”
566. “Keep your head down and keep Love Working. Love without ‘feeling it’ or ‘meaning it. ’”
567. Life is a quest to find an unfindable thing. We are put here needing something that doesn't exist here.
568. “Grace makes no disclaimer. It’s true for all or none. ”
569. “I have met my self, and I am going to care for her fiercely.”
570. I think we are only bitter about other people’s joy in direct proportion to our commitment to keep joy from ourselves.
571. Just do the next right thing, one thing at a time.
572. There is another kind of pain that comes not from losing beautiful things but from never even trying for them.
573. If there's a silver lining to the emptiness, here it is: the unfillable is what brings people together. I've never made a friend by bragging about my strengths, but I've made countless by sharing my weakness and my emptiness. ”
574. It’s nearly impossible to blaze one’s own path while following in someone else’s footsteps. -Glennon Doyle
575. “The opposite of sensitive is not brave. It's not brave to refuse to pay attention, to refuse to notice, to refuse to feel and know and imagine. The opposite of sensitive is insensitive, and that's no badge of honor.”
576. A woman who is full of herself knows and trusts herself enough to say and do what must be done. She lets the rest burn
577. “I will not stay, not ever again — in a room or conversation or relationship or institution that requires me to abandon myself. ”
578. We all want purpose and connection. Tell me what breaks your heart, and I’ll point you toward both.
579. “I will never understand why people insist upon calling my cell phone. It’s such an aggressive action to take: calling someone. Each time my phone rings, I have a heart attack like my pocket’s on fire and a tiny siren is going off.”
580. “It's just that living with anxiety - living alarmed - makes it impossible to enter the moment, to land inside my body and be there. I cannot be in the moment because I am too afraid of what the next moment will bring. I have to be ready.”
581. “Heartbreak delivers your purpose. If you are brave enough to accept that delivery and seek out the people doing that particular world-changing work, you find your people. There is no bond like the bond that is forged among people who are united in the same world-healing work.
582. “Perhaps imagination is not where we go to escape reality but where we go to remember it. ”
583. “You are not a mess. You are a feeling person in a messy world.”
584. “The only constant family rule is that everyone has to keep showing up. ”
585. “It’s OK to feel too much and know too little. ”
586. “People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help. ”
587. “When women write to me in the language of indoctrination—when they use words like good and should and right and wrong—I try to speak back to them in the language of imagination.”
588. “If no pain, then no love. If no darkness, no light. If no risk, then no reward. It’s all or nothing. In this damn world, it’s all or nothing. ” — Glennon Doyle
589. The only meaningful thing we can offer one another is love.
590. “You are here to decide if your life, relationships, and world are true and beautiful enough for you. And if they are not and you dare to admit they are not, you must decide if you have the guts, the right — perhaps even the duty — to burn to the ground that which is not true and beautiful enough and get started building what is.”
591. “Pain is not tragic. Pain is magic. Suffering is tragic. Suffering is what happens when we avoid pain and consequently miss our becoming.”
592. “You are not crazy. You are goddamn cheetah. ”
593. “marching is praying with your feet,”
594. “We can do hard things, like be alive and love deep and lose it all, because we do these hard things alongside everyone who has ever walked the Earth with her eyes, arms, and heart wide open.”
595. “And what if I demand freedom not because I was “born this way” and “can’t help it” but because I can do whatever I choose to do with my love and my body from year to year, moment to moment—because I’m a grown woman who does not need any excuse to live however I want to live and love whomever I want to love?”
596. “It’s not the cruel criticism from folks who hate us that scares us away from our Knowing; it’s the quiet concern of those who love us.”
597. “Despair says, ‘The heartbreak is too overwhelming. I am too sad and too small, and the world is too big. I cannot do it all, so I will do nothing. ”
598. “The truest, most beautiful life never promises to be an easy one. We need to let go of the lie that it’s supposed to be.
599. “We ask if our ideas make sense instead of assuming they do.”
600. “We forget how to know when we learned how to please. ”
601. “The facts were right there in front of me to see. But the truth was right there inside of me to feel.”
602. It turned out that what I needed most was inside the one place I’d been running from my entire life: pain.
603. His body fills my arms and I think, Oh. So this is what my arms are for.
604. “These things will be hard, but you can do hard things.”
605. “It’s nearly impossible to blaze one’s own path while following in someone else’s footprints.”
606. My children do not need me to save them. My children need to watch me save myself
607. This life is mine alone. So I have stopped asking people for directions to places they’ve never been
608. “If you feel something calling you to dance or write or paint or sing, please refuse to worry about whether you’re good enough. Just do it. Be generous. Offer a gift to the world no one else can offer: yourself.”
609. The most revolutionary thing a woman can do: the next right thing, one thing at a time, without asking permission or offering explanation.
610. “Faith is not a club to belong to, but a current to surrender to. ”
611. “Tish is sensitive, and that is her superpower. The opposite of sensitive is not brave. It’s not brave to refuse to pay attention, to refuse to notice, to refuse to feel and know and imagine. The opposite of sensitive is insensitive, and that’s no badge of honor.”
612. “You are here to decide if your life, relationships and world are true and beautiful enough for you. And if they are not and you dare to admit they are not, you must decide if you have the guts, the right - perhaps even the duty - to burn to the ground that which is not true and beautiful enough and get started building what is.”
613. “My children do not need me to save them. My children need to watch me save myself. ”
614. They look because she's lovely but they stare because she is love.
615. To be brave is to forsake all others to be true to yourself.
616. “If our goal is to be tolerant of people who are different than we are, then we really are aiming quite low. Traffic jams are to be tolerated. People are to be celebrated. ” — Glennon Doyle
617. “Maybe we do not need all the answers today. Maybe today, we need only reach deeply within ourselves, see and affirm our undeniable dignity, and reaffirm a resolute commitment: We will never give up, We will never go away. ”
618. “People will like me or not, but being liked is not my One Thing; integrity is…I’m willing to lose anything that requires me to hide any part of myself.”
619. “Every time you're given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.”
620. “If you ask a woman who she is, she’ll tell you who she serves and sometimes what she does. But that isn’t the whole story.”
621. “My courage will come from knowing I can handle whatever I encounter there — because I was designed by my creator to not only survive pain and love but also to become whole inside it.”
622. “I decided that a family’s wholeness or brokenness has little to do with its structure. A broken family is a family in which any member must break herself into pieces to fit in. A whole family is one in which each member can bring her full self to the table knowing that she will always be both held and free.”
623. It’s nearly impossible to blaze one’s own path while following in someone else’s footsteps.
624. People will like me or not, but being liked is not my One Thing; integrity is…I’m willing to lose anything that requires me to hide any part of myself
625. “Why do I trust everyone else on Earth more than I trust myself? WHERE THE HELL IS MY SELF? When did I lose touch with her?”
626. “The only meaningful thing we can offer one another is love. Not advice, not questions about our choices, not suggestions for the future, just love.”
627. “What if pain – like love – is just a place where brave people visit?” — Glennon Doyle
628. A woman becomes a responsible parent when she stops being an obedient daughter
629. “Every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.”
630. “My purpose is clearer today than it has been in years: Love, Courage, Truth. ”
631. If you are uncomfortable—in deep pain, angry, yearning, confused—you don’t have a problem, you have a life.
632. “Trusting people is terrifying. Maybe if love is not a little scary and out of our control, then it is not love at all. It is wild to let others be wild.”
633. “We forgot how to know when we learned how to please.”
634. “People who are hurting don’t need Avoiders, Protectors, or Fixers. What we need are patient, loving witness. People to sit quietly and hold space for us. People to stand in helpful vigil to our pain. ” — Glennon Doyle
635. “If we keep passing down the legacy of martyrdom to our daughters, with whom does it end?”
636. “You can’t lose people who never even found you. ”
637. “Here’s the rub: Destruction is essential to construction. If we want to build the new, we must be willing to let the old burn. We must be committed to holding on to nothing but the truth.”
638. “A boundary is the edge of one of our root beliefs about ourselves and the world.”
639. The thing that gets me thinking and questioning most deeply is a leader who warns me not to think or question.
640. When a woman finally learns that pleasing the world is impossible, she becomes free to learn how to please herself.
641. “I’m happier now. I’m not doubting myself as much, and that is making me confident and stronger, so I’m suffering less. I have noticed that it seems easier for the world to love a suffering woman than it is for the world to love a joyful, confident woman.”
642. “Love is the opposite of control. Love demands trust. ” — Glennon Doyle
643. “I think we are only bitter about other people’s joy in direct proportion to our commitment to keep joy from ourselves.”
644. I looked hard at my faith, my friendships, my work, my sexuality, my entire life and asked: How much of this was my idea?…Who was I before I became who the world told me to be?
645. “Nobody is more ready to show up than anybody else. It’s just that some people show up before they’re perfect and before they’re ready. ”
646. Brave means living from the inside out. Brave means, in every uncertain moment, turning inward, feeling for the Knowing, and speaking it out loud.
647. You are not crazy, You are a goddamn cheetah. -Glennon Doyle
648. What I thought would kill me, didn’t. Every time I said to myself: I can’t take this anymore—I was wrong. The truth was that I could and did take it all—and I kept surviving. Surviving again and again made me less afraid of myself, of other people, of life
649. “I do not adjust myself to please the world. I am myself wherever I am, and I let the world adjust.”
650. Self-love means that I have a relationship with myself built on trust and loyalty.
651. Our boys are born with great potential for nurturing, caring, loving, and serving. Let’s stop training it out of them
652. It’s not the cruel criticism from folks who hate us that scares us away from our Knowing; it’s the quiet concern of those who love us
653. “Sister each other, because sistering is the best part of life. ”
654. If you are uncomfortable—in deep pain, angry, yearning, confused—you don’t have a problem, you have a life
655. “Because love is not something for which to search or wait or hope or dream. Its simply something to do. ” — Glennon Doyle
656. “But the paradox of pain is that it is only universal in retrospect. In the present, it is fiercely personal. ”
657. Every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else.
658. “I guess women have to almost die before we give ourselves permission to live how we want.”
659. “All the love in the world cannot move a boulder, because the Removal is not between the impeded and the ones who love her. The Removal is strictly between the impeded one and her God.”
660. The only meaningful thing we can offer one another is love. Not advice, not questions about our choices, not suggestions for the future, just love. ”
661. To me intimacy is about communication. Through the written or spoken or physically expressed word, communicating is how we get into each other’s hearts and minds.
662. “I looked hard at my faith, my friendships, my work, my sexuality, my entire life and asked: How much of this was my idea?…Who was I before I became who the world told me to be?” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
663. “A woman becomes a responsible parent when she stops being an obedient daughter.”
664. “What we need right now is more women who have detoxed themselves so completely from the world’s expectations that they are full of nothing but themselves. What we need are women who are full of themselves. A woman who is full of herself knows and trusts herself enough to say and do what must be done. She lets the rest burn.”
665. “Service and art are the two things that have saved me. ”
666. “The journey is learning that pain, like love, is simply something to surrender to. It's a holy space we can enter with people only if we promise not to tidy up. ”
667. “We know we must decide whether to stay small, quiet, and uncomplicated or allow ourselves to grow as big, loud, and complex as we were made to be. ”
668. “Every life is an unprecedented experiment. This life is mine alone. So I have stopped asking people for directions to places they’ve never been. There is no map. We are all pioneers.”
669. So I have stopped asking people for directions to places they’ve never been. There is no map. We are all pioneers
670. “Here's to The Untamed:
671. “What if in skipping the pain, I was missing my lessons?”
672. “Because once we feel, know, and dare to imagine more for ourselves, we cannot unfeel, unknow, or unimagine. There is no going back.”
673. Maybe Eve was never meant to be our warning. Maybe she was meant to be our model. Own your wanting. Eat the apple. Let it burn.
674. “It’s OK to feel too much and know too little.”
675. “Grief shatters. If you let yourself shatter and then you put yourself back together, piece by piece, you wake up one day and realize that you have been completely reassembled.”
676. “I want to be found in love, not lost in it.”
677. “Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyway. ” — Glennon Doyle
678. We ask if our ideas make sense instead of assuming they do.
679. “The sun shows up every morning, no matter how bad you’ve been the night before. It shines without judgment. It never withholds. It warms the sinners, the saints, the druggies, the cheerleaders- the saved and the heathens alike. You can hide from the sun, but it won’t take you personally
680. “I will not stay — not ever again — in a room or conversation or relationship or institution that requires me to abandon myself.”
681. “She is trying to be brave, but no one knows what brave looks like inside this particular moment. ”
682. “I have begun to notice that I don’t even enjoy folks who aren’t at least a tad mentally ill. I don’t wish folks without a little anxiety or depression any harm, I just don’t find myself particularly curious about them. I have come to believe that we “crazies” are the best people.”
683. We are at war with our bodies, our minds, our souls.
684. “If our goal is to be tolerant of people who are different than we are, then we really are aiming quite low. Traffic jams are to be tolerated. People are to be celebrated. ”
685. “Mercy and empathy are great threats to an unjust society.”
686. “What I thought would kill me, didn’t. Every time I said to myself: I can’t take this anymore—I was wrong. The truth was that I could and did take it all—and I kept surviving. Surviving again and again made me less afraid of myself, of other people, of life.”
687. Trusting people is terrifying. Maybe if love is not a little scary and out of our control, then it is not love at all.
688. “You can’t lose people who never even found you.”
689. “This life is mine alone. So I have stopped asking people for directions to places they’ve never been.”
690. “I see your pain and it is difficult and it is hard, but it was made just for you and I also see that your courage is greater than your fear. ”
691. “We can choose to be perfect and admired or to be real and loved. We must decide. ”
692. “Freedom is not being for or against an ideal, but creating your own existence from scratch.”
693. “Life is a quest to find an unfindable thing. We are put here needing something that doesn’t exist here. ” – Glennon Doyle, Carry on Warrior
694. Faith is not a club to belong to, but a current to surrender to.
695. “You are not a mess. You are a deeply feeling person in a messy world” Glennon Doyle quote art.
696. “I'm a grown-ass woman now and I do what the fuck I want. I mean this with deep respect and love – and with the desire that you, too, will do what the fuck you want with your own singular precious life.”
697. “Our culture was built upon and benefits from the control of women.”
698. “Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyways
699. “Hard work is important. So are play and non-productivity. My worth is tied not to my productivity but to my existence. I am worthy of rest. ”
700. “Be careful with the stories you tell about yourself".”
701. “Pain is not tragic. Pain is magic. Suffering is tragic. Suffering is what happens when we avoid pain and consequently miss our own becoming. That is what I can and must avoid: missing my own evolution because I am too afraid to surrender to the process.”
702. “If you feel something calling you to dance or write or paint or sing, please refuse to worry about whether you’re good enough. Just do it. Be generous. Offer a gift to the world that no one else can offer: yourself. ” — Glennon Doyle
703. “Here’s my hunch — nobody’s secure, and nobody feels like she completely belongs. Those insecurities are just job hazards of being human. But some people dance anyway, and those people have more fun.”
704. “Being human is not hard because you’re doing it wrong, it’s hard because you’re doing it right. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
705. “Recovery is an unbecoming. My healing has been a peeling away of costume after costume until here I am, still and naked before God, stripped down to my real identity. ”
706. People will like me or not, but being liked is not my One Thing; integrity is…I’m willing to lose anything that requires me to hide any part of myself.
707. “If you ask a woman who she is, she’ll tell you who she serves and sometimes what she does. But that isn’t the whole story.” — Glennon Doyle
708. “I just think there are as many different versions of feminism as there are women. ”
709. “So I must live and tell my truth. Folks will come around or quit coming around. Either way: lovely. Anything or anyone I could lose by telling the truth was never mine anyway. I'm willing to lose anything that requires me to hide any part of myself.”
710. I did not know that I was supposed to feel everything. I thought I was supposed to feel happy.
711. “Hell hath no fury like a memoirist whose husband just fucked up her story.”
712. Every truth is a kindness, even if it makes others uncomfortable. Every untruth is an unkindness, even if it makes others comfortable.
713. “I did not know that I was supposed to feel everything. I thought I was supposed to feel happy. ”
714. Here is the world. Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Don’t be afraid.
715. “If this is our shared human experience, where did we get the idea that there is some other, better, more perfect, unbroken way to be human? Where is the human being who is functioning “correctly,” against whom we are all judging our performances? Who is she? Where is she? What is her life if it is not these things?”
716. “You have to be known to be loved, and none of these waving people knows me. ”
717. “Every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. ” – Glennon Doyle, Untamed
718. “I will not stay, not ever again—in a room or conversation or relationship or institution that requires me to abandon myself. When my body tells me the truth, I’ll believe it. I trust myself now, so I will no longer suffer voluntarily or silently or for long.”
719. “Be messy and complicated and afraid, and show up anyway.”
720. “I am loved and have always been loved and will always, always be loved. I have never been separated from this love, I have only convinced myself I was. ”
721. “We are so afraid of dying. Also of living.”
722. Being human is not hard because you’re doing it wrong, it’s hard because you’re doing it right. -Glennon Doyle
723. I will not stay, not ever again—in a room or conversation or relationship or institution that requires me to abandon myself
724. “Grief is nothing but a painful waiting, a horrible patience. Grief cannot be torn down or scaled or overcome or outsmarted. It can only be outlasted. Survival is surrendering to the brick wall. There”
725. “Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyway. ”
726. “Healing is not the reward for those who lose the most or best. ”
727. Love casts out fear. A woman who has recovered her true identity as a Love Warrior is the most powerful force on earth. All the darkness and shame and pain in the world can’t defeat her.
728. The braver I am, the luckier I get.
729. “In response to the world’s problems, it is easy to choose silence. Anger. I get it, but it’s not the right way. The third way is to create, to create a better invitation. ”
730. “Perhaps imagination is not where we go to escape reality but where we go to remember it. Perhaps when we want to know the original plan for our lives, families, world, we should consult not what’s in front of us but what’s inside us.”
731. To me, faith is not a public allegiance to a set of outer beliefs, but a private surrender to the inner Knowing
732. “That we are just scattered pieces of the same puzzle, so when we hurt each other, we hurt ourselves. ”
733. “Being human is not hard because you’re doing it wrong, it’s hard because you’re doing it right. You will never change the fact that being human is hard, so you must change your idea that it was ever supposed to be easy. ” – Untamed, By Glennon Doyle
734. “When we free our wild, that frees other people to free themselves too.”
735. “My purpose is clearer today than it has been in years: Love, Courage, Truth. ” — Glennon Doyle
736. “Life is a quest to find an unfindable thing. We are put here needing something that doesn’t exist here.”
737. “Life is hard — not because we’re doing it wrong, just because it’s hard. ”
738. “The change that happens to people who really sit in their pain—whether it’s a sliver of envy lasting an hour or a canyon of grief lasting decades—it’s revolutionary. When that kind of transformation happens, it becomes impossible to fit into your old conversations or relationships or patterns or thoughts or life anymore.”
739. “I think of love and marriage in the same way I do plants — We have perennials and annuals. The perennial plant blooms, goes away, and comes back. The annual blooms for just a season, and then winter arrives and takes it out for good. But it's still enriched the soil for the next flower to bloom. In the same way, no love is wasted.” — Glennon Doyle
740. “If you can’t beat fear, just do it scared. ”
741. “You are not a mess. You are a feeling person in a messy world. ”
742. Freedom is not being for or against an ideal, but creating your own existence from scratch
743. “That’s how you can tell that you’re filling yourself with the wrong things. You use a lot of energy, and in the end, you feel emptier and less comfortable than ever. ” — Glennon Doyle
744. “broken. I quit buying the idea that a successful marriage is one that lasts till death, even if one or both spouses are dying inside it. I decided that before I ever vowed myself to another person, I’d take this vow to myself: I’ll not abandon myself. Not ever again. Me and myself: We are”
745. “Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world. Every girl must decide whether to settle for adoration or fight for love. ”
746. What if the call of motherhood is not to be a martyr but to be a model?
747. “People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help.”
748. You are here to decide if your life, relationships and world are true and beautiful enough for you. And if they are not and you dare to admit they are not, you must decide if you have the guts, the right—perhaps even the duty—to burn to the ground that which is not true and beautiful enough and get started building what is
749. “The building of the true and beautiful means the destruction of the good enough. ”
750. The opposite of sensitive is not brave. It's not brave to refuse to pay attention, to refuse to notice, to refuse to feel and know and imagine.
751. “That’s the thing about parenting: anxious if you do, anxious if you don’t. ”
752. “Rebellion is as much of a cage as obedience is. They both mean living in reaction to someone else’s way instead of forging your own. Freedom is not being for or against an ideal, but creating your own existence from scratch.”
753. We betray and we are betrayed. We lie and we are lied to.
754. “People aren’t changing, after all. It’s just that for the first time, there’s enough freedom for people to stop changing who they are. ”
755. “Consuming keeps us distracted, busy and numb. Numbness keeps us from becoming.”
756. “Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyway.” — Glennon Doyle
757. “Life is alchemy, and emotions are the fire that turns me to gold.”
758. “My sister interrupted me and said, “Glennon, why are you so defensive? Defensiveness is for people who are afraid that what they have can be taken from them. You are a grown-ass woman. You can have what you want. No one can take this from you. Not even Mom. This is yours, Glennon. Abby is yours.”
759. “It's not the cruel criticism from folks who hate us that scares us away from our Knowing; it's the quiet concern of those who love us.”
760. “If you want to get jaded and numb, watch the news. If you want to stay human, read letters. When trying to understand humanity, seek out firsthand accounts.”
761. “My children do not need me to save them. My children need to watch me save myself.”
762. “I still get very high and very low in life. Daily. But I’ve finally accepted the fact that sensitive is just how I was made, that I don’t have to hide it, and I don’t have to fix it. I’m not broken.”
763. “The most revolutionary thing a woman can do is not explain herself. ”
764. “I’m not a mess but a deeply feeling person in a messy world. I explain that now, when someone asks me why I cry so often, I say, ‘For the same reason I laugh so often — because I'm paying attention.’ I tell them that we can choose to be perfect and admired or to be real and loved. We must decide.”
765. “Blessed are those brave enough to make things awkward, for they wake us up and move us forward. ”
766. “I will not stay, not ever again - in a room or conversation or relationship or institution that requires me to abandon myself.”
767. I do not want my children to become people who abandon themselves to please the crowd.
768. “I will not stay, not ever again – in a room or conversation or relationship or institution that requires me to abandon myself.”
769. “My only expectation is that you become yourself. The more deeply I know you, the more beautiful you become to me. If someone tells you who they are, consider how lucky you are to be graced with that gift. Don’t respond with an eviction notice, a permission slip, or a concession speech. Un-God yourself. Gasp in awe and applaud with gusto.”
770. “There is always more on its way – more opportunities, more ideas, more love. Know that there is enough. Know that you are enough. Know that you have enough. ”
771. “We don’t control the turbulence or tragedy that happens to our families. The plot of our lives is largely out of our control. We decide only the response of the main character. We decide whether we will be the one who jumps ship or the one who stays and leads.”
772. “WE CAN DO HARD THINGS.”
773. “Every truth is a kindness, even if it makes others uncomfortable. Every untruth is an unkindness, even if it makes others comfortable.”
774. “I wondered if joy had as much to teach me as pain did. If so, I wanted to know. ”
775. “Maybe the yes comes before the readiness. Maybe you say yes and then you become equipped to handle whatever is about to happen. ”
776. “Because once we feel, know, and dare to imagine more for ourselves, we cannot unfeel, unknow, or unimagine. There is no going back. ”
777. “Family is: Whether we're falling or flying, we're going to take care of each other through the whole damn ride.”
778. “I guess women have to almost die before we give ourselves permission to live how we want. ”
779. “Stop making parenthood harder by pretending it’s not hard. ”
780. “I’ve stopped thinking of Mother as a fixed identity–something you are or aren’t–and more of an energy all of us have inside of us, that we’re either unleashing or not.”
781. “We can either control ourselves or love ourselves, but we can’t do both. ” — Glennon Doyle
782. You are not here to waste your time deciding whether my life is true and beautiful enough for you. You are here to decide if your life, relationships, and world are true and beautiful enough for you
783. What is better: uncomfortable truth or comfortable lies? Every truth is a kindness, even if it makes others uncomfortable. Every untruth is an unkindness, even if it makes others comfortable
784. “Grief is a cocoon from which we emerge new.”
785. Every beautiful thing in life comes out of the mess.
786. “I have met myself and I am going to care for her fiercely. ” — Glennon Doyle
787. “We are at war with our bodies, our minds, our souls.”
788. “All the devil has to do to win is convince you he’s God. ”
789. “Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world. Every girl must decide whether to settle for adoration or fight for love. ” — Glennon Doyle
790. “I do not want my children to become people who abandon themselves to please the crowd.”
791. “I understand myself differently now. I was just a caged girl made for wide-open skies. ”
792. “Being human is not hard because you're doing it wrong it's hard because you're doing it right. You will never change the fact that being human is hard, so you must change your idea that it was every supposed to be easy.”
793. I have decided that I want to be in love with a person, not a feeling. I want to be found in love, not lost in it. I’d rather exist than disappear.
794. “Be careful with the stories you tell about yourself. ”
795. “Yes, everyone you love would be uncomfortable for a long while, maybe. What is better: uncomfortable truth or comfortable lies? Every truth is a kindness, even if it makes others uncomfortable. Every untruth is an unkindness, even if it makes others comfortable.”
796. “To be brave is to forsake all others to be true to yourself.”
797. “I notice we are envious of people who are already doing what we are made to do. If we use our envy as a sort of an arrow pointing us toward our destiny, that is a beautiful thing. ”
798. “Why does a woman’s neutral face mean anger, while a man’s neutral face means neutral?”
799. “The journey is learning that pain, like love, is simply something to surrender to. It’s a holy space we can enter with people only if we promise not to tidy up.”
800. “Breathe. Don't panic and flee. Sink. Feel it all. Imagine. Let it burn.”
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