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850 Best Narcissistic Parents Quotes: Toxic Home (2023)

1. “People tend to raise the child inside of them rather than the child in front of them. ” –Joe Newman


2. “The negative effects of your self-absorbed parent may lead you to perceive yourself as inadequate, inferior, ineffective, and a whole host of other self-defeating thoughts and attitudes. ” – Nina W. Brown


3. “For toxic mothers out there, just know that your toxic and abusive behaviour will one day backfire when the children you are mistreating grow up and become adults. ” — Samuel Zulu


4. “Feeding on pure souls and hearts is what a narcissist does.”


5. “Please repair your narcissism before you start loving your neighbor as yourself.” ~ Charles F. Glassman


6. “In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted. It's talking about them that is forbidden.”


7. “White feminist narcissism has no truck with the idea that we are anything but victims. ” ― Alison Phipps


8. “Fighting became a way of life and seemed perfectly normal for your family.”


9. “Yes, Eleanor loathed herself and yet required praise, which she then never believed. ”― Hanif Kureishi


10. “We forget in order to survive our childhoods when we are totally dependent on our parents’ goodwill; but to recover from such childhoods, we must begin by remembering the bad and the good. ” ― Victoria Secunda


11. “Whether it’s a parent, sibling, friend, or family member, do not allow a destructive person to put you down a hole for the rest of your life. ” — unknown


12. “Narcissist parents don’t care about their children’s feelings at all. Only their feelings matter.” – Kim Saeed


13. “Them” is some sort of imaginary entity that means everyone who “is oppressing her”.


14. “There’s really no point in having children if you’re not going to be home enough to father them.”


15. “A toxic mother talks but never listens, and she gives advice but never takes any. ” — Sherrie Campbell


16. “By aggrandizing one's own abilities and achievements, the grandiose person remains out of touch with who they truly are and as such, remains prone to crossing the boundaries of others. ” ― Steven Franssen


17. “Narcissists, however, are similar to a spider that has built a web for its prey to bring itself.” ~ Mwanandeke Kindembo


18. “While a narcissistic mother will gossip endlessly about the most details about your life, she is very secretive about her own life. She will lie about you but will punish you for telling them what she has done. ” ― Gail Meyers


19. “The lion is most handsome when looking for food. ” — Rumi


20. “An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put you down unless you allow it to get inside you. ”


21. “Narcissistic mothers will often use money and gifts as a way to control their children, rather than giving them genuine love and support. ”


22. “Unhappy people can be very dangerous, don’t forget that.”


23. “Positive humor is one of our most valuable tools for strengthening family bonds. But humor that belittles can be extremely damaging within the family. Children take sarcasm and humorous exaggeration at face value.”- Dr. Susan Forward


24. “Children deserve both parents. They deserve to know that their parents respect each other, if nothing else. So that really helps me set the standard of how I try and behave.”


25. “Narcissism is a powerful form of emotional abuse. This sophisticated emotional abuse tactic makes victims question their own sanity.” ~ Invajy


26. “Narcissistic mothers will often use their children as scapegoats for their own failures and shortcomings. ”


27. “Out of all the addictions in the world, Attention is slowly but surely becoming one of the most dangerous.” ~ Saahil Prem


28. “I didn’t grow up having role models. I grew up having people I didn’t want to be like and seeing situations I’d never want to be in. Not all of us are dealt the right cards, but that doesn’t mean you can’t reshuffle your deck for a better outcome. ” — Irina Vujakilja


29. “At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.” – Jane D. Hull


30. “Instead of promoting healthy development, they unconsciously undermine it, often with the belief that they are acting in their child’s best interest.”- Dr. Susan Forward


31. “A toxic narcissistic mother will often use money and gifts as a way to manipulate her child, rather than giving them genuine love and support.”


32. “Healthy moms are a delight to their children, but toxic moms are a source of grief to their own children. ” — Samuel Zulu


33. “Even though friends say they are interested in your life, they never really want to talk about you as much as you want them to.” ― Charise Mericle Harper


34. “It’s not your fault that your mom is toxic as it isn’t your job to raise your mom because she is already an adult responsible for her own life choices just as you are responsible for your own. ” — unknown


35. “Good parenting gives headaches, but bad parenting gives heartaches.”


36. “There was nothing more unattractive than narcissism, she thought: nothing could transform beauty into a cloying, unattractive quality than that self-conscious appreciation of self.” ~ Alexander McCall Smith


37. “Most adult children of toxic parents grow up feeling tremendous confusion about what love means and how it’s supposed to feel. ”- Dr. Susan Forward


38. “Sometimes, using no contact is the best way to be safe from abusive parents.”


39. “I have a gaping painful hole in my soul where good, loving parents and a normal, safe childhood should have been.”- Lily Hope Lucario


40. “Ego is borne of the need to ‘prove’ oneself instead of making the choice to ‘be’ oneself.”~ Craig D. Lounsbrough


41. “Sometimes, narcissistic parents are also better loved from a distance to avoid further emotional damage. ” — unknown


42. “When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but you stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth just like you did.” ― Jill Blakeway


43. “I will give my toxic mother one thing she never gave me – the truth. ” ― Rayne Wolfe


44. “But that’s the thing about narcissists. They can try to fool you, with all their heart, but in the end, they’re just fooling themselves.” ~ Ellie Fox


45. “The selfishness of the parents is to blame. Pay attention to your kids’ lives and get involved. Your only hope and your legacy are them.” – Aaron B. Powell


46. “Toxic family members will see expressions of forgiveness as weaknesses to exploit. Don't give in to their tactics this way. If you need to forgive them for your own healing, then do it, but keep it to yourself.”


47. “Toxic mothers are image-oriented rather than love-oriented.” – Sherrie Campbell


48. “Permissiveness is the principle of treating children as if they were adults; and the tactic of making sure they never reach that stage. ” — Thomas Szasz


49. “Your mother’s happiness is not your responsibility. It has never been.” – Unknown


50. “A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors. ” – Karla Grimes


51. “No, we don’t control who our parents are. We don’t control what color we are. We don’t control what home we are born into. But we control our attitude. We control our work ethic. We control our drive and our commitment.”


52. “When you grieve toxic, abusive parents, you don’t just grieve the abuse, you grieve everything you didn’t have.”- Lily Hope Lucario


53. “Boys and girls of narcissistic mothers both have to deal with a deficit of maternal nurturing that their upbringing lacked. ” ― Mark Bans Chick


54. “When the healthy pursuit of self-interest and self-realization turns into self-absorption, other people can lose their intrinsic value in our eyes and become mere means to the fulfillment of our needs and desires.” ~ P.M. Forni


55. “I like to be admired from afar, and then complimented up close.” ― Gena Showalter


56. “For the most part people are not curious except about themselves.” ~ John Steinbeck


57. “Narcissists don’t co-parent. They counter-parent. they don’t care about the collateral emotional damage done to the children, as long as it hurts you.”


58. “It has been my observation that parents kill more dreams than anybody. ” – Spike Lee


59. “Toxic parents care more about how you make them look than how you actually feel.” – Unknown


60. “How starved you must have been that my heart became a meal for your ego.” ~ Amanda Torroni


61. “Beware of narcissistic people. They’ll tell everyone you’re crazy, only to cover up their trickery. ” ~ Mitta Xinindlu


62. “How starved you must have been that my heart became a meal for your ego.”


63. “If a toxic mom claims to love you, kindly remind her that there is a big difference between real love and abuse or control disguised as love and that real love doesn’t hurt nor is it abusive. ” — unknown


64. “Narcissists are inherently manipulative, they gaslight you with such stealth as to make you feel that you are the one that’s letting them down.” ~ Invajy


65. “Children of narcissists learn that love is abuse. The narcissist teaches them that if someone displeases you, it is okay to harm them and call it love. ” ― M. Wakefield


66. “Parents wonder why the streams are bitter when they themselves have poisoned the fountain. ” ― John Locke


67. “I spend my life constantly calling in ‘imaginary’ debts that aren’t owed to me in order to avoid the ‘real’ debts that I owe to others, and so everybody ends up bankrupt.” ~ Craig D. Lounsbrough


68. “The truth is that the happier and stronger you are, the more unhappy the narcissistic parent is because when you feel good, they lose their grip over you, and the ability to shame you. ” ― Diana Macey


69. “Fear-based parenting is the surest way to create intimidated children.” – Tim Kimmel


70. “The first step to getting anywhere is deciding you’re no longer willing to stay where you are. ”


71. “What a sick, narcissistic society must be we to reward relatability more than credibility?” ― Adeel Ahmed Khan


72. “But both the narcissist and his partner do not really consider each other. Trapped in the moves of an all-consuming dance macabre, they follow the motions morbidly – semiconscious, desensitized, exhausted, and concerned only with survival.” ~ Sam Vaknin


73. “You can’t change the toxic behaviour of your toxic parents but you can decide how you respond.” – Unknown


74. “A toxic narcissistic mother will never accept responsibility for her own mistakes, instead shifting the blame onto her child.”


75. “Toxic narcissistic mothers will go to great lengths to maintain their image, even if it means sacrificing their children’s well-being.”


76. “A lot of people who have experienced trauma at the hands of people they’ve trusted take responsibility, and that is what’s toxic.” – Hannah Gadsby


77. They didn’t help us with homework, come to our open houses at school or graduations


78. “You don't have to leave your whole family in the past, just those who don't deserve a place in your future.” – Christina Enevoldsen


79. Narcissus weeps to find that his Image does not return his love.” — Mason Cooley


80. “Selfish people are unable to love others, but they are also unable to love themselves.” – Unknown


81. “I have a very simple question to people who seem to suffer from excessive narcissism: Please name three other persons who are smarter and more capable than you, in the field you work in. In most cases they are utterly unable to answer that question honestly.” ~ Ingo Molnar


82. “Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.”


83. “Selfish parents may someday realize what damage they have done that can never be undone.” – Unknown


84. “The sadistic narcissist perceives himself as Godlike, ruthless and devoid of scruples, capricious and unfathomable, emotion-less and non-sexual, omniscient, omnipotent and omni-present, a plague, a devastation, an inescapable verdict.” ― Sam Vaknin


85. “Parents are supposed to give the child back to herself with love. If they’ve got duct tape over their eyes because of narcissism, it doesn’t happen. ” — Jane Fonda


86. “Nothing is braver than walking away because you realize it’s time to protect your heart.”


87. “For some, life may be a playground to undermine the brainwaves of others or simply a vainglorious game with an armory of theatrics, illustrating only bleak self-deception, haughty narcissism and dim deficiency in empathy. ” ― Erik Pevernagie


88. “If toxic mothers are not getting the attention they crave from their children, they experience their children as inconveniences who stand in their way of doing what they want to do for themselves. ” — Sherrie Campbell


89. “A narcissist will intentionally and repeatedly remind you of things that will upset you.”


90. “The lack of stability and consistency from a narcissistic mother can make it difficult for her children to feel secure and grounded. ”


91. “Very often, toxic moms will abandon their own children and find meaningless excuses to justify their deeds as to why they are not able to be there for their children. ” — unknown


92. “Whether it’s a parent, sibling, friend, or family member, do not allow a destructive person to drag you down a hole for the rest of your life.”


93. “Parents have got to chill out. Let your kid eat dirt – they’re gonna be fine!” — Jeff Garlin


94. “Parents wonder why the streams are bitter when they themselves have poisoned the fountain.” – John Locke


95. “If a toxic parent does not want to live in sin, they must not provoke their children to sin—especially by using the holy & righteous word to do it.”


96. “Dysfunctional parents let their children know how burdened they have been by their children and how many sacrifices they had to make in order to raise them. ” — Dr. Marita Sirota


97. “Children of selfish and demanding parents are not guilty of anything. They have been abused and manipulated into believing that their sole purpose is to make their parent happy. In fact this is a destructive can job, and the guilt rests with the self-absorbed or narcissistic parent.”- Glynis Sherwood


98. “Don’t let their past abuse define you for the rest of your life.”


99. “Follow your own passion – not your parents’, not your teachers’ – yours.” – Robert Ballard


100. “With a toxic narcissist, get ready to face their demeaning nature as they would belittle and bully you as many times as they can.”


101. “A narcissist slowly chips away at your self-esteem until you lose all sense of who you are and what they have done to you.”


102. “All a narcissist seeks is praise and admiration without trying to reciprocate.”


103. “You can always leave your childhood trauma, your abusive mom or dad behind. Never be a victim. ” — unknown


104. “Self-love for ever creeps out, like a snake, to sting anything which happens … to stumble upon it.” ~ George Gordon Noel Byron


105. “The question ‘How are you (doing)?’ is the most common way of indirectly saying ‘Ask me how I am (doing)’. ” ― Mokokoma Mokhonoana


106. “Control, manipulation and possessiveness is the name of their game.”


107. “As a parent, your child’s happiness should come before your own petty anxieties and jealousies.” – Unknown


108. “At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child's success is the positive involvement of parents.”


109. “Children shouldn’t have to sacrifice so that you can have the life you want. You make sacrifices so your children can have the life that they deserve.” – Unknown


110. “One tip that has always helped me is to keep it on a business level, rather than a personal level. You are now in the ‘business’ of raising these children with a person that no longer resides in your home.”


111. “When I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see the shame-based fear of being ordinary. I see the fear of never feeling extraordinary enough to be noticed, to be lovable, to belong, or to cultivate a sense of purpose.” ― Brené Brown


112. “When the healthy pursuit of self-interest and self-realization turns into self-absorption, other people can lose their intrinsic value in our eyes and become mere means to the fulfillment of our needs and desires. ” ― P. M. Forni


113. “The spirit of arrogance most definitely makes you shine. It paints a bright red target on your own forehead.” ~ Criss Jami


114. “Parents are the least likely to forgive their children for the flaws they ingrained in them.” – Unknown


115. “Loneliness is a form of narcissism. A mother who is in harmony with her child, who understands her place in her child’s life and her role in society, is never lonely. Through caring for her child, all her needs are fulfilled. ” — Jessamine Chan


116. “This is probably one of the most difficult challenges any parent could face – learning to love the other parent enough to make the children first.” – Iyanla Vanzant


117. “I don't care what you think unless it is about me.” ― Kurt Cobain


118. “Selfish parents tend to be treating children like a burden rather than a joy. That’s on them and not about you and your worth as a human so don’t let that drag your self esteem down.” – Unknown


119. A culture of narcissism is not a place where love can flourish. The emergence of me" culture is a direct response to our nation's failure to truly actualize the vision of democracy. While emotional needs are difficult, and often impossible to satisfy, material desires are easier to fulfill. ” ― Bell Hooks


120. “Narcissist: a more polite term for a self-serving, manipulative, evil jerk with no soul and no compassion.” ~ Anonymous


121. “Everyone needs a house to live in, but a supportive family is what builds a home.”


122. “Narcissists install a mental filter in our heads a little bit at a time. . . . ‘Will he get upset if I do/say/think this? Will he approve/disapprove? Will he feel hurt by this?’ Until we can uninstall the narcissist-filter, our actions are controlled by narcissists to some degree.” – Sam Vaknin


123. “A narcissistic man will break your heart as many times as he wishes to.”


124. “A narcissistic parent will provoke an independent child to anger in order to feel superior and prove the child’s flaws. ” — Shannon Thomas


125. “That man who lives only for himself is the cruelest mortal on the face of the earth.” – Unknown


126. “A child’s shoulders were not built to bear the weight of their parent’s choices.”- Toby Mac


127. “I loved myself and since I loved me, I loved him because I realized he was good for me. A type of self worth, a type of narcissistic love.” ~ Dominic Riccitello


128. “Hate is the complement of fear and narcissists like being feared. It imbues them with an intoxicating sensation of omnipotence.” ― Sam Vaknin


129. “You don't let go of a bad relationship because you stop caring about them. You let go because you start caring about yourself.”


130. “Narcissism is a cover for a very weak self-image. They often want attention in any form, good or bad. Although they love adoration, the worst pain for a narcissist is to not be noticed. They will say or do outrageous things to be noticed if they are feeling ignored.” — Dian Grier, LCSW


131. “Half the pain in human life comes from gazing in mirrors.” ~ Marty Rubin


132. “You can teach a narcissist to show up on time, but you can't train them to listen once they get there. ” ― Dr. Ramani Durvasula


133. “Silent treatment is a narcissist’s most used weapon. ” — unknown


134. “The narcissist would love nothing more than to know you are eating uncooked Top Ramen out of a dumpster for dinner tonight while wearing yesterday’s underwear.” ~ Tina Swithin


135. “Narcissists often appear to be very confident, but a key feature of narcissism is low self-esteem. Narcissists display arrogance and exaggerate their achievements to hide this low self-esteem.” – Emily Guarnotta, PsyD


136. “Just remember when you are ignoring them, you are teaching them to live without you.” – Unknown


137. “When I was with my mother, I sometimes thought of myself as a trophy. Something to be flaunted before friends. When out of public view, I sat on the shelf ignored and forgotten. ” — Joan Frances


138. “Nobody can be kinder than the narcissist while you react to life on his terms.” ~ Elizabeth Bowen


139. “A person can’t pick up the children and just squeeze them to which-a-way they want them to be.”


140. “Toxic narcissistic mothers will often isolate their children from others, making it difficult for them to form healthy relationships.”


141. “The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails. ”


142. “Americans are experiencing an epidemic in narcissistic behavior in a culture that is intrinsically self-conscious and selfish, and citizens are encouraged to pursue happiness and instant gratification of their personal desires.” ― Kilroy J. Oldster, author of Dead Toad Scrolls


143. “It is a violation of trust to use your kids as caulking for the cracks in you.” – Anne Lamott


144. “The ‘I’ is the ego that we must avoid at any cost, if we truly wish to be different from narcissists. Instead of using ‘I’ repeatedly, it would be wise to replace it with ‘we’. ” ― Mwanandeke Kindembo


145. “Being a control freak is a weakness, not a strength. If you can’t allow others to shine, you’re exhibiting signs of narcissism and showing a lack of self-confidence. It is isolation through ego.” ~ Stewart Stafford


146. “Abuse grows from attitudes and values, not feelings. The roots are ownership, the trunk is entitlement, and the branches are control. ” ― Lundy Bancroft


147. “The narcissist mother refuses to acknowledge her games if she is pouting, let her. If she is using guilt in an attempt to force you to do something, do not give in. ” — Cynthia Bailey Rug


148. “The most loving parents and relatives commit murder with smiles on their faces. They force us to destroy the person we really are: a subtle kind of murder. ”– Jim Morrison


149. “Narcissistic mothers will often use their children as emotional punching bags, taking out their own frustrations on them. ”


150. “I’m too ugly to be a narcissist.” ~ Mitch Albom


151. “I have a very simple question to people who seem to suffer from excessive narcissism: Please name three other persons who are smarter and more capable than you, in the field you work in. In most cases they are utterly unable to answer that question honestly. ” — Ingo Molnar


152. “Parents. Honestly. Sometimes they really do think the world revolves around them.” – Randa Abdel-Fattah


153. “Selfishness is not living as one wishes, but rather requesting that others live as one wishes.”


154. “If a toxic parent does not want to live in sin, they must not provoke their children to sin—especially by using the holy & righteous word to do it. ” ― Zara Hairston


155. “It is the selfish parents who are to blame. Pay attention, be involved in your children's lives. They are your legacy, your only hope.”


156. “If you hold onto hurt and anger with a narcissist, the children will have no normal parent. The narcissistic parent will use them as puppets, lovebomb, and abandon them. You are their only hope.”


157. “You don't let go of a bad relationship because you stop caring about them. You let go because you start caring about yourself.” – Charles Orlando


158. “If mental abuse was a punishable crime, a lot of parents would be in jail serving a long term.”


159. “A narcissistic mother will rarely apologize or take responsibility for her own mistakes, instead blaming others for her problems. ”


160. “No matter how socially skilled an extreme narcissist is, he has a major attachment dysfunction. The extreme narcissist is frozen in childhood.” — Samuel Lopez de Victoria


161. “Instead of treating your child like how you were treated. Treat them with the same love and attention you wanted from your parents while growing up.” – Jonathan Anthony Burkett


162. “Everyone thinks they're entitled to their 15 minutes of fame. And it's that narcissism that makes people, who have no business writing a book, think they can write a book. ” ― Oliver Markus Malloy


163. “Today’s troubled homes are made by parents who want to have children but don’t want their children to have parents.” – Agona Apel


164. “Sometimes you just have to walk away. End toxic family relationships because they hurt more than they help. And start rebuilding a new definition of a healthy family in your life, far away from toxic family members.”


165. “Some scars don’t hurt. Some scars are numb. Some scars rid you of the capacity to feel anything ever again.” – Joyce Rachelle


166. “In the Narcissistic parent’s eyes, they do no wrong nor do they feel they should be held accountable for the bad and wrong things that they have done. ” — Katherine Childress


167. “Everyone thinks they’re entitled to their 15 minutes of fame. And it’s that narcissism that makes people, who have no business writing a book, think they can write a book.” ~ Oliver Markus Malloy


168. “Family is where you’re meant to be most free, don’t let blood chain you down. ” – Michelle Meleen


169. “Did you have parents or just some people who thought they should own somebody?” — Catherine Lacey


170. “Narcissistic mothers will often deny their children the right to their own emotions and feelings, belittling or dismissing them when they express th


171. “Withhold admiration from a narcissist and be disliked. Give it and be treated with indifference.” ~ Mason Cooley


172. “Withhold admiration from a narcissist and be disliked. Give it and be treated with indifference. ” — Mason Cooley


173. “Growing up with a toxic narcissistic mother can leave you feeling like you are never enough, no matter what you do.”


174. “Recognizing a problem and seeking help is a sign not only of health but of courage.”- Susan Forward


175. “Fear based parenting is the surest way to create intimidated children.” – Tim Kimmel


176. “The scars left by a toxic narcissistic mother may not be visible, but they can run deep and affect every aspect of a person’s life.”


177. “If mental abuse was a punishable crime, a lot of parents would be in jail serving a long term. ” — Maddy Malhotra


178. “This is called crazy making, and it is what narcissists do. They push to provoke bad feelings, and when they do and their victim reacts, they feel better. Somehow they transfer their state of mind onto their victims.”


179. “Since narcissists deep down feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world’s fault. ” — M. Scott Peck


180. At my wedding my parents planned a reception at their home afterwards… they did not invite me, my new husband or his family. My mother wanted the attention to be on herself, not on me and used the occasion to do so


181. “Love without sacrifice is like theft”


182. “If your parents ignored you, or if they are just not emotionally available, or if they yell a lot, that is a type of trauma.” – Tucker Max


183. “Love and respect them but don’t get caught up in their drama.”


184. “The main priority of everyone surrounding a highly narcissistic person is to ensure that they are looking after themselves, maintaining their own mental and physical health and wellbeing, before looking after the narcissist.” ~ Theresa Jackson


185. “There’s really no point in having children if you’re not going to be home enough to father them.” – Anthony Edwards


186. “A good parent never uses their child for their happiness.” – Unknown


187. “Children of narcissists learn that love is abuse. The narcissist teaches them that if someone displeases you, it is okay to harm them and call it love.”


188. “Boys want to grow up to be like their male role models. And boys who grow up in homes with absent fathers search the hardest to figure out what it means to be male.”


189. “Toxic mothers have this type of toxic, manipulative love which is controlling and possessive in nature and never allows you to be yourself or express your true individuality. ” — unknown


190. “How many narcissists does it take to screw in a light bulb? None, they don’t use light bulbs, they use gaslighting!” ― Unknown


191. “Most signs of emotional immaturity are beyond a person’s conscious control, and most emotionally immature parents have no awareness of how they’ve affected their children. ” – Lindsay C. Gibson


192. “Pathological narcissism is like psychological arsenic: lethal in small doses over time!”


193. “In the early stages of narcissist abuse you will be angry enough to think crazy things. Be strong. They are not worth your anger. Get help and heal that is the way to peace.” ― Tracy Malone


194. “Narcissist parents don't care about their children's feelings at all. Only their feelings matter.”


195. “Anyone could father a child. But a good parent puts his child's needs before his own. A parent should be selfless not selfish.” — Penelope Ward


196. I wish that people would stop destroying other people just because they were once destroyed. — Karen Salmansohn


197. “Narcissistic mothers will often prioritize their own needs and desires over those of their children, even when it comes to basic necessities like food and shelter. ”


198. “I was worthy of her love whether she gave it to me or not. Every child is worthy of love. ” — Richard Paul Evans


199. “I understand perfectly because I’m in love with myself. The fact that I’m not transfixed in front of the nearest mirror takes a great deal of self-control.” ~ Anne Rice


200. “You might as well bang your head into a brick wall if you expect the narcissist to be reasonable, empathetic or human in any way. If you sense or witness any of these traits, there is an ulterior motive. When the narcissist is being nice, it’s because they have something to gain.” — Tina Swithin


201. “Parents forgive their children least readily for the faults they themselves instilled in them.” – Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach


202. “Coparenting with an ex can be tough, but if you stay calm and keep your child’s needs in focus, your actions will always be sound, no matter how your coparent might behave.”


203. “When you’re three or seven years old, it’s less frightening to think of yourself as an unlovable, disappointing screwup than to recognize the fact that you’re living with a monster.” – Keith Ablow


204. “They should love you, just as you are. Parents should love their kids, right? “You’d think so”.c- N.R. Walker


205. “You will never really see how toxic someone is until you breathe fresher air.” — Unknown


206. “Narcissist parents don’t care about their children’s feelings at all. Only their feelings matter. ” — Kim Saeed


207. “Narcissism has more in common with self-hatred than with self-admiration.” – Christopher Lasch


208. “Family is where you're meant to be most free. Don't let blood chain you down.” – Unknown


209. “Parents wonder why the streams are bitter when they themselves have poisoned the fountain.”


210. “Individuality should not translate to narcissism. Realizing the strength of individuality is an accomplishment while being narcissistic is a failure.” ~ Amitav Chowdhury


211. “Withhold admiration from a narcissist and be disliked. Give it and be treated with indifference.” — Mason Cooley


212. “He's satisfied with himself. If you have a soul you can't be satisfied. ” ― Graham Greene


213. “Where there is much pride or much vanity, there will also be much revengefulness. ― Arthur Schopenhauer


214. “Letting go doesn't mean that you don't care about someone anymore. It's just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”


215. “The ‘I’ is the ego that we must avoid at any cost, if we truly wish to be different from narcissists. Instead of using ‘I’ repeatedly, it would be wise to replace it with ‘we’.” ~ Mwanandeke Kindembo


216. “A lot of parents will do anything for their kids except let them be themselves. ” — Banksy


217. “Self-absorbed parents express and experience few emotions, usually only anger and fear. They use the words for feelings, but these are empty and meaningless. ” – Nina W. Brown


218. “Fighting became a way of life and seemed perfectly normal for your family.” – Steven Farmer


219. “As long as you continue to react so strongly to them, you give them the power to upset you, which allows them to control you. ” ― Susan Forward


220. “All of us develop our expectations about how people will treat us based on our relationships with our parents.”- Susan Forward


221. “Dysfunctional parents let their children know how burdened they have been by their children and how many sacrifices they had to make in order to raise them.”- Dr Marita Sirota


222. “I don’t care what you think unless it is about me.” ~ Kurt Cobain


223. “The unpredictability of a narcissistic mother’s moods and behavior can be a constant source of stress and anxiety for her children. ”


224. “In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted. It’s talking about them that is forbidden.”- Marcia Sirota


225. “Getting angry when something about their behavior is challenged in the nicest way is a typical reaction of a narcissistic parent. ” ― Diana Macey


226. “Your mother's happiness is not your responsibility. It has never been.”


227. “A toxic narcissistic mother will often use her child as a reflection of her own success, rather than valuing them for who they are as an individual.”


228. “Narcissists are emotional porcupines, watch out for the quills!” ― Tracy A. Malone


229. “My toxic mother can only intimidate me if I let her. While she’s busy trying to bully the child, I, the adult, can reject her, ignore her, or report her to authorities. ” ― Rayne Wolf


230. “Your toxic parent may charm the pants off perfect strangers, your friends and more distant relatives. All of which just appears to make you out the bad guy.”


231. “All toxic mothers are more dangerous than absent fathers due to their contagious toxic energy which poisons your soul. ” — unknown


232. “Many children of toxic parents find it exceptionally difficult to identify who they are once they grow up.”- JR Thorpe


233. “An unloving mother robs the child of a sense of belonging. The need to belong can become a lifelong quest for him or her.”


234. “A narcissist parent is easily frustrated by a healthy, independent child that they can't control through parental emotional manipulation.” – Shannon Thomas


235. “Toxic people defy logic. Some are blissfully unaware of the negative impact that they have on those around them, and others seem to derive satisfaction from creating chaos and pushing other people’s buttons.”


236. “Most children would rather preserve the fantasy of a loving connection with their fathers and mothers, at all costs, even if it costs them their self-esteem.”


237. “How to tell if someone is not good for you? You being yourself feels like a betrayal. ” — unknown


238. “Good parenting gives headaches, but bad parenting gives heartaches.” – Shiv Khera


239. “You might as well bang your head into a brick wall if you expect the narcissist to be reasonable, empathetic or human in any way. If you sense or witness any of these traits, there is an ulterior motive. When the narcissist is being nice, it’s because they have something to gain.” ~ Tina Swithin


240. “At the slightest of inconvenience, a narcissist would turn arrogant.”


241. “A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors.” ~ Karla Grimes


242. “Toxic moms are self-absorbed parents, which is why they are controlling and possessive in the first place to their children. ” — Samuel Zulu


243. “When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful. ”


244. “Co-parenting is not a competition. It’s a collaboration of two homes working together with the best interest of the child at heart. Work for your kids not against them.”


245. “Gaslighters deliberately play subtle mind games and psychological manipulations; which are carried out gradually in stages.” ~ Invajy


246. “You don't have to leave your whole family in the past, just those who don't deserve a place in your future.”


247. “To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” ~ Oscar Wilde


248. “Growing up with a toxic narcissistic mother can leave you feeling like you are constantly walking on eggshells, never knowing when the next outburst will come.”


249. “Blood relatives often have nothing to do with family, and similarly, family is about who you choose to make your life with.”


250. “You don’t have to repeat the trauma of your childhood. Use the pain your mother inflicted on you to motivate you to find a better way to raise your own children. ” — Barrie Davenport


251. “Emotionally immature parents can act out their need for enmeshment even with people who aren’t close family members. If there’s an enmeshment void, they’ll go outside the immediate family to fill it. They might also become enmeshed with a group, such as a church or other organization. ” – Lindsay C. Gibson


252. “There’s a reason narcissists don’t learn from mistakes and that’s because they never get past the first step which is admitting that they made one.” ~ Jeffrey Kluger


253. “The hateful and stinging words of a narcissistic parent can linger in the mind of an adult child long after the adult has left home.”- Shannon Thomas


254. “Toxic narcissists cling on to empathetic and genuine people whenever they get a chance.”


255. “Narcissistic mothers will often use their children’s vulnerabilities as a way to control and manipulate them. ”


256. When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth just like you did. – Jill Blakeway


257. “If you were raised as a child by a narcissistic mom, you might have spent a lifetime being mistreated and shamed for things that you never did. Toxic shame is a result of being told you are not enough. You may feel worthless and unlovable. ” ― Dana Arcuri


258. “A narcissist’s criticism is their autobiography.” ― M. Wakefield, author of Are You in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship?


259. “What’s so sad is when we’re younger, if you have a bad parent, that is normal to you, and that’s what you think of as healthy.” – Jennifer Lawrence


260. “Families are homes built on a foundation of trust and love. A toxic family can never be a home, because the foundation doesn't exist.” – Unknown


261. “Let go of negative people. They only show up to share complaints, problems, disastrous stories, fear, and judgment on others. If somebody is looking for a bin to throw all their trash into, make sure it’s not in your mind.”


262. “You can be a good daughter or you can be a good mother, but you can't be both. It is your decision and it is yours only.”


263. “Being a parent does not give you an excuse for bad manners.” – Rosalind Wiseman


264. “The biggest impediment to loving life is our inflated egos. Only by suppressing our ego and controlling our selfish thoughts can we truly comprehend the immaculate beauty of every day unfolding before us. ” ― Kilroy J. Oldster


265. “Toxic mothers plant seeds of guilt, low self-esteem, and low self-worth into their daughters, which further manifests when those daughters get into their own relationships, making them extremely needy or even toxic just like their own moms. ” — unknown


266. “Narcissistic mothers will often use their children’s accomplishments as a way to enhance their own reputation and status. ”


267. “Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it is the place where we find the deepest heartache.”


268. “You consider yourself your most fascinating subject. ” ― Britt Bennett


269. “A narcissistic mother doesn’t love her child, she loves the power and control she has over them.”


270. “I have a gaping painful hole in my soul where good, loving parents and a normal, safe childhood should have been. ” — Lily Hope Lucario


271. “Just because someone gives you life doesn’t mean they will love you in the right way. ” — unknown


272. “An unpredictable parent is a fearsome god in the eyes of a child.” – Susan Forward


273. “Abusive parents often blame their children for their abusive and immature behavior as a way of covering their tracks so that they don’t look bad. ” — unknown


274. “Some of your unrealistic expectations for yourself result from the messages received from your self-absorbed parent about how you were expected to take care of the parent. ” – Nina W. Brown


275. “In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted. It’s talking about them that is forbidden. ”– Marcia Sirota


276. “Relationships with narcissists are held in place by hope of a ‘someday better,’ with little evidence to support it will ever arrive.” ~ Ramani Durvasula


277. “Many victims of narcissistic abuse are hypersensitive. They don't want to be told by others that they wrong when they fight with their narcissist. They see it as standing up for themselves, when in reality it is perpetuating what the narcissist wants ― drama and a reaction. ” ― Shannon L. Alder


278. “There’s nothing worse than a man that can be everything to everybody else. Except a father to their own child.” – Unknown


279. “There was nothing more unattractive than narcissism, she thought: nothing could transform beauty into a cloying, unattractive quality than that self-conscious appreciation of self. ” — Alexander McCall Smith


280. “A child should never feel as if they need to earn a mother’s love.” – Sherrie Campbell


281. “Don’t let guilt come up your way.”


282. “You must let go of the responsibility for the painful events of your childhood and put it where it belongs.” – Susan Forward


283. “How starved you must have been that my heart became a meal for your ego. ” — Amanda Torroni


284. “Anyone could father a child. But a good parent puts his child's needs before his own. A parent should be selfless, not selfish.”


285. “If a mother cannot sacrifice for her kids, she doesn’t deserve them!” – Unknown


286. “Did you have parents or just some people who thought they should own somebody?” – Catherine Lacey


287. “Children of narcissistic parents are often turned against their siblings in a competition to vie for the affection and love they always craved but never received.”


288. “You can always leave your childhood trauma your abusive mom or dad behind. Never be a victim.” – Unknown


289. “That which he projects ahead of him as his ideal, is merely his substitute for the lost narcissism of his childhood ― the time when he was his own ideal.” ― Sigmund Freud


290. “It is the self parents who are to blame. Pay attention. Be involved in your children’s lives. They are your legacy, your only hope. ” — Aaron B. Powell


291. “Since narcissists deep down feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world’s fault.” ~ Scott Peck


292. “Healthy levels of narcissism and self-enhancement are necessary, with a low level of self-enhancement being detrimental to our wellbeing and success. ” ― Theresa Jackson


293. “People tend to raise the child inside of them rather than the child in front of them.”


294. “The narcissist is like a bucket with a hole in the bottom: No matter how much you put in, you can never fill it up. ” — Dr. Ramani Durvasula


295. “Narcissist parents do not know their children; they aren’t interested in what they have to say unless it affects them. ” — Tina Fuller


296. “Narcissists would rather lie and humiliate you than to admit that they were in the wrong.” ~ Mitta Xinindlu


297. “The constant criticism and negativity from a narcissistic mother can wear down her children’s self-esteem over time. ”


298. “Spanking a child is about the parent not the child. The child will learn more from positive correction than physical manipulation. ” — Asa Don Brown


299. “The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do. ”


300. “A river cuts through rock, not because of its power, but because of its persistence. ”


301. “Projection is narcissist’s signature technique.” ~ Invajy


302. “The toxic parent sees the child as a threat to their own ego and having the child overshadow the parent is not an option in their mind.”- Shannon Thomas


303. “Narcissistic love is riding on the rollercoaster of disaster filled with a heart full of tears. ”— Sheree Griffin


304. “How to tell if someone is not good for you? You being yourself feels like a betrayal. ” — unknown


305. “We are all born the same, we are completely cute, innocent, sweet, and we need that reflection of ourselves as little human beings to live, and I was not receiving that from my mother. ” ― Anneke Lucas


306. “It is both tragic and freeing to accept that your mother is not capable of being the mother you always needed her to be.” – Stephi Wagner


307. “Parenting is not for sissies. You have to sacrifice and grow up. ” — Jillian Michaels


308. “The toxicity that comes from them is often the result of their own unmet needs, insecurities they have which they project on their children to find solace.”


309. “He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals.” — Benjamin Franklin


310. “Sometimes, the people closest to you betray you, and your home isn't a place you can be happy anymore. It's hard but it's true.”


311. “Selfish genes actually explain altruistic individuals, and to me that’s crystal-clear. ” — Richard Dawkins


312. “Real love moves freely in both directions. Don’t waste your time on anything else.”


313. “If parents wish to preserve childhood for their own children, they must conceive of parenting as an act of rebellion against culture.”


314. “No one has probably helped me more with my narcissism than my dog. ” ― Tucker Max


315. “No child should ever have to bear the burden of parenting their own parents. To toxic parents, you existed to serve them all the time.”- Kim Saeed


316. “There is simply no winning with a narcissist. He will treat you so horribly that you will become withdrawn and depressed and then he will turn around and say, ‘You’re no fun anymore, you’re always so depressed. I need to be with someone more positive. ’” — Susan Williams


317. “Anybody who wishes to go beyond the free-will of another person is already practising narcissistic characteristics. ” ― Mwanandeke Kindembo


318. “Some people seem like a bright light during your darkest moment. . . a beautiful refuge. . . but it's a trap. . . there is only more pain there. Now that I think about it. . . I imagine that's what bugs feel like when they fly into the zapper. ” ― Steve Maraboli


319. “You’re human. You’ll screw up. Denying that is crazy. Forgiving yourself has all the benefits of self-esteem without making you a narcissist that’s out of touch with reality.” – David D. Burns


320. “When we recognize that we are not responsible for our childhood deprivations, and that we are entitled to feel anger (but not to act on it – awareness is not a license to kill), then we are able to let go of that anger and not be controlled by it. ”― Victoria Secunda


321. “A narcissist will undermine your capability of putting efforts as a parent even in front of your children.”


322. “Being a selfish parent is a sign of not having learned from experience.” – Unknown


323. “People who love themselves, don’t hurt other people. The more we hate ourselves, the more we want others to suffer.”


324. “When you have this hurt for this long, particularly when a bond so sacred as the mother to child is broken, it’s a slow walk to healing. ” — Iyanla Vanzant


325. “Worry a little bit every day and in a lifetime you will lose a couple of years. If something is wrong, fix it if you can. But train yourself not to worry: Worry never fixes anything. ”


326. “Remember, you are not managing an inconvenience; You are raising a human being.” – Kittie Frantz


327. “Narcissistic mothers will often use their children to fulfill their own unmet emotional needs, rather than providing them with the support they need. ”


328. “To all you parents out there, don’t make your little girls, or little boys, so thirsty for love that they will want to drink water that will poison them. ” – Lisa Bedrick


329. “That which he projects ahead of him as his ideal, is merely his substitute for the lost narcissism of his childhood - the time when he was his own ideal. ” ― Sigmund Freud


330. “Don't try to make children grow up to be like you, or they may do it.”


331. “A narcissist wants you to adopt his version of himself.” – Hart Pomerantz


332. “The narcissist would love nothing more than to know you are eating uncooked Top Ramen out of a dumpster for dinner tonight while wearing yesterday’s underwear. ” — Tina Swithin


333. “Since narcissists deep down feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world’s fault.” ― M. Scott Peck


334. “Individuality should not translate to narcissism. Realizing the strength of individuality is an accomplishment while being narcissistic is a failure. ” ― Amitav Chowdhury


335. “Silent treatment is a narcissist’s most used weapon.”


336. “In a narcissist’s world you are not their one and only. You are an extension of that person and last place in their mind, while they secure back up narcissistic supply.” ~ Shannon L. Alder


337. “When you say “No” to a toxic family, you say “Yes” to loving yourself.”


338. Both my mother and father were always focused on their needs. Example; if there was no milk in the house, my father would wait until we went to bed, then go out and buy a little pint of milk for himself. It never occurred to him that his children didn’t have milk


339. “Fear based parenting is the surest way to create intimidated children.”


340. “You don't have to leave your whole family in the past, just those who don't deserve a place in your future.” – Unknown


341. “Toxic parents are the root cause of all dysfunctional families because the fish rots first at its head.”


342. “No other being is lesser human than the one who thinks of others as such.” ~ Abhijit Naskar


343. “Hate is the complement of fear and narcissists like being feared. It imbues them with an intoxicating sensation of omnipotence.” ~ Sam Vaknin


344. After we left home my parents never called us. When we all had children, they never asked about or called them either. When we would visit on holidays, the conversation was ALL about them. They rarely asked about us


345. “You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great. ”


346. “Dysfunctional parents do not apologise. It is one feature that the children of narcissists would instantly agree on. They will lie and justify themselves, but never accept they did anything wrong.”


347. “Growing up with a narcissistic mother can make it difficult to express your true self and interests, as you are often expected to fulfill her needs first. ”


348. “Growing up with a toxic narcissistic mother can leave you feeling like you are alone in the world, without anyone to turn to for support.”


349. “There’s a definition of narcissism that when a parent is narcissistic, instead of the child seeing himself reflected in the mother’s face and the mother’s joy, the child of the narcissistic parent feels like, ‘What can I do to make her, okay, to make her happy?'” — Susan Sullivan


350. “She could feel him, glaring at her with a psychotic look in his eyes, taking pleasure in her suffering, using it to fuel his next move. ” ― Arti Manani


351. “Gaslighting is what a narcissist does best.”


352. “It is both tragic and freeing to accept that your mother is not capable of being the mother you always needed her to be. ” — Stephi Wagner


353. “Our mothers tell us that there are no monsters under our beds or hidden inside our closets, but they don’t warn us that sometimes monsters come dressed as people that claim to love you more than the sun loves the moon. ” — Nikita Gill


354. “The ones that love us least, are the ones we’ll die to please. ” – Paul Westerberg


355. “Growing up and trying to have your own values and personality is not received well, and the narcissistic parent will try to sabotage you any way they can. ” ― Diana Macey


356. “No one has probably helped me more with my narcissism than my dog.” ~ Tucker Max


357. “Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers go through a grieving process. This is in turn is part of the healing process. We only get one Mother, and it is a huge loss accepting the fact.”


358. “Children of narcissists learn that love is abuse. The narcissist teaches them that if someone displeases you, it is okay to harm them and call it love. ”― M. Wakefield


359. “She could feel him, glaring at her with a psychotic look in his eyes, taking pleasure in her suffering, using it to fuel his next move.” ~ Arti Manani


360. “Controllers, abusers and manipulative people don’t question themselves. They don’t ask themselves if the problem is them. They always say the problem is someone else. ” — Darlene Ouimet


361. “You must let go of the responsibility for the painful events of your childhood and put it where it belongs.”


362. “Sometimes, the people closest to you betray you, and your home isn't a place you can be happy anymore. It's hard but it's true.” – P.C. Cast


363. “The first step to healing from a toxic narcissistic mother is to recognize that the abuse was not your fault, and that you deserve better.


364. “Selfish people don’t consider how their decisions affect others. Their own convenience is all that matters. ” — Unknown


365. “Narcissistic mothers will often use their children to extract sympathy and attention from others, rather than valuing them as individuals. ”


366. “Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it’s the place we find the deepest heartache.” – Lyanla Vansant


367. “Narcissistic abuse is not just that someone dumped you or who you had a little tiff with them. NA is psychological abuse and brainwashing using intermittent reward and punishment, coercive control and withholding normal empathetic, emotional reactions to lower your self esteem.” ― Alice Little


368. “Every narcissist is a hero and a legend in his own mind. ” ― Oscar Auliq-Ice


369. “Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people. ”


370. “Love is intermittent reinforcement with spouses and children alike. The child is love-bombed when the narcissist feels the child reflects their false self. The moment the child fails to do so, the narcissistic parent blithely discards them.” ~ M. Wakefield


371. “Narcissistic mothers will often use their children to bolster their own sense of importance and power, making them feel like pawns in a larger game. ”


372. “Dysfunctional parents let their children know how burdened they have been by their children and how many sacrifices they had to make in order to raise them.”


373. “Cutting your toxic mother off is not bad, it’s called self-care. ” — unknown


374. “All parents damage their children. This was their life together. Neglect. Violence. Silence. ” — Mitch Albom


375. “Don’t even try to put effort into letting them know that you are leaving them.”


376. “Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it is the place where we find the deepest heartache.” – Iyanla Vanzant


377. “As individuals and as a nation, we now suffer from social narcissism. The beloved echo of our ancestors, the virgin America, has been abandoned. We have now fallen in love with our own image, with images of our making, which turn out to be images of ourselves.” ~ Daniel J. Boorstin


378. “Manipulation and control are favourite weapons abusive dads often use on their children for control.” – Unknown


379. “Growing up with a narcissistic mother can lead to feelings of guilt and shame, as though you are responsible for her behavior. ”


380. “The habits that took years to build, do not take a day to change. ”


381. “Some people think that the world revolves around them but even the Sun is not the center of the Universe. ” ― Halle Teart


382. “Narcissist mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave by maternal expectations and whims. ” ― Dr. McBride


383. “It is not love that should be depicted as blind, but self-love.” ~ Voltaire


384. “A man who loves others based solely on how they make him feel, or what they do for him, is really not loving others at all – but loving only himself.” ~ Criss Jami


385. “Narcissists withhold affection to punish you. Withhold attention to get revenge. And withhold an emotional empathetic response to make you feel insecure. ” ― Alice Little


386. “Be more than a father, be a dad. Be more than a figure, be an example. ” – Steve Maraboli


387. “Some people seem like a bright light during your darkest moment… a beautiful refuge… but it’s a trap… there is only more pain there. Now that I think about it… I imagine that’s what bugs feel like when they fly into the zapper.” ~ Steve Maraboli


388. “Sometimes, narcissistic parents are also better loved from a distance to avoid further emotional damage.”


389. “First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, and then you win. ”


390. “Abuse is indeed a way to vent out a narcissist’s anger and dissatisfaction.”


391. “Out of all the addictions in the world, Attention is slowly but surely becoming one of the most dangerous. ” ― Saahil Prem


392. “Being a selfish parent is a sign of not having learned from experience.”


393. “Narcissistic abuse is not just that someone dumped you or who you had a little tiff with them. NA is psychological abuse and brainwashing using intermittent reward and punishment, coercive control and withholding normal empathetic, emotional reactions to lower your self esteem.” ~ Alice Little


394. “Narcissist parents want total control. Take back your control. If possible, don’t accept any money, favor, items or anything from them.”- Tina Fuller


395. “To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance. ” — Oscar Wilde


396. “Narcissism is voluntary blindness, an agreement not to look beneath the surface.” ~ Sam Keen


397. “For some, life may be a playground to undermine the brainwaves of others or simply a vainglorious game with an armory of theatrics, illustrating only bleak self-deception, haughty narcissism, and dim deficiency in empathy.” ― Erik Pevernagie


398. “The worst lies were the lies I told myself about the lies others told me.” ~ Alice Little


399. “In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted. It’s talking about them that is forbidden. ” — Marcia Sirota


400. “Gaslighting is a major tool of manipulation. It’s about distorting your perceptions and asserting what works better for the abuser. ” ― Diana Macey


401. “Many children of toxic parents find it exceptionally difficult to identify who they are once they grow up.”


402. “Unstable and dysfunctional homes are offshoots of narcissist parents ruling them.” – Unknown


403. “To be your own god is to be the biggest participant in creating your own hell.” ― Craig D. Lounsbrough, author


404. “A family who relies on their children for happiness make both their children and themselves miserable.”


405. “I’m a recovering narcissist. I didn’t know I was a narcissist, actually. I thought narcissism meant you love yourself, and then someone told me there’s a flip side to it. So it’s actually drearier than self-love; it’s unrequited self-love.” ― Emily Levine


406. “A toxic narcissistic mother can leave her child with a distorted sense of self, making it difficult for them to trust their own thoughts and feelings.”


407. “It is possible for you to show respect for your self-absorbed parent in interactions with him or her without agreeing with the parent’s characterization of you or having to buy into the parent’s denigrating comments about you. ” – Nina W. Brown


408. “Toxic people defy logic. Some are blissfully unaware of the negative impact that they have on those around them, and others seem to derive satisfaction from creating chaos and pushing other people’s buttons.” – Travis Bradberry


409. “Your family, your real family, will always welcome you home with open arms. Anyone who says you can lose their love isn't really family, no matter what blood says.”


410. “I think writers are the most narcissistic people. Well, I musn't say this, I like many of them, a great many of my friends are writers.” ― Sylvia Plath


411. “In a narcissist's world you are not their one and only. You are an extension of that person and last place in their mind, while they secure back up narcissistic supply. ” ― Shannon L. Alder


412. “I was worthy of her love whether she gave it to me or not. Every child is worthy of love. ” ― Richard Paul Evans


413. “Toxic people make you think you’re holding a grudge when you’re really holding a boundary.” — Mel Robins, motivational speaker


414. “His arrogance is going to bury whatever parts of him which survived the death of his pretentiousness. ” ― Niedria Dionne Kenny


415. “Healthy levels of narcissism and self-enhancement are necessary, with a low level of self-enhancement being detrimental to our wellbeing and success.” ~ Theresa Jackson


416. “No, we don’t control who our parents are. We don’t control what color we are. We don’t control what home we are born into. But we control our attitude. We control our work ethic. We control our drive and our commitment.” – Dabo Swinney


417. “The narcissist test: Step 1—Take a moment to think about yourself. Step 2—If you made it to step two, you are not a narcissist.” — Anonymous


418. “A toxic narcissistic mother will often undermine her child’s accomplishments, making it difficult for them to feel confident and proud of their achievements.”


419. “Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. ”


420. “Ego is borne of the need to ‘prove’ oneself instead of making the choice to ‘be’ oneself. ” ― Craig D. Lounsbrough


421. “If you don’t make the time to work on creating the life you want, you’re eventually going to be forced to spend a lot of time dealing with a life you don’t want. ”


422. “I like to be admired from afar, and then complimented up close. ” ― Gena Showalter


423. “You can teach a narcissist to show up on time, but you can’t train them to listen once they get there.” ― Dr. Ramani Durvasula


424. “Real family does not come from your blood. It is the people standing beside you when no one else is.”


425. “Toxic narcissistic mothers will use their children as pawns in their power games, without any regard for their feelings or needs.”


426. “Narcissus does not fall in love with his reflection because it is beautiful, but because it is his. If it were his beauty that enthralled him, he would be set free in a few years by its fading. ” — W. H. Auden


427. “The lion is most handsome when looking for food.” — Rumi


428. “Your children vividly remember every unkind thing you ever did to them, plus a few you really didn't.”


429. “Daughters of narcissistic mothers absorb the message “I am valued for what I do, rather than for who I am.” ~ Karyl McBride


430. “Anyone could father a child. But a good parent puts his child’s needs before his own. A parent should be selfless, not selfish.” – Penelope Ward


431. “The toxic parent sees the child as a threat to their own ego and having the child overshadow the parent is not an option in their mind.”


432. “To all you parents out there, don't make your little girls, or little boys, so thirsty for love that they will want to drink water that will poison them.”


433. “Getting angry when something about their behaviour is challenged in the nicest way, is a typical reaction of a narcissistic parent. ” ― Diana Macey


434. “Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you. ”


435. “Covert narcissists prey on people with the right weaknesses for them to exploit. This is why the abuse is wrapped in a pretense of care, and they can get people fooled for a very long time. ” ― Diana Macey


436. “No man should bring children into the world who is unwilling to persevere to the end in their nature and education.” – Plato


437. “It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it. ”


438. “Sometimes it’s better to end something and try to start something new than imprison yourself in hoping for the impossible.”


439. “A Narcissist will never admit they have a problem, if confronted with their own bad behavior they will do their very best to make people believe they are the victim.” ~ Harvey Stuarts


440. “What are narcissists looking for, after all? Just someone at their level that they can feel superior to. ” ― Luigina Sgarro


441. “If your child feels loved, they feel safe. If your child feels loved, they can open up to you. If your child feels loved, they will be courageous in life because they know they have a cushion to fall back on. If there’s one big gift we can give or children is to know they are truly loved, no matter what.”


442. “Growing up with a toxic, narcissistic mother is like being in a constant emotional war zone.”


443. “Feel sorry for your narcissistic mother, by all means. But know that you have every right to feel sorry for her from a safe distance. ” — Danu Morrigan


444. “But the line between moral behavior and narcissistic self-righteousness is thin and difficult to discern.” ~ Dean Koontz


445. “Remember, you are not managing an inconvenience; You are raising a human being.”


446. “I spend my life constantly calling in ‘imaginary’ debts that aren’t owed to me in order to avoid the ‘real’ debts that I owe to others, and so everybody ends up bankrupt. ” ― Craig D. Lounsbrough


447. “Throw me to the wolves and I will return leading the pack. ”


448. “I love narcissists — even more than they love themselves. You don’t have to buoy them up. They are their own razzle-dazzle show and you are the blessed, favored with a front-row seat.” – Patricia Marx


449. “he toxic effects of your self-absorbed parent on you can be detrimental to your relationships, to your ability to think in constructive ways, and above all to improve how you feel about yourself. ” – Nina W. Brown


450. “Narcissist parents do not know their children; they aren’t interested in what they have to say unless it affects them.”- Tina Fuller


451. “It is the selfish parents who are to blame. Pay attention, be involved in your children’s lives. They are your legacy, your only hope. ” — Aaron B. Powell


452. “Narcissistic love is riding on the rollercoaster of disaster filled with a heart full of tears.”


453. “Nice people don’t necessarily fall in love with nice people.” ― Jonathan Franzen, author of Freedom


454. “The ultimate obscenity is not caring, not doing something about what you feel, not feeling! Just drawing back and drawing in, becoming narcissistic. ” ― Rod Serling


455. “Love doesn’t die a natural death. Love has to be killed, either by neglect or narcissism.” ― Frank Salvato


456. “Parental Alienation is an emotional act of violence that is aimed at an adult, but critically wounds a child. ” — Steve Maraboli


457. “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you too can become great.”


458. “When people are driving themselves crazy, they have neuroses or psychoses. When they drive other people crazy, they have personality disorders.” ~ Albert J. Bernstein


459. “Don’t just leave- stay away.”


460. “Growing up with a narcissistic mother can make it difficult to form a healthy sense of identity, as you are constantly told who you should be. ”


461. “The main priority of everyone surrounding a highly narcissistic person is to ensure that they are looking after themselves, maintaining their own mental and physical health and wellbeing, before looking after the narcissist. ” ― Theresa Jackson


462. “Here too, we can see that not being open to learning something new does not automatically make someone a narcissist. In fact, a narcissist is required to be more knowledgeable in many fields; mostly in psychology.” ~ Mwanandeke Kindembo


463. “There are no illegitimate children – only illegitimate parents.”


464. “Children are not born for the benefit of their parents, neither are they the property of their family. Children belong to the future. ” ― Anthon St. Maarten


465. “When someone tells me “no,” it doesn’t mean I can’t do it, it simply means I can’t do it with them. ”


466. “Somewhat paradoxically, parenting programs should focus on the behavior of the parents, not the behavior of the children.”


467. “Bad parents see no wrong in the way they treat their children.” – Unknown


468. “It’s no use to argue with parents who always think they are right all the time and you are always wrong.”


469. “When confronted with their abusive nature, narcissists will portray them as victims.”


470. “The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried. ”


471. “Children are not possessions. You don’t “allow” the father/mother extra time. When you say things like that you imply that you think of your children as things, not humans.”


472. “You don’t have to carry on the legacy of their abuse and the hurt it caused you.”


473. “A narcissist’s criticism is their autobiography. ” ― M. Wakefield


474. “Growing up with a narcissistic mother can leave you feeling like you are never enough, no matter what you do. ”


475. “If you want something you have never had, you must be willing to do something you have never done. ”


476. “But both the narcissist and his partner do not really consider each other. Trapped in the moves of an all-consuming dance macabre, they follow the motions morbidly - semiconscious, desensitized, exhausted, and concerned only with survival. ” ― Sam Vaknin


477. “The parent may be self-depreciating, but will become angry or hurt if others agree with the self-depreciating comments. The self-absorbed parent will use personal put-downs in an effort to get others to disagree. ” – Nina W. Brown


478. “Toxic narcissistic mothers can be charming and charismatic in public, while behind closed doors, they are controlling and abusive.”


479. “A family portrait is only complete with love to fill its frame.”


480. “Narcissists burn your sanity, erode your self-esteem, and make you doubt your own judgments and perceptions.” ~ Invajy


481. “I wish that people would stop destroying other people just because they were once destroyed.” ~ Karen Salmansohn


482. “For someone as amazing as you, attention is like food, and you’re always hungry.” ~ Seth McDonough


483. “Any mother that could be cruel to a child is not going to apologize to that child when they have grown up.” – Rayne Wolf


484. “Never has a book been as sorely misused as the Bible to justify beatings.”- Susan Forward


485. “If you want to go from being adored to devalued in the blink of an eye, simply insult the narcissist.” ~ Tigress Luv


486. “Victimization is a common tactic toxic mothers use to victimize their children to make them submissive to their controlling tyrannical rule. ” — Samuel Zulu


487. “As individuals and as a nation, we now suffer from social narcissism. The beloved echo of our ancestors, the virgin America, has been abandoned. We have now fallen in love with our own image, with images of our making, which turn out to be images of ourselves. ” ― Daniel J. Boorstin


488. “Fear-based parenting is the surest way to create intimidated children. ” — Tim Kimmel


489. “There’s a definition of narcissism that when a parent is narcissistic, instead of the child seeing himself reflected in the mother’s face and the mother’s joy, the child of the narcissistic parent feels like, ‘What can I do to make her okay, to make her happy?’”


490. “I wonder if the course of narcissism through the ages would have been any different had Narcissus first peered into a cesspool. He probably did.” ~ Frank O’Hara


491. “Being a parent shouldn't be when it is convenient for you. It is a 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year commitment.” – Unknown


492. “Instead of treating your child like how you were treated. Treat them with the same love and attention you wanted from your parents while growing up.”


493. “It is not love that should be depicted as blind, but self-love. ” ― Voltaire


494. “If your parents ignored you, or if they are just not emotionally available, or if they yell a lot, that is a type of trauma. ” — Tucker Max


495. “I don't care what you think unless it is about me. ” ― Kurt Cobain


496. “One of the main effects of social media is our confusing of someone’s obsession with their appearance with self-love or confidence.” ― Mokokoma Mokhonoana, author and philosopher


497. “Toxic people make you think you’re holding a grudge when you’re really holding a boundary.” ~ Mel Robins


498. “My dad taught me everything I know. Unfortunately, he didn't teach me everything he knows.”


499. “The hateful and stinging words of a narcissistic parent can linger in the mind of an adult child long after the adult has left home.” – Shannon Thomas


500. “Don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.” ~ Anonymous


501. “Dysfunctional parents do not apologize. It is one feature that the children of narcissists would instantly agree on. They will lie and justify themselves, but never accept they did anything wrong. ” ― Diana Macey


502. “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are. ”


503. “Dysfunctional parents let their children know how burdened they have been by their children and how many sacrifices they had to make in order to raise them.” – Dr Marita Sirota


504. “Great parenting happens when you start controlling yourself and stop controlling your child” — Unknown


505. “A person can’t pick up the children and just squeeze them to which-a-way they want them to be.” – Carson McCullers


506. “Narcissism falls along the axis of what psychologists call personality disorders. . . but by most measures, narcissism is one of the worst, if only because the narcissists themselves are so clueless. ” — Jeffrey Kluger


507. “You’ve been lied to so many times that you know who not to trust. That’s not trust issues; that’s lessons learned.” – Unknown


508. “Follow your own passion – not your parents’, not your teachers’ – yours.”


509. “Unhealthy families discourage individual expression. Everyone must conform to the thoughts and actions of the toxic parents. ”- Dr. Susan Forward


510. “Jealousy runs in a narcissist’s blood.”


511. “Anybody who wishes to go beyond the free-will of another person is already practising narcissistic characteristics.” ~ Mwanandeke Kindembo


512. “The best security blanket a child can have is parents who respect each other.” – Jane Blaustone


513. “An unpredictable parent is a fearsome god in the eyes of a child.”


514. “If you teach hatred to your children, one day your child will have that hatred reflected back onto them and onto you.”


515. “The emotional manipulation and gaslighting from a narcissistic mother can make it difficult for a child to trust their own thoughts and feelings. ”


516. “Parents. Honestly. Sometimes they really do think the world revolves around them. ” — Randa Abdel-Fattah


517. “I wonder if the course of narcissism through the ages would have been any different had Narcissus first peered into a cesspool. He probably did. ” ― Frank O'Hara


518. “Sometimes you need to give up on people, not because you don’t care, but because they don’t.” – Unknown


519. “I was trapped in an awful spiral of insecure narcissism.” ~ Amy Poehler


520. “Even though friends say they are interested in your life, they never really want to talk about you as much as you want them to.” ~ Charise Mericle Harper


521. “Who said that parents’ beliefs should be adopted by their children?” ― Lukasz Laniecki


522. “Every narcissist is a hero and a legend in his own mind.” ~ Oscar Auliq-Ice


523. “I'm too ugly to be a narcissist. ” ― Mitch Albom


524. “Many children of toxic parents find it exceptionally difficult to identify who they are once they grow up. ” — JR Thorpe


525. “The invalidation of a narcissistic mother can make it difficult for her children to trust their own instincts and make decisions for themselves. ”


526. “A narcissist man mostly cares about his image rather than anything else in this world.”


527. “When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth just like you did.” – Jill Blakeway


528. “Being a narcissist isn’t easy when the question is not of loving your own image, but of recreating the self through deliberate acts of alienation." – Orlan


529. “Remind yourself that you went through a rollercoaster.”


530. “The best, most mature co-parents will tell their therapist – and not their child – how much the other parent sucks.”


531. “Too bad for any parent who has become accustomed to ruling by force, because at some point the kids just get too big to slap around. ” — Barbara Ehrenreich


532. “Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.”


533. “Since narcissists deep down feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world, they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world’s fault. ” ― M. Scott Peck


534. “In the minds of my parents, they are the victims; I am the abuser. ” — Christina Enevoldsen


535. “All of us develop our expectations about how people will treat us based on our relationships with our parents.” – Susan Forward


536. “Narcissists are the ones who will never send you a sincere apology.”


537. “The question ‘How are you (doing)?’ is the most common way of indirectly saying ‘Ask me how I am (doing)’.” ~ Mokokoma Mokhonoana


538. “But the line between moral behavior and narcissistic self-righteousness is thin and difficult to discern. ” ― Dean Koontz


539. “If you have to parent your mother and put up with her childish and selfish behaviors, it may be time to create more serious boundaries for your own self-protection. ” — Barrie Davenport


540. “In a normal family situation, parents concern about how their children are doing, what they’re feeling. Narcissistic parents don’t care about their children feelings at all. Only their feelings matter.”


541. “That which he projects ahead of him as his ideal, is merely his substitute for the lost narcissism of his childhood – the time when he was his own ideal.” ~ Sigmund Freud


542. “For some, life may be a playground to undermine the brainwaves of others or simply a vainglorious game with an armory of theatrics, illustrating only bleak self-deception, haughty narcissism and dim deficiency in empathy.” ~ Erik Pevernagie


543. “Love doesn’t die a natural death. Love has to be killed, either by neglect or narcissism.” ~ Frank Salvato


544. “The emotional manipulation and abuse from a toxic narcissistic mother can cause long-term damage to a person’s mental health.”


545. “Being a control freak is a weakness, not a strength. If you can't allow others to shine, you're exhibiting signs of narcissism and showing a lack of self-confidence. It is isolation through ego. ” ― Stewart Stafford


546. “Self-love for ever creeps out, like a snake, to sting anything which happens. . . to stumble upon it. ” ― George Gordon Noel Byron


547. “But that’s the thing about narcissists. They can try to fool you, with all their heart, but in the end, they’re just fooling themselves. ” ― Ellie Fox


548. “Being a selfish parent is the biggest crime you can do to your child.” – Unknown


549. “Anyone can have a child and call themselves a parent. Real parents are those who put that child above their own selfish needs and wants. ” — Unknown


550. “Growing up with a narcissistic mother can lead to feelings of isolation and disconnection, as you are not able to connect with her on a meaningful level. ”


551. “My dad had limitations. That’s what my good-hearted mom always told us. He had limitations, but he meant no harm. It was kind of her to say, but he did do harm.” – Gillian Flynn


552. “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow. ”


553. “The gaslighting and manipulation from a narcissistic mother can make it difficult for her children to trust their own reality and perceptions. ”


554. “No matter how socially skilled an extreme narcissist is, he has a major attachment dysfunction. The extreme narcissist is frozen in childhood. ” — Samuel Lopez de Victoria


555. “Americans are experiencing an epidemic in narcissistic behavior in a culture that is intrinsically self-conscious and selfish, and citizens are encouraged to pursue happiness and instant gratification of their personal desires.” ~ Kilroy J. Oldster


556. “You will be forced to get over hurdles all by yourself if you are with a narcissist.”


557. “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. ”


558. “You don’t have to feel guilty if you have to distance yourself for a while from your toxic mom if she becomes too toxic to be around her in peace without causing any drama. ” — unknown


559. “The narcissist is like a bucket with a hole in the bottom: No matter how much you put in, you can never fill it up. The phrase “I never feel like I am enough” is the mantra of the person in the narcissistic relationship. That’s because to your narcissistic partner, you are not. No one is. Nothing is.”


560. “Toxic mothers are image-oriented rather than love-oriented.”


561. “What are narcissists looking for, after all? Just someone at their level that they can feel superior to.” ~ Luigina Sgarro


562. “The worst lies were the lies I told myself about the lies others told me. ” ― Alice Little


563. “Parents. Honestly. Sometimes they really do think the world revolves around them.”


564. “Fighting became a way of life and seemed perfectly normal for your family. ” — Steven Farmer


565. “Narcissistic mothers will often use their children as a way to compete with other parents, trying to prove that they are the best. ”


566. “Dysfunctional parents do not apologise. It is one feature that the children of narcissists would instantly agree on. They will lie and justify themselves, but never accept they did anything wrong. ” ― Diana Macey


567. “As a parent, you should be more concerned with your child’s happiness than your petty insecurities and jealousies. Just a thought!” – Unknown


568. “The more dysfunctional, the more some family members seek to control the behaviour of others. ” – David W. Earle


569. “Sometimes, unconditional love from you, which you were never given by your abusive and toxic mom, is all that your toxic mom may need to help her realize where she came up short. ” — unknown


570. “How many narcissists does it take to screw in a lightbulb? None, they don’t use lightbulbs, they use gaslighting!” — Anonymous


571. “Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears. ” — Henry Cloud


572. “Children of narcissists learn that love is abuse. The narcissist teaches them that if someone displeases you, it is okay to harm them and call it love.” ~ M. Wakefield


573. “By aggrandizing one’s own abilities and achievements, the grandiose person remains out of touch with who they truly are and as such, remains prone to crossing the boundaries of others.” ~ Steven Franssen


574. “Narcissistic mothers will often use their children as a way to gain attention and admiration from others, rather than valuing them for who they are. ”


575. “No other being is lesser human than the one who thinks of others as such. ” ― Abhijit Naskar


576. “Family is supposed to be our safest haven. Very often, it’s the place we find the deepest heartache. ” — Lyanla Vansant


577. “The most confusing thing about a narcissist is that they really don’t understand why you’re leaving. They will make promises, give gif