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600 Best Relationship Emotional Intelligence Quotes (2023)

1. “Because fear is insatiable, everything that is insatiable is born of fear.” —Alan Cohen


2. “You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind.” – Dale Carnegie


3. “If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.”


4. “The idea that you have to be protected from any kind of uncomfortable emotion is what I absolutely do not subscribe to. ”


5. “The eyes have one language everywhere.” — George Herbert


6. “Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though it is hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character and we must learn that the setbacks and griefs which we endure help us out in marching onward.” — Henry Ford


7. “The emotional brain responds to an event more quickly than the thinking brain. ” — Daniel Goleman


8. “Researchers have found that even more than IQ, your emotional awareness and abilities to handle feelings will determine our success and happiness in all walks of life, including family relationships.”


9. “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion. ” — Dale Carnegie


10. “Anger is a legitimate feeling, one often designed for self-protection. ”


11. “Emotional Intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we think, feel, and act. It shapes our interactions with others and our understanding of ourselves. It defines how and what we learn; it allows us to set priorities; it determines the majority of our daily actions. Research suggests it is responsible for as much as 80% of the “success” in our lives.” — J. Freedman


12. “Walk like the lion, talk like doves, live like elephants, and love like a small child. ” — Santosh Kalwar


13. “It is only shallow people who require years to get rid of an emotion. A man who is master of himself can end a sorrow as easily as he can invent a pleasure. I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions.” – Oscar Wilde


14. “There is no separation of mind and emotions; emotions, thinking, and learning are all linked.” — Eric Jensen


15. “We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel. ”


16. “Emotions are a critical source of information for learning. ” — Joseph LeDoux


17. “You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind.” —Dale Carnegie


18. “[Your emotional mind is] the lead system and source of happiness, satisfaction, joy, and love.” – Darwin Nelson and Gray Low


19. “It is reason, and not passion, which must guide our deliberations, guide our debate, and guide our decision.” — Barbara Jordan


20. “Our feeling is not there to be cast out or conquered. They’re there to engaged and expressed with imagination and Intelligence. ” — T. K. Coleman


21. “Emotion, which is suffering, ceases to be suffering as soon as we have a clear picture of it.” — Benedict Spinoza


22. “Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath.” – Eckhart Tolle


23. “There is an old-fashioned word for the body of skills that emotional intelligence represents: character.” – Daniel Goleman


24. “The true losers in life, are not those who try and fail, but those who fail to try. ” — Jess C. Scott


25. “We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel.” —Marshall B. Rosenberg


26. “The best portion of a good man’s life is the little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love.” —William Wordsworth


27. “Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” —Paul Boese


28. “To develop empathy, we must care about the experiences, feelings, needs, and wants of the people around us. We must care enough to turn away from our self-centered thinking and focus on others to develop an understanding of the meaning and feelings associated with events occurring in their lives.” – Bob Wall


29. “Social intelligence gives individuals the ability to approach social situations better by equipping them with the ability to assess all the elements in these interactions. ”– John Ward


30. “Walk like the lion, talk like doves, live like elephants, and love like a small child.” – Santosh Kalwar


31. “When a man is prey to his emotions, he is not his own master. ”


32. “Knowledge kills your emotions. ” — Pragati


33. “It is both a blessing and a curse to feel everything so very deeply. ”


34. “We define emotional intelligence as the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions.” — Salovey and Mayer


35. “Calm your storm(s). today’s forecast…. Peace of mind and happiness all day long, no matter what.” – T.Y Howard


36. “Confidence on the outside begins by living with integrity on the inside.” —Brian Tracy


37. “By 2029, computers will have emotional intelligence and be convincing as people. ” — Ray Kurzweil


38. “We suffer more in imagination than in reality.” — Seneca


39. “True compassion means not only feeling another's pain but also being moved to help relieve it.”


40. “Group emotional intelligence is about the small acts that make a big difference. It is not about a team member working all night to meet a deadline; it is about saying thank you for doing so.” – Unknown


41. “The emotionally intelligent person is skilled in four areas: identifying emotions, using emotions, understanding emotions, and regulating emotions.” – John Mayer And Peter Salovey


42. “If we lack emotional intelligence, whenever stress rises the human brain switches to autopilot and has an inherent tendency to do more of the same, only harder. Which, more often than not, is precisely the wrong approach in today’s world.” — Robert K. Cooper


43. ““Social intelligence” has become ripe for rethinking as neuroscience begins to map the brain areas that regulate interpersonal dynamics. ” – Daniel Goleman


44. “As more and more artificial intelligence is entering into the world, more and more emotional intelligence must enter into leadership.”


45. “It is not depression or anxiety that truly hurts us. It is our active resistance against these states of mind and body. If you wake up with low energy, hopeless thoughts, and a lack of motivation – that is a signal from you to you. That is a sure sign that something in your mind or in your life is making you sick, and you must attend to that signal.” – Vironika Tugaleva


46. “Expect the breakthrough and expect to learn.” – Kathleen Spike


47. “Leaders with high emotional intelligence find ways to respect emotions, be authentic, and hold others (and themselves) accountable.”


48. “Let us fear the torment of emotions that might sway in its wake chaos through the sound construction of reason and discernment. Let us cherish instead emotional intelligence along the intricate and tortuous paths of life’s labyrinth. ("No handkerchief, when you need it")”


49. “Emotions are the glue that holds the cells of the organism together. ” — Candace Pert


50. “One ought to hold on to one’s heart; for if one lets it go, one soon loses control of the head too. ” — Friedrich Nietzsche


51. “Where we have strong emotions, we’re liable to fool ourselves. ” — Carl Sagan


52. “Emotionally competent teams don’t wear blinders; they have the emotional capacity to face potentially difficult information and actively seek opinions on their task processes, progress, and performance from the outside.” – Vanessa Urch Druskat & Steven Wolff, 2001


53. “When anger rises, think of the consequences. ” — Confucius


54. “Emotional intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we think, feel, and act. It shapes our interactions with others and our understanding of ourselves. It defines how and what we learn; it allows us to set priorities; it determines the majority of our daily actions. Research suggests it is responsible for as much as 80 percent of the “success” in our lives. ”


55. “My message for everyone is the same: that if we can learn to identify, express, and harness our feelings, even the most challenging ones, we can use those emotions to help us create positive, satisfying lives.” – Marc Brackett


56. “Societies can be sunk by the weight of buried ugliness. ”


57. “Every time we allow someone to move us with anger, we teach them to be angry.” —Barry Neil Kaufman


58. “Mindful meditation has been discovered to foster the ability to inhibit those very quick emotional impulses.”


59. “Not only does emotional intelligence and positive psychology appear to share a rather wide domain overlap based on the way both concepts have been described and defined, but the empirical findings presented here suggest that emotional intelligence has a positive and significant impact on performance, happiness, wellbeing, and the quest for a more meaningful life, all of which are key areas of interest in positive psychology.” – Unknown


60. “Emotions are enmeshed in the neural networks of reason. ” — Antonio Dumasio


61. “CEOs are hired for their intellect and business expertise – and fired for a lack of emotional intelligence.” ~ Daniel Goleman


62. “It is amazing how once the mind is free from emotional contamination, logic and clarity emerge.”


63. “People high in emotional intelligence are expected to progress more quickly through the abilities designated and to master more of them.” — Mayer and Salovey


64. “Let us fear the torment of emotions that might sway in its wake chaos through the sound construction of reason and discernment. Let us cherish instead emotional intelligence along the intricate and tortuous paths of life's labyrinth.”


65. “It is very important to understand that


66. “Be not disturbed at being misunderstood; be disturbed rather at not being understanding.” — Chinese proverb


67. “Maturity is achieved when a person postpones immediate pleasures for long-term values.” — Joshua L. Liebman


68. “What matters is hard work and emotional intelligence.” – Millard Drexler


69. “Now that we’ve surveyed the terrain of social intelligence, the question arises: can we improve such essential human talents? Particularly when it comes to low-road capacities, this challenge may seem daunting. ” – Daniel Goleman


70. “We define emotional intelligence as


71. “The degree of one’s emotions varies inversely with one’s knowledge of the facts.” — Bertrand Russell


72. “In a study of skills that distinguish star performers in every field from entry-level jobs to executive positions, the single most important factor was not IQ, advanced degrees, or technical experience, it was EQ. Of the competencies required for excellent in performance in the job studies, 67% were emotional competencies.” — Daniel Goleman


73. “Emotional intelligence, more than any other factor, more than I.Q. or expertise, accounts for 85% to 90% of success at work… I.Q. is a threshold competence. You need it, but it doesn’t make you a star. Emotional intelligence can.” – Warren G. Bennis


74. “What really matters


75. “We plant seeds that will flower as results in our lives, so best to remove the weeds of anger, avarice, envy and doubt…” — Dorothy Day


76. “Experience is not what happens to you — it’s how you interpret what happens to you.” —- Aldous Huxley


77. “Quick to judge, quick to anger, slow to understand … prejudice, fear and ignorance walk hand-in-hand.” — Peart


78. “Communication plays a big role in improving your social intelligence and effective communication may mean the difference between a successful and a failed social relationship. ”– John Ward


79. “CEOs are hired for their intellect and business expertise – and fired for a lack of emotional intelligence.”


80. “One ought to hold on to one’s heart; for if one lets it go, one soon loses control of the head too.” – Friedrich Nietzsche


81. “Whatever is begun in anger, ends in shame. ” — Benjamin Franklin


82. “Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.” —- Khalil Gibran


83. “It is not the stress that makes us fall, it is how we respond to situations of stress. ”


84. “The heart of social interactions is effective communication. It is very important to improve your communication skills if you want to develop your social intelligence. ”– John Ward


85. “When anger rises, think of the consequences.” – Confucius


86. “Comparing the three domains, I found that for jobs of all kinds, emotional competencies were twice as prevalent among distinguishing competencies as were technical skills and purely cognitive abilities combined. In general the higher a position in an organization, the more EI mattered: for individuals in leadership positions, 85 percent of their competencies were in the EI domain.” — Daniel Goleman


87. “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate. ”


88. “Any person capable of angering you becomes your master.” —- Epictetus


89. “Excuses are things like sausages stuffed with reason, in the skin of a lie.”


90. “Any person capable of angering you becomes your master; he can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by him.” —Epictetus


91. “There’s enough for everyone’s need, but not for everyone’s greed.” —Gandhi


92. “We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel. ” — Marshall B. Rosenberg


93. “Knowledge kills your emotions.” – Pragati


94. “Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It is not the empath who is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled. There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a 'hot mess' or having 'too many issues' are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world. Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.”


95. “Regret is an odd emotion because it comes only upon reflection. Regret lacks immediacy, and so its power seldom influences events when it could do some good.” — William O’Rourke


96. “The first requirement in social intelligence is that you see people for who they are. This includes their identity, their feelings, and their actions. When we only look at their function in our everyday transactions, it is impossible to have a meaningful relationship with them. ”– John Ward


97. Learning how to identify your emotions and use the information they have to offer is like having a superpower


98. “Ketika kau hanya memiliki palu, semuanya tampak seperti paku”


99. “He who smiles rather than rages is always the stronger.” —Japanese proverb


100. “To develop emotional and erotic intelligence we need to practice enlarging our inner passion at every moment. It doesn’t matter what’s going on in our world, or even how we feel about ourselves in the moment. In fact, the best time to accomplishing something may be when we least feel like trying, because the hopeless part of ourselves most needs the light.”


101. “Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense, understand, and effectively apply the power and acumen of emotions as a source of human energy, information, connection, and influence.” — Robert K. Cooper. Ph.D.


102. “When awareness is brought to an emotion, power is brought to your life. ”


103. “Conventional ideas of social intelligence have too often focused on highroad talents like social knowledge, or the capacity for extracting the rules, protocols, and norms that guide appropriate behavior in a given social setting. ” – Daniel Goleman


104. “There is perhaps no psychological skill more fundamental than resisting impulse. ” — Daniel Goleman


105. “Our feeling is not there to be cast out or conquered. They’re there to engaged and expressed with imagination and Intelligence.” – T.K Coleman


106. “Adults remain social animals; they continue to require a source of stabilization outside themselves. That open-loop design means that in some important ways, people cannot be stable on their own — not should or shouldn’t, but can’t be … Stability means finding people who regulate you well and staying near them.” — Thomas Lewis, M.D.


107. “We don’t know where we’re going, we don’t know what’s going to happen, but no one can take away from you what you put in your own mind. ”


108. “Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may bet better. To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge now exists to make things better.” —King Whitney Jr.


109. “There is zero correlation between IQ and emotional empathy… They’re controlled by different parts of the brain.” ~ Daniel Goleman


110. “In times of transition, avoid making temporary choices with lasting after-effects.”


111. “Emotional intelligence allows you to regulate and manage your emotions to make yourself emotionally and socially strong. Emotional intelligence helps shape our interactions with others by adding to our skills.”


112. “Strong, negative emotions (fear, anger, anxiety, hopelessness) tend to narrow our minds—it’s as though our peripheral vision has been cut off because we’re so focused on the peril that’s front and center.” – Marc Brackett


113. “There is perhaps no psychological skill more fundamental than resisting impulse.”


114. “Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business.” —Norman Vincent Peale


115. “Our feelings are our most genuine paths to knowledge.” —Audre Lorde


116. “We plant seeds that will flower as results in our lives, so best to remove the weeds of anger, avarice, envy and doubt…” —- Dorothy Day


117. “Substance abusers’ key deficits turned out to be problem solving, social responsibility, and stress tolerance. Spousal abusers primarily lacked empathy and had poor impulse control and an inflated self-regard.” — US Air Force


118. “Your heart will always go where your mind wanders. ”


119. “Hard times of any kind—financial, familial, or job-related—create more intense and often prolonged negative emotions that ultimately result in stress. In addition to the physical costs of stress, such as weight gain and heart disease, stress also taxes our mental resources.” – Travis Bradberry


120. “Men who do not turn to face their own pain are too often prone to inflict it on others. ”


121. “Depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.”


122. “I think in the coming decade we will see well-conducted research demonstrating that emotional skills and competencies predict positive outcomes at home with one’s family, in school, and at work. The real challenge is to show that emotional intelligence matters over-and-above psychological constructs that have been measured for decades like personality and IQ. I believe that emotional intelligence holds this promise.” — Peter Salovey


123. “Some prisons don’t require bars to keep people locked inside. All it takes is their perception that they belong there. ”


124. “Leadership is all about emotional Intelligence. Management is taught, while leadership is experienced. ” — Rajeev Suri


125. “Emotion turning back on itself, and not leading on to thought or action, is the element of madness.” — John Sterling


126. “It is not events that disturb people, but their judgments about them.” — Epictetus


127. “The essential difference between emotion and reason is that emotion leads to action while reason leads to conclusions.”


128. “Emotions are a critical source of information for learning.” – Joseph Ledoux


129. “Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.” – Mahatma Gandhi


130. “You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind.” —- Dale Carnegie


131. “75% of careers are derailed for reasons related to emotional competencies, including inability to handle interpersonal problems; unsatisfactory team leadership during times of difficulty or conflict; or inability to adapt to change or elicit trust.” — The Center for Creative Leadership


132. “Jealousy sees things always with magnifying glasses which make little things large, of dwarfs giants, of suspicions truths.” —Miguel de Cervantes


133. “Be patient. Your skin took a while to deteriorate. Give it some time to reflect a calmer inner state. As one of my friends states on his Facebook profile: “The true Losers in Life, are not those who Try and Fail, but those who Fail to Try.” – Jess C. Scott


134. Psychology portal


135. “Scheduling down time as part of your routine is hard but worth it, personally, even professionally.” ~ Daniel Goleman


136. “Emotional intelligence is when you finally realize it’s not all about you. ” — Peter Stark


137. “Emotionally competent teams don't wear blinders; they have the emotional capacity to face potentially difficult information and actively seek opinions on their task processes, progress, and performance from the outside.”


138. “If your emotional abilities aren't in hand if you don't have self-awareness if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.”


139. “Leadership is all about emotional Intelligence. Management is taught, while leadership is experienced. ”


140. “It is amazing how once the mind is free from emotional contamination, logic and clarity emerge. ”


141. “The emotionally intelligent person is skilled in four areas: identifying emotions, using emotions, understanding emotions, and regulating emotions. ” — John Mayer and Peter Salovey


142. “Emotional intelligence allows us to respond instead of react.” – Unknown


143. “Social intelligence shows itself abundantly in the nursery, on the playground, in barracks and factories and salesrooms, but it eludes the formal standardized conditions of the testing laboratory. ” – Edward Thorndike


144. “Unleash in the right time and place before you explode at the wrong time and place. ” — Oli Anderson


145. “Beauty is an asset, just like physical prowess, charisma, brains or emotional intelligence. The key with any gift is in the way that you use it. It doesn’t define you as a person. Rather, it’s an asset to be used judiciously and with an understanding of how it is just a small part of who you are.” – Dale Archer


146. “In the last decade or so, science has discovered a tremendous amount about the role emotions play in our lives. Researchers have found that even more than IQ, your emotional awareness and abilities to handle feelings will determine our success and happiness in all walks of life, including family relationships.” — John Gottman


147. “Emotional pain cannot kill you but running from it can. Allow. Embrace. Let yourself feel. Let yourself heal.” – Unknown


148. “Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business.” – Norman Vincent Peale


149. “Those students who did stop to help were exhibiting another sign of social intelligence: concern. ” – Daniel Goleman


150. “The value of measuring your EQ now is akin to learning the waltz with an actual partner. If I tell you how the dance works, you are likely to learn something and may even get the urge to try it yourself.” – Travis Bradberry


151. I've already given you my simple definition of Emotional Intelligence. Here's John Mayer and Peter Salovey's original definition of Emotional Intelligence from 1990:


152. “There are two cardinal sins from which all the others spring: impatience and laziness.” —Franz Kafka


153. “The emotionally intelligent person is skilled in four areas: identifying emotions, using emotions, understanding emotions, and regulating emotions. ”


154. “True compassion means not only feeling another’s pain but also being moved to help relieve it.” – Daniel Goleman


155. “Compassion begins with attention.” ~ Daniel Goleman


156. “Self-awareness is knowing your strengths and your weaknesses. It’s knowing what energizes you and what drains you. It’s knowing how you lead when you’re calm versus how you lead when you’re stressed.”


157. Cooperation


158. “The very reason why humans are capable of gaining social intelligence is that they have the capacity of interacting and being understood by others. This is how we are able to form relationships and participate in social organizations. ”– John Ward


159. “Leaders with high emotional intelligence create a culture of trust, respect, and collaboration, where everyone feels valued and heard. They build teams that are not just efficient, but also empowered and fulfilled. Emotional intelligence is not just a nice-to-have for leaders, it's a must-have.”


160. “To increase your effectiveness, make your emotions subordinate to your commitments.” — Brian Koslow


161. “Emotional intelligence has a significant impact on happiness.” – Unknown


162. “Never speak out of anger,


163. “Five components of emotional intelligence at work: Self awareness, self regulation, motivation, empathy and social skill.” – Unknown


164. “There are certain emotions that will kill your drive; frustration and confusion. You can change these to a positive force. Frustration means you are on the verge of a breakthrough. Confusion can mean you are about to learn something. Expect the breakthrough and expect to learn.”


165. “People who seek psychotherapy for psychological, behavioral or relationship problems tend to experience a wide range of bodily complaints...The body can express emotional issues a person may have difficulty processing consciously...I believe that the vast majority of people don't recognize what their bodies are really telling them. The way I see it, our emotions are music and our bodies are instruments that play the discordant tunes. But if we don't know how to read music, we just think the instrument is defective.”


166. “Always, emotional freedom involves choosing where you put your attention.” – Judith Orloff


167. “Emotions and feelings…hmm, I used to have those, when I was a kid.” – Ayush Mehre


168. “You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you. True power is sitting back and observing things with logic. True power is restraint. If words control you that means everyone else can control you. Breathe and allow things to pass.” – Warren Buffet


169. “Effective Human Resource Management, much like medicine, requires a deep understanding of the individual, a tailored approach to addressing their unique needs, and a great deal of empathy and emotional intelligence.”


170. “CEOs are hired for their intellect and business expertise – and fired for a lack of emotional intelligence.” – Daniel Goleman


171. “There are certain emotions that will kill your drive; frustration and confusion. You can change these to a positive force. Frustration means you are on the verge of a breakthrough. Confusion can mean you are about to learn something. Expect the breakthrough and expect to learn.” — Kathleen Spike, Master Certified Coach


172. “Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That’s why they look alike. ” — Daniel Goleman


173. “Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in this world.” —Les Brown


174. “Your social intelligence grows as you accept and understand the fact that everyone is built in a different way. It is counterproductive to ask others to adjust according to your orientation and standards. ”– John Ward


175. “Emotional intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we think, feel, and act. It shapes our interactions with others and our misunderstanding of ourselves. It defines how and what we learn; it allows us to set priorities; it determines the majority of our daily actions. Research suggests it is responsible for as much as 80% of the “success” in our lives.” – J. Freedman


176. “CEOs are hired for their intellect and business expertise – and fired for a lack of emotional intelligence. ” — Daniel Goleman


177. “There is no thinking without feeling and no feeling without thinking.” — Karen McCown


178. “We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel.” – Marshall B. Rosenberg


179. “The study of modern mindfulness meditation and emotional intelligence is deeply rooted in the ancient Vipassana meditation techniques.”


180. “Shedding:


181. “People whose eyes shine are happy to be alive. They see the beauty of life and its glory, even when things aren’t easy. ”


182. “If you cannot feel your emotions, if you are cut off from them, you will eventually experience them on a purely physical level, as a physical problem or symptom. ”


183. “We define emotional intelligence as the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one's own and other's feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one's thinking and actions.”


184. “We live in an adolescent society, Neverland, where never growing up seems more the norm than the exception. Little boys wearing expensive suits and adult bodies should not be allowed to run big corporations. They shouldn’t be allowed to run governments, armies, religions, small businesses and charities either and just quietly, they make pretty shabby husbands and fathers too. Mankind has become Pankind and whilst “lost boys” abound, there is also an alarming increase in the number of “lost girls.”


185. “The only way to change someone’s mind is to connect with them from the heart. ” – Rasheed Ogunlaru


186. “Never make a permanent decision based on a temporary emotion.” – Unknown


187. “Just imagine you’re four years old, and someone makes the following proposal: If you’ll wait until after he runs an errand, you can have two marshmallows for a treat. If you can’t wait until then, you can have only one–but you can have it right now. It is a challenge sure to try the soul of any four-year-old, a microcosm of the eternal battle between impulse and restraint, id and ego, desire and self-control, gratification and delay… There is perhaps no psychological skill more fundamental than resisting impulse. It is the root of all emotional self-control, since all emotions, by their very nature, led to one or another impulse to act.” — Daniel Goleman


188. “Emotional intelligence plays an important role in a well-balanced and productive workplace, as well as in leadership development. We’re pleased that Multi-Health Systems, a company with a long history of understanding the necessity of developing non-cognitive skills to achieve professional success, is supporting this track where we will help employers gain insight into emotional intelligence and its bottom-line impact through human capital.” – Allan Schweyer


189. “Mindful meditation has been discovered to foster the ability to inhibit those very quick emotional impulses. ” — Daniel Goleman


190. “There is perhaps no psychological skill more fundamental than resisting impulse.” – Daniel Goleman


191. “Deal with the faults of others as gently as with your own.” —Chinese proverb


192. “Smile at each other, smile at your wife, smile at your husband, smile at your children, smile at each other – it doesn’t matter who it is – and that will help you to grow up in greater love for each other.” — Mother Teresa


193. “Faith is a journey...not a guilt trip.”


194. “When our emotional health is in a bad state, so is our level of self-esteem. We have to slow down and deal with what is troubling us, so that we can enjoy the simple joy of being happy and at peace with ourselves.”


195. “No doubt emotional intelligence is rarer than book smarts, but my experience says it is more important in the making of a leader. You just can't ignore it.”


196. “The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.” — William James


197. “Use pain as a stepping stone, not a camp ground.” —Alan Cohen


198. “Anyone can be angry – that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not easy.” – Aristotle


199. “No doubt emotional intelligence is rarer than book smarts, but my experience says it is actually more important in the making of a leader. You just can’t ignore it. ”


200. “Being socially literate is not something you are simply born with. You can develop the right set of skills to harness it and that is what this book aims to provide you with. ”– John Ward


201. “Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social environment. Most people are even incapable of forming such opinions. ”


202. “Use pain as a stepping stone, not a campground.”


203. In Emotional Intelligence theory, there are 4 aspects or domains of Emotional Intelligence. John Mayer and Peter Salovey describe the four areas to work on to become emotionally smart very simply:


204. “You should hone your conflict resolution skills to further improve your social intelligence. ”– John Ward


205. “The only way to change someone’s mind is to connect with them from the heart. ”


206. “When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.” — Kahlil Gibran


207. “Today, when nearly every question can be handled instantly by Siri, or Google, or Alexa, we’re losing the habit of pausing to look inward, or to one another, for answers. But even Siri doesn’t know everything. And Google can’t tell you why your son or daughter is feeling hopeless or excited, or why your significant other feels not so significant lately, or why you can’t shake that chronic low-level anxiety that plagues you.” – Vironika Tugaleva


208. “Fame is a vapor, popularity an accident. Riches take wing. Only one thing endures. And that is character.” —Horace Greeley


209. “Leaders with high emotional intelligence find ways to respect emotions, be authentic, and hold others (and themselves) accountable.” – Unknown


210. “As human beings we all want to be happy and free from misery... we have learned that the key to happiness is inner peace. The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions such as anger, attachment, fear and suspicion, while love and compassion and a sense of universal responsibility are the sources of peace and happiness.” —Dalai Lama quote


211. “It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of Intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head. It is the unique intersection of both. ”


212. “Emotional and social intelligence can simply give you the tools to understand and manage your social interactions better. You are not required to feed anyone else’s ego if it already consumes too much of you. Empathy does not mean you have to rescue people. Empathizing with people only means you are able to see the other person’s reasoning as influenced by his emotions. ”– John Ward


213. “If you cannot feel your emotions, if you are cut off from them, you will eventually experience them on a purely physical level, as a physical problem or symptom.” – Eckhart Tolle


214. “Emotionally competent teams don’t wear blinders; they have the emotional capacity to face potentially difficult information and actively seek opinions on their task processes, progress, and performance from the outside.” – Vanessa Urch Druskat and Steven Wolff


215. “The golden rule is still in effect when it comes to social intelligence. Do not do unto others what you do not want others to do unto you. ”– John Ward


216. “If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we would find in each man’s life a sorrow and a suffering enough to disarm all hostility.” —Henry Longfellow


217. “Cherish your own emotions and never undervalue them.” — Robert Henri


218. “Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster. Your life will never be the same again.” — Og Mandino


219. “Feelings are something you have; not something you are. ”


220. “The first and simplest emotion which we discover in the human mind, is curiosity.” — Edmund Burke


221. “Emotional competence is the single most important personal quality that each of us must develop and access to experience a breakthrough. Only through managing our emotions can we access our intellect and our technical competence. An emotionally competent person performs better under pressure.” –Dave Lennick, Executive VP, American Express Financial Advisers


222. Empathy


223. Self-Awareness


224. “As more and more artificial intelligence is entering into the world, more and more emotional intelligence must enter into leadership.” – Amit Ray


225. “It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of Intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head. It is the unique intersection of both.” – David Caruso


226. “One half of me is a hopeless romantic. The other half is well… just realistic. ”


227. “Emotions and reason are intertwined, and both are critical to problem-solving. ”


228. “Emotions are a critical source of information for learning.” — Joseph LeDoux


229. “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else: you are the one who gets burned. ”


230. “Men who do not turn to face their own pain are too often prone to inflict it on others.” – Terrence Real


231. “IQ and technical skills are important, but emotional intelligence is the sine qua non of leadership.”


232. “Permission to Feel” – the RULER Method


233. “What matters is hard work and emotional intelligence. ”


234. “People in good moods are better at inductive reasoning and creative problem solving.” — Salovey, Mayer, Goldman, Turvey, and Palfai


235. “By 2029, computers will have emotional intelligence and be convincing as people.” – Ray Kurzweil


236. “If you cannot feel your emotions, if you are cut off from them, you will eventually experience them on a purely physical level, as a physical problem or symptom.”


237. Influence


238. “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” – Viktor Frankl


239. “You’re likely to get it wrong on the first try”: the Pitch winner Amber Linz on Zipr’s change of direction


240. “The sign of an intelligent people is their ability to control emotions by the application of reason.” — Marya Mannes


241. “A merry heart doeth good like medicine.” — Proverbs 17:22


242. “Emotion can be the enemy, if you give into your emotion, you lose yourself. You must be at one with your emotions, because the body always follows the mind.” – Bruce Lee


243. “Emotional intelligence is involved in the capacity to perceive emotions, assimilate emotion-related feelings, understand the information of those emotions, and manage them.” – John Mayer, David Caruso, and Peter Salovey


244. “The essential difference between emotion and reason is that emotion leads to action while reason leads to conclusions.” — Donald Calne


245. “Use pain as a stepping stone, not a camp ground.” – Alan Cohen


246. “No doubt emotional intelligence is rarer than book smarts, but my experience says it is actually more important in the making of a leader. You just can’t ignore it.” – Jack Welch


247. “Self-control is strength. Calmness is mastery. You have to get to a point where your mood doesn’t shift based on the insignificant actions of someone else. Don’t allow others to control the direction of your life. Don’t allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence.” – Morgan Freeman


248. “As more and more artificial intelligence is entering into the world, more and more emotional intelligence must enter into leadership. ”


249. “A leader who understands emotional intelligence well achieves milestones. ”


250. “Emotional Intelligence grows through perception. Look around at your present situation and observe it through the level of feeling.” – Deepak Chopra


251. “Tears are a form of communication – like speech – and require a listener. ”


252. “Some children of depressed mothers learn another lesson, one that has adaptive qualities. Many of these children become exquisite readers of their mother’s shifting emotions and as adults are artful at handling their interactions to keep them as pleasant (or minimally upsetting) as possible. Taken into the larger world, those skills can translate into a hard-earned social intelligence. ” – Daniel Goleman


253. “Concern reflects a person’s capacity for compassion. Manipulative people can be skilled in other abilities of social intelligence, but they fail here. ” – Daniel Goleman


254. “Our emotional response is driven by the proximity of events. ”


255. “Who knows? Life may just be a Positive Conspiracy bent on putting us in the right place at the right time every living, breathing moment of the day. It just takes a certain kind of perspective to see this. Realizing this can put our "analyzer" on hold, our interpretive mind on "ga-ga" and our hearts on breathless.”


256. “Having healthy boundaries not only requires being able to say “no”, but also being willing and able to enforce that “no” when necessary.”


257. “He who spends time regretting the past loses the present and risks the future.” —Quevedo


258. “Emotional intelligence is the ‘something’ in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions that achieve positive results.” – Travis Bradberry


259. “Let’s not forget that the little emotions are the great captains of our lives and we obey them without realizing it.” — Vincent Van Gogh


260. “We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel.” -— Marshall B. Rosenberg


261. “Calm your storm(s). today’s forecast…. Peace of mind and happiness all day long, no matter what. ” — T. Y. Howard


262. Philosophy portal


263. “Instead of resisting any emotion, the best way to dispel it is to enter it fully, embrace it and see through your resistance.” —Deepak Chopra


264. “We define emotional intelligence as the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions. ”


265. “Definition of Emotional Intelligence: The ability to create a balance between knowing what you don’t know and that what you know can be improved.” – Unknown


266. “For it is not death or hardship that is a fearful thing, but the fear of death or hardship.” —Epictetus


267. “Not only does emotional intelligence and positive psychology appear to share a rather wide domain overlap based on the way both concepts have been described and defined, but the empirical findings presented here suggest that emotional intelligence has a positive and significant impact on performance, happiness, wellbeing, and the quest for a more meaningful life, all of which are key areas of interest in positive psychology.” – Reuven Bar-On


268. Neuroscientist, Antonio Damasio's take on intellect vs emotion:


269. “When awareness is brought to an emotion,


270. “Realize that now, in this moment of time, you are creating. You are creating your next moment based on what you are feeling and thinking. That is what’s real.” —Doc Childre


271. “Such deep listening seems to be a natural aptitude. Still, as with all social intelligence dimensions, people can improve their attunement skills. ” – Daniel Goleman


272. “Learning when and how to let go is a part of social intelligence. It is not easy to let go of the past. This includes the trauma, bad habits, disillusionment, unhealthy relationships, and toxic people we have encountered before. But did you hear all of that was mentioned? They are all negative experiences. ” – John Ward


273. “Consciously experiencing one's self- that is, gaining self-knowledge- is an integral part of learning.”


274. “Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss people.” – Socrates


275. “Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense, understand, and effectively apply the power and acumen of emotions as a source of human energy, information, connection, and influence. ”


276. “Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.” —Khalil Gibran


277. “Your day will go the way your emotional intelligence guides both your thoughts and actions. ” — T. Y. Howard


278. Creative Freedom


279. “As much as 80% of adult “success” comes from EQ.” — Daniel Goleman


280. “We cannot tell what may happen to us in the strange medley of life. But we can decide what happens in us - how we can take it, what we do with it and that is what really counts in the end.” —Joseph Fort Newton


281. “Emotions are not problems to be solved. They are signals to be interpreted. ”


282. From my perspective, emotions are information. Emotions help you know what is going on between you and the world. They are like your own personal radar system always going out and bringing back pings of information. The better you are at labeling your emotions, understanding them, and using the information they have to offer, the better your life is


283. “As much as 80% of adult “success” comes from EQ.” ~ Daniel Goleman


284. “It is not the stress that makes us fall. It is how we respond to situations of stress. ” — Wayde Goodall


285. “Collective social intelligence can offer an alternative to the overwhelming toll of caregiving. ” – Daniel Goleman


286. “When a man is prey to his emotions, he is not his own master.” – Benedict de Spinoza


287. “Calm your storm(s). today’s forecast…. Peace of mind and happiness all day long, no matter what. ”


288. “There is no separation of mind and emotions; emotions, thinking, and learning is all linked. ” — Eric Jensen


289. “The emotions of man are stirred more quickly than man’s intelligence.” – Oscar Wilde


290. “Everyone must be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger…”


291. “Any person capable of angering you becomes your master. ” — Epictetus


292. “Quick to judge, quick to anger, slow to understand... prejudice, fear and ignorance walk hand-in-hand.” —Peart


293. “What really matters for success, character, happiness and life long achievements is a definite set of emotional skills – your EQ — not just purely cognitive abilities that are measured by conventional IQ tests.” – Daniel Goleman


294. “Emotional intelligence can be the game changer to high performance and personal leadership.” – Unknown


295. “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4:23 (Bible Verses)


296. “Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath. ” — Eckhart Tolle


297. “Happiness depends upon ourselves. ”


298. “IQ and technical skills are important, but emotional intelligence is the sine qua non of leadership.” – Daniel Goleman


299. “Love the heart that hurts you, but never hurt the heart that loves you.” —Vipin Sharm


300. “Humility is born of the spirit, humiliation of the ego.” –Alan Cohen


301. “Any person capable of angering you becomes your master.” —Epictetus


302. “When we focus on others, our world expands.” ~ Daniel Goleman


303. “Use pain as a stepping stone, not a camp ground. ” — Alan Cohen


304. “He who fears he will suffer, already suffers from his fear.” —Michel de Montaigne


305. “Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That’s why they look alike. ”


306. “Any person capable of angering you becomes your master. ”


307. “Unleash in the right time and place before you explode at the wrong time and place. ”


308. “Cherish your own emotions and never undervalue them.”


309. “Use pain as a stepping stone, not a camp ground.” —- Alan Cohen


310. “Emotions and reason are intertwined, and both are critical to problem-solving.” – Antonio Damasio


311. Self-Regulation


312. “Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense, understand, and effectively apply the power and acumen of emotions as a source of human energy, information, connection, and influence.”


313. Curiosity


314. “Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom.” —Soren Kierkegaard


315. “There is perhaps no psychological skill more fundamental than resisting impulse. ”


316. “Bullets:


317. “Emotional intelligence is when you finally realize it’s not all about you.” – Peter Stark


318. “Group emotional intelligence is about the small acts that make a big difference. It is not about a team member working all night to meet a deadline; it is about saying thank you for doing so.”


319. “An emotion occurs when there are certain biological, certain experiential, and certain cognitive states which all occur simultaneously.” — Jack Mayer


320. “If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.” ~ Daniel Goleman


321. “The emotional brain responds to an event more quickly than the thinking brain.”


322. “My hope was that organizations would start including this range of skills in their training programs – in other words, offer an adult education in social and emotional intelligence.” – Daniel Goleman


323. “Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though it is hard to realise this. For the world was built to develop character and we must learn that the setbacks and griefs which we endure help us out in marching onward.” — Henry Ford


324. “You do control the thoughts that follow an emotion, and you have a great deal of say in how you react to an emotion—as long as you are aware of it.”


325. Social Awareness


326. “The biggest mistake you will ever make if you’re just starting to learn about social intelligence is prioritizing other people’s issues. Remember, if there’s one thing you are sure to have control over, it is yourself. ”– John Ward


327. “Beauty is an asset, just like physical prowess, charisma, brains, or emotional intelligence. ”


328. “The good news is that social intelligence can be developed. It is not set and it can be worked on as long as you have the right mindset for it. ”– John Ward


329. “Emotional intelligence is your ability to recognize and understand emotions in yourself and others, and your ability to use this awareness to manage your behavior and relationships. ” — Travis Bradberry


330. “Fostering professional and personal relationships can be quite a challenge to some. However, there are people who seem to just breeze right through the process. The task of socializing and connecting seem so effortless to them. Have you ever wondered what makes these people different? The answer to that is social intelligence. ” – John Ward


331. “The ability to process emotional information, particularly as it involves the perception, assimilation, understanding, and management of emotion.” – Mayer and Cobb


332. “Your emotions are the slaves to your thoughts, and you are the slave to your emotions. ”


333. “No Reason:


334. “Isolated people have vastly increased rate of premature death from all causes and are 3-5x likelier to die early than people with strong social ties.” — Dean Ornish


335. “When you make people angry, they act in accordance with their baser instincts, often violently and irrationally. When you inspire people, they act in accordance with their higher instincts, sensibly and rationally. Also, anger is transient, whereas inspiration sometimes has a life-long effect.” — Peace Pilgrim


336. “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”


337. “Emotions and feelings…hmm, I used to have those, when I was a kid. ”


338. “Probably the biggest hurdle when it comes to being authentic and sticking to your personal brand is when you start trying to get other people’s approval. That said, it can keep you further away from improving your social intelligence. ”– John Ward


339. “Never make a permanent decision based on a temporary emotion.” – Anonymous


340. “Experiencing one’s self in a conscious manner–that is, gaining self-knowledge–is an integral part of learning.” — Joshua M. Freedman


341. “By listening to and observing others, you can help nurture your social intelligence. The mere act of paying attention to others without necessarily opening up is a very effective way to learn how to establish successful interpersonal relationships. ”– John Ward


342. “When awareness is brought to an emotion, power is brought to your life. ” — Tara Meyer Robson


343. “It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head — it is the unique intersection of both.” — David Caruso


344. “Emotional Intelligence grows through perception. Look around at your present situation and observe it through the level of feeling. ”


345. “There are emotions which are biologically oriented and then there are complex emotions which are saturated with thoughts and cognition.” — Jack Mayer


346. “One ought to hold on to one’s heart; for if one lets it go, one soon loses control of the head too. ”


347. “Education is the fire-proofer of emotions.” — Dr. Frank Crane


348. “It is amazing how once the mind is free from emotional contamination, logic and clarity emerge.” – Clyde De Souza


349. “Jealousy. It’s an ugly word. It has a bad reputation. But in the end, it’s an instinctive feeling. It’s not something we choose to feel any more than anger or pain. It is how we react to it that is the key.”


350. “In every person who comes near you look for what is good and strong; honor that; try to imitate it, and your faults will drop off like dead leaves when their time comes.” —John Ruskin


351. “You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind. ”


352. “Emotionally intelligent people have an ability to manage stress as it happens and remain calm through chaos.” – Unknown


353. “Knowledge kills your emotions. ”


354. “By 2029, computers will have emotional intelligence and be convincing as people. ”


355. “Walk like the lion, talk like doves, live like elephants, and love like a small child. ”


356. “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” — Viktor Frankl


357. “When you make people angry, they act in accordance with their baser instincts, often violently and irrationally. When you inspire people, they act in accordance with their higher instincts, sensibly and rationally. Also, anger is transient, whereas inspiration sometimes has a life-long effect.” —Peace Pilgrim


358. “Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That’s why they look alike.” – Daniel Goleman


359. “He who spends time regretting the past loses the present and risks the future.” — Quevedo


360. “Businesses are on the front lines of applying social intelligence. As people work longer and longer hours, businesses loom as their substitute family, village, and social network—yet most of us can be tossed out at the will of management. That inherent ambivalence means that in more and more organizations, hope and fear run rampant. ” – Daniel Goleman


361. “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.” – Viktor E. Frankl


362. Communication


363. “Expect the breakthrough and expect to learn. ”


364. “When anger rises, think of the consequences. ”


365. “However, the very reason why people are able to improve their lives through social intelligence is that they recognize that they are not the only people who matter in this world. ”– John Ward


366. “Whether we are speaking of a flower or an oak tree, of an earthworm or a beautiful bird, of an ape or a person, we will do well, I believe, to recognize that life is an active process, not a passive one. Whether the stimulus arises from within or without, whether the environment is favorable or unfavorable, the behaviors of an organism can be counted on to be in the direction of maintaining, enhancing, and reproducing itself. This is the very nature of the process we call life. This tendency is operative at all times. Indeed, only the presence or absence of this total directional process enables us to tell whether a given organism is alive or dead.


367. “Anger is a sentry, stalking the edges of our boundaries and standing ready to defend them.”


368. “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion.” – Dale Carnegie


369. “Maturity is achieved when a person postpones immediate pleasures for long-term values.” —Joshua L. Liebman


370. “Emotional intelligence can be the game changer to high performance and personal leadership.”


371. “What matters is hard work and emotional intelligence. ” — Millard Drexler


372. “My message for everyone is the same: that if we can learn to identify, express, and harness our feelings, even the most challenging ones, we can use those emotions to help us create positive, satisfying lives.” – Marc Brackett


373. “Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence.” — Robert Frost


374. “Your intellect may be confused, but your emotions will never lie to you.” — Roger Ebert


375. “Empathetic people are superb at recognizing and meeting the needs of clients, customers, or subordinates. They seem approachable, wanting to hear what people have to say. They listen carefully, picking up on what people are truly concerned about, and respond on the mark.” ~ Daniel Goleman


376. “There is no separation of mind and emotions; emotions, thinking, and learning is all linked. ”


377. “Any person capable of angering you becomes your master.”


378. “Revenge has no more quenching effect on emotions than salt water has on thirst.” — Walter Weckler


379. “Emotional intelligence is your ability to recognize and understand emotions in yourself and others, and your ability to use this awareness to manage your behavior and relationships. ”


380. “All learning has an emotional base. ” — Plato


381. “The emotionally intelligent person is skilled in four areas: identifying emotions, using emotions, understanding emotions, and regulating emotions.”


382. “Happiness depends upon ourselves.” – Aristotle


383. “The consciousness of loving and being loved brings a warmth and richness to life that nothing else can bring.” —Oscar Wilde


384. “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion.” — Dale Carnegie


385. “There is an old-fashioned word for the body of skills that emotional intelligence represents: character.”


386. “Authenticity plays a big role in being able to develop your self-awareness and self-esteem. Both of which are important aspects of honing your social intelligence. ”– John Ward


387. “Emotional and Social Intelligence are lifelong learning endeavors. You must constantly evolve and grow. ” – John Ward


388. “Experience is not what happens to you - it’s how you interpret what happens to you.” —Aldous Huxley


389. “Persons of high self-esteem are not driven to make themselves superior to others; they do not seek to prove their value by measuring themselves against a comparative standard. Their joy is being who they are, not in being better than someone else.” —Nathaniel Branden


390. “True compassion means not only feeling another’s pain but also being moved to help relieve it.” ~ Daniel Goleman


391. “We define emotional intelligence as the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions.” – Salovey And Mayer


392. “It is amazing how once the mind is free from emotional contamination, logic and clarity emerge. ” — Clyde De Souza


393. “Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” — Paul Boese


394. “A leader who understands emotional intelligence will achieve milestones.”


395. “Mindful meditation has been discovered to foster the ability to inhibit those very quick emotional impulses. ”


396. “Be patient. Your skin took a while to deteriorate. Give it some time to reflect on a calmer inner state. As one of my friends states on his Facebook profile: “The true Losers in Life are not those who Try and Fail, but those who Fail to Try.”


397. “Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That's why they look alike.”


398. “It is one of the great paradoxes of the human condition – we ask some variation of the question, “How are you feeling?” over and over, which would lead on to assume that we attach some importance to it, yet we never expect or desire or provide an honest answer.” – Marc Brackett.


399. “Emotional intelligence begins to develop in the earliest years. All the small exchanges children have with their parents, teachers, and with each other carry emotional messages.” ~ Daniel Goleman


400. “When awareness is brought to an emotion, power is brought to your life.” – Tara Meyer Robson


401. “Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business. ”


402. “The idea behind emotional regulation is not to suppress or deny emotions but to manage them consciously as they shape our words and actions.”


403. Application


404. “The true losers in life, are not those who try and fail, but those who fail to try.” – Jess C. Scott


405. “My message for everyone's the same: that if we can learn to identify, express, and harness our feelings, even the most challenging ones, we can use those emotions to help us create positive, satisfying lives. ”


406. “A leader who understands emotional intelligence well achieves milestones. ” — Ishita Vadher


407. “Be patient. Your skin took a while to deteriorate. Give it some time to reflect a calmer inner state. As one of my friends states on his Facebook profile: “The true Losers in Life, are not those who Try and Fail, but those who Fail to Try. ”


408. University Professor and Relationship Expert, John Gottman, has this to say about the importance of emotional intelligence:


409. “The ability to process emotional information, particularly as it involves the perception, assimilation, understanding, and management of emotion.” — Mayer and Cobb


410. Daniel Goleman popularized the subject of emotional intelligence with his best selling books, including his 1995 book simply titled Emotional Intelligence. In Goleman's theory of emotional intelligence, EQ is at least as important as IQ when it comes to success and achievement in all parts of life


411. “Emotions have taught mankind to reason.” – Luc de Clapiers, marquis de Vauvenargues


412. “In a sense we have two brains, two minds – and two different kinds of intelligence: rational and emotional.” – Daniel Goleman


413. “People who keep stiff upper lips find that it’s damn hard to smile. ”


414. “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou


415. “Suppressing the feelings only makes it harder to let them go. Expression is the opposite of depression.” – Edith Eger


416. “A fuller understanding of social intelligence requires us to include “non-cognitive” aptitudes—the talent, for instance, that lets a sensitive nurse calm a crying toddler with just the right reassuring touch, without having to think for a moment about what to do. ” – Daniel Goleman


417. “I think it’s easy to mistake understanding for empathy — we want empathy so badly. … It’s hard and ugly to know somebody can understand you without even liking you.” — Thomas Harris


418. Insight and Assessment


419. Team Events and Social Gatherings


420. “One of the easiest ways to discover if someone is compatible with you is to gauge their emotional intelligence. Are they a kind and sensitive person? Will they be respectful towards your sensitivities? Or, are they emotionally stunted? Remember, we tend to attract narcissistic types who lack empathy.”


421. “No matter the situation, never let your emotions overpower your intelligence.” – Jean Houston


422. “Unleash in the right time and place before you explode at the wrong time and place.” – Oli Anderson


423. “When the management iceberg is shaped like a huge phallus, you know that there are a lot of tossers that the top penguin has had to climb over to reach the tip and that there is no shortage of the same caliber of penguin in the balls and shaft of the corporation, just waiting for their chance to get a spurt to the top. Should I sugar coat this a little more? or tell it like it is?”


424. “Emotional intelligence is your ability to recognize and understand emotions in yourself and others, and your ability to use this awareness to manage your behavior and relationships.” – Travis Bradberry


425. “Fear is the oldest and strongest emotion of mankind.” — H. P. Lovecraft


426. “Emotional Intelligence grows through perception. Look around at your present situation and observe it through the level of feeling.”


427. “Emotional intelligence is when you finally realize it’s not all about you. ”


428. “It takes something more than intelligence to act intelligently.” – Fyodor Dostoyevsky


429. “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” – Victor Frankl


430. “We all share the same sky. We share our sky with our close ones, and our emotional state affects them first.”


431. “Don’t let people who don’t care about you, manipulate your mind, feelings and emotions or control how you think about yourself. Never give that much power to someone else.” – Karon Waddell


432. “The emotional brain responds to an event more quickly than the thinking brain. ”


433. “Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath. ”


434. “Even though a high IQ is no guarantee of prosperity, prestige, or happiness in life, our schools and our culture fixate on academic abilities, ignoring the emotional intelligence that also matters immensely for our personal destiny.” – Daniel Goleman


435. “My message for everyone is the same: that if we can learn to identify, express, and harness our feelings, even the most challenging ones, we can use those emotions to help us create positive, satisfying lives. ”


436. “We are all in favor of emotional intelligence. Intelligence can take emotion as a privileged counseling partner. However, it does not allow the emotion to take possession of us, besiege our mind, and subjugate our thinking. The emotion must regulate our thoughts, not manipulate nor substitute them. Our perception is only a biased picture of reality, and emotions are individual or provisional. Therefore, critical thinking and emotional thinking must go hand in hand. ("No monsters hide at this point" )”


437. “He who smiles rather than rages is always the stronger.” — Japanese proverb


438. “Emotions help keep us on the right track by making sure that we are led by more than cognition.” — Maurice Elias


439. “The true losers in life, are not those who try and fail, but those who fail to try. ”


440. “We cannot tell what may happen to us in the strange medley of life. But we can decide what happens in us — how we can take it, what we do with it — and that is what really counts in the end.” – Joseph Fort Newton


441. “Emotions and reason are intertwined, and both are critical to problem-solving. ” — Antonio Damasio


442. “The emotional brain responds to an event more quickly than the thinking brain.” – Daniel Golema


443. “Let us fear the torment of emotions that might sway in its wake chaos through the sound construction of reason and discernment. Let us cherish instead emotional intelligence along the intricate and tortuous paths of life’s labyrinth.” – Erik Pevernagie


444. Motivation


445. “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else: you are the one who gets burned.” —Buddha


446. “Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business.” — Norman Vincent Peale


447. EQ vs IQ is not an either-or thing. It's a both-and thing. It is not intellect over emotion, or vice-versa. You function at your maximum potential when you learn to use both the information in your emotions and other sources of information together


448. “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else: you are the one who gets burned.” – Buddha


449. “Those who enter the gates of heaven are not beings who have no passions or who have curbed the passions, but those who have cultivated an understanding of them.” —William Blake


450. “A leader who understands emotional intelligence well achieves milestones.” – Ishita Vadher


451. “Focusing on paying attention to others is challenging. No one ever said it was easy but it is necessary if you want to improve on your social intelligence. ”– John Ward


452. “Whenever we feel stressed out, that’s a signal that our brain is pumping out stress hormones. If sustained over months and years, those hormones can ruin our health and make us a nervous wreck.” ~ Daniel Goleman


453. “Although the goal of most people who are in pursuit of developing their social intelligence is to be heard and understood, there is power in learning from others too. ”– John Ward


454. “Societies can be sunk by the weight of buried ugliness.” – Daniel Goleman


455. “Feelings can’t be ignored, no matter how unjust or ungrateful they seem. ”


456. “The 8 Equities: Physical, Spiritual, Psychological, Intellectual, Emotional, Financial, Social and Family.” — Michael Vance


457. “Emotionally intelligent leaders know when to display emotions and when to delay emotions.” – Unknown


458. “Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.” —Barbara De Angelis


459. “The idea behind emotional regulation is not to suppress or deny emotions but to manage them consciously as they shape our words and actions.” – Unknown


460. “One aspect of a successful relationship is not just how compatible you are, but how you deal with your incompatibility.” ~ Daniel Goleman


461. “Your emotions are the slaves to your thoughts, and you are the slave to your emotions.”- Elizabeth Gilbert


462. Analytical Mindset


463. “Transformation occurs when existing solutions, assumed truths and past decisions are exposed as unrealistic and self-defeating.” —Peter Shepherd


464. “The greatest ability in business is to get along with others and influence their actions.” — John Hancock


465. “Your day will go the way your emotional intelligence guides both your thoughts and actions.”


466. “Beauty is an asset, just like physical prowess, charisma, brains, or emotional intelligence.” – Dale Archer


467. “Emotional Intelligence (EI) can be broken down into the understanding and management of our own thoughts and feelings as well as the understanding of others.” – Unknown


468. “True compassion means not only feeling another’s pain but also being moved to help relieve it. ”


469. “There are six elements of gravitas critical to leadership: grace under fire, decisiveness, emotional intelligence and the ability to read a room, integrity and authenticity (people don’t like fakes), a vision that inspires others, and a stellar reputation.” – Sylvia Ann Hewlett


470. “When you listen with empathy to another person, you give that person psychological air.” — Stephen R. Covey


471. “How you react emotionally is a choice in any situation.”


472. “The emotions of man are stirred more quickly than man’s intelligence. ”


473. “Your day will go the way your emotional intelligence guides both your thoughts and actions. ”


474. “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ” —(probably not) Maya Angelou


475. “What really matters for success, character, happiness and life long achievements is a definite set of emotional skills – your EQ — not just purely cognitive abilities that are measured by conventional IQ tests.” — Daniel Goleman


476. “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.” – Victor E. Frankl


477. “Some people are all self-presentation, with no substance to back it up. The varieties of social intelligence are no substitute for the other kinds of expertise that a given role may call for. As I overheard one businessman say to another over lunch while we shared seats at a Manhattan sushi bar, “He’s got that ability to make people like him. But you couldn’t pick a worse person—he’s got no follow-up tech skills. ”” – Daniel Goleman


478. “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” – C.G Jung


479. “When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.” —Kahlil Gibran


480. “Inhale emotional intelligence exhale forgiveness and civility.” – T.Y Howard


481. “Logic will not change an emotion, but action will.” – Anonymous


482. “Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense, understand, and effectively apply the power and acumen of emotions as a source of human energy, information, connection, and influence.” – Robert K. Cooper


483. “As much as 80% of adult “success” comes from EQ. ” — Daniel Goleman


484. “You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind. ” — Dale Carnegie


485. “Any person capable of angering you becomes your master.” ― Epictetus


486. “The sign of intelligent people is their ability to control emotions by the application of reason.” —Marya Mannes


487. “The emotionally intelligent person is skilled in four areas: identifying emotions, using emotions, understanding emotions, and regulating emotions.” — John Mayer and Peter Salovey


488. “There is no separation of mind and emotions; emotions, thinking, and learning is all linked.” – Eric Jensen


489. “Whatever is begun in anger, ends in shame.” —Benjamin Franklin


490. “The unconscious effort of protecting ourselves from unwanted and painful sensations keeps our nervous system in a state of constant threat and stress. When it doesn’t feel safe in our body we shut down and disconnect from our emotional intelligence and flow. This is the emotional trauma and perpetuates resistance towards life and blocks authentic connections. Healing begins and deepens in that moment when we give up resisting circumstances and we are willing to look towards the disowned feelings.” – Unknown


491. “CEOs are hired for their intellect and business expertise - and fired for a lack of emotional intelligence. ”


492. “Developing emotional intelligence is one way to protect yourself from damaging relationships. Emotional intelligence is a science that has been studied and researched for over a decade. According to the theories, mutual respect and effective communication are key.” – Liz Miller


493. “I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them. ”


494. “If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.” – Daniel Goleman


495. “Emotional pain is not something that should be hidden away and never spoken about. There is truth in your pain, there is growth in your pain, but only if it’s first brought out into the open.” – Steve Aitchison


496. “Emotion can be the enemy, if you give into your emotion, you lose yourself. You must be at one with your emotions, because the body always follows the mind. ”


497. “It is a choice. No matter how frustrating or boring or constraining or painful or oppressive our experience, we can always choose how we respond. ”


498. “Whatever is begun in anger, ends in shame.” —- Benjamin Franklin


499. “Emotions and feelings…hmm, I used to have those, when I was a kid. ” — Ayush Mehre


500. “Emotional intelligence is ability to use emotion to increase your own and other’s success.” – Annie McKee


501. “The more socially intelligent you are, the happier and more robust and more enjoyable your relationships will be.” ~ Daniel Goleman


502. “Experiencing one’s self in a conscious manner- that is, gaining self-knowledge- is an integral part of learning. ”


503. “The strength of character and emotional intelligence to face your failures and learn from them are at the core of success.” – Robert Kiyosaki


504. “To be emotionally intelligent means to understand the powerful emotions of your and of others and to handle it properly.” – Unknown


505. “Where we have strong emotions, we’re liable to fool ourselves.” – Carl Sagan


506. “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else: you are the one who gets burned.” — Buddha


507. “Emotional intelligence is what humans are good at and that’s not a sideshow. That’s the cutting edge of human intelligence.” – Ray Kurzweil


508. “Every time we allow someone to move us with anger, we teach them to be angry.” — Barry Neil Kaufman


509. “Emotional intelligence begins to develop in the earliest years. All the small exchanges children have with their parents, teachers, and with each other carry emotional messages.” – Daniel Goleman


510. “All learning has an emotional base.” – Plato


511. “Worrying is like being in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but does not get you anywhere.”


512. “Whatever is begun in anger, ends in shame. ”


513. “It is not the stress that makes us fall, it is how we respond to situations of stress.” – Wayde Goodall


514. “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate. ” — C. G. Jung


515. “Emotions and reason are intertwined,


516. “Anybody can become angry that is easy but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose and in the right way that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” – Aristotle


517. “Emotions are enmeshed in the neural networks of reason.” — Antonio Dumasio


518. “Whatever is begun in anger, ends in shame.” – Benjamin Franklin


519. “Our feeling is not there to be cast out or conquered. They’re there to engaged and expressed with imagination and Intelligence. ”


520. “Liberty is a supreme precious good. It is our compass and reacts to our encounters, bumps into new realities, and navigates through the complexity of our world. It is map-reading the focus of our attention and listening to the wisdom of our past. Our freedom shall follow the signals of the lighthouse of our emotional intelligence and, at the same time, take account of the social veracities. (“The infinite Wisdom of Meditation“)”


521. “Emotional intelligence is a different way of being smart. It includes knowing what your feelings are and using your feelings to make good decisions in life. It’s being able to manage distressing moods well and control impulses. It’s being motivated and remaining hopeful and optimistic when you have setbacks in working towards goals. It’s empathy; knowing what the people around you are feeling. And it’s social skill – getting along well with other people, managing emotions in relationships, being able to persuade or lead others.” – J. O’Neil


522. “Experiencing one’s self in a conscious manner- that is, gaining self-knowledge- is an integral part of learning.” – Karen Stone McCown


523. “Emotional intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we think, feel, and act. It shapes our interactions with others and our understanding of ourselves. It defines how and what we learn; it allows us to set priorities; it determines the majority of our daily actions. Research suggests it is responsible for as much as 80 percent of the “success” in our lives.” — J Freedman


524. “The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.”


525. “Perhaps the most liberating moment in my life was when I realized that my self-loathing was not a product of my inadequacy but, rather, a product of my thoughts.” – Vironika Tugaleva


526. “We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel.” – Marshall B. Rosenberg


527. “Inhale emotional intelligence exhale forgiveness and civility. ” — T. Y. Howard


528. “Women, on average, tend to be more aware of their emotions, show more empathy, and are more adept interpersonally. Men on the other hand, are more self-confident and optimistic, adapt more easily, and handle stress better.” — Daniel Goleman


529. “What I’ve come to realize is that emotional intelligence, which I define as buoyancy, was the only way I knew how to lead, and is, in my option, the only way to inspire real change.” – Kevin Allen


530. “Never make a permanent decision based on a temporary emotion.”


531. “Not only does emotional intelligence and positive psychology appear to share a rather wide domain overlap based on the way both concepts have been described and defined, but the empirical findings presented here suggest that emotional intelligence has a positive and significant impact on performance, happiness, wellbeing, and the quest for a more meaningful life, all of which are key areas of interest in positive psychology.”


532. “Expect the breakthrough and expect to learn. ” — Kathleen Spike


533. “Our identity is very closely associated with our thoughts and feelings. Usually, when we feel anger, we become angry. We are anger itself. When we feel depressed, we are depression. When we feel greedy we are greed. It’s easy to see ourselves in the emotional ‘guise du jour’ and mistake this costume for who we really are beneath it.” —Marc Gilson


534. “How you react emotionally is a choice in any situation.” – Judith Orloff


535. “Be patient. Your skin took a while to deteriorate. Give it some time to reflect a calmer inner state. As one of my friends states on his Facebook profile: "The true Losers in Life, are not those who Try and Fail, but those who Fail to Try.”


536. “We cannot tell what may happen to us in the strange medley of life. But we can decide what happens in us — -how we can take it, what we do with it —- and that is what really counts in the end.” —- Joseph Fort Newton


537. “Emotional intelligence allows you to regulate and manage your emotions to make yourself emotionally and socially strong. Emotional intelligence helps shape our interactions with others by adding to our skills.” – Unknown


538. “Tact is the knack of making a point without making an enemy. ”


539. “People whose eyes shine are happy to be alive. They see the beauty of life and its glory, even when things aren’t easy.” – Jelena Pantić


540. “If you are tuned out of your own emotions, you will be poor at reading them in other people.” – Daniel Goleman


541. “Let us fear the torment of emotions that might sway in its wake chaos through the sound construction of reason and discernment. Let us cherish instead emotional intelligence along the intricate and tortuous paths of life’s labyrinth. ”


542. “I had learned to hide what I felt. No, that’s not true. There was no learning involved. I had been born knowing how to hide what I felt.” – Benjamin Alire Sáenz


543. “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion. ”


544. “It is a choice. No matter how frustrating or boring or constraining or painful or oppressive our experience, we can always choose how we respond.” – Edith Eger


545. “5 reminders for leaders with emotional intelligence: Reject pity parties. Take a power-walk and breathe deeply. Don’t allow others to set your emotions. Focus your time and energy on what you can control. Stay humble with life’s highs and lows.” – Unknown


546. Neuroscientist, Robert Cooper, author of Executive EQ: Emotional Intelligence in Leadership & Organizations, defines Emotional Intelligence this way:


547. Needs and Wants


548. “The ability to process emotional information, particularly as it involves the perception, assimilation, understanding, and management of emotion. ” — Mayer and Cobb


549. “You have power over your mind — not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” — Marcus Aurelius


550. “We don’t know where we’re going, we don’t know what’s going to happen, but no one can take away from you what you put in your own mind.” – Edith Eger


551. “There is no greater loss than bearing an untold idea inside you.” —Amanda Dudley, essay writing service author


552. Training


553. “The nervous system and hormone responses of hostile people are a pathway to disease and death.” — Redford Williams, M.D


554. “Life appears to me too short to be spent in nursing animosity or registering wrongs.” —Charlotte Brontë


555. “Any person capable of angering you becomes your master.” – Epictetus


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557. “How you react emotionally is a choice in any situation. ”


558. “You are hurt the moment you believe yourself to be.” — Epictetus


559. “Realize that now, in this moment of time, you are creating. You are creating your next moment based on what you are feeling and thinking. That is what’s real.” — Doc Childre


560. “Research shows that for jobs of all kinds, emotional intelligence is twice as important an ingredient of outstanding performance as cognitive ability and technical skill combined.” ~ Daniel Goleman


561. “When people feel good, they work at their best. Feeling good lubricates mental efficiency, making people better at understanding information and using decision rules in complex judgments, as well as more flexible in their thinking.” – Daniel Goleman


562. “Better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window through which you must see the world.” –George Bernard Shaw


563. “Each moment is a choice. No matter how frustrating or boring or constraining or painful or oppressive our experience, we can always choose how we respond.” – Marc Brackett


564. “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else: you are the one who gets burned. ” — Buddha


565. “There are certain emotions that will kill your drive; frustration and confusion. You can change these to a positive force. Frustration means you are on the verge of a breakthrough. Confusion can mean you are about to learn something. Expect the breakthrough and expect to learn.” – Kathleen Spike, Master Certified Coach


566. “Feelings are not supposed to be logical. Dangerous is the man who has rationalized his emotions.” — David Borenstein