600 Inspiring Conflict Resolution Quotes (2023)
1. “Creativity comes from a conflict of ideas.” – Donatella Versace
2. Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.
3. “No pressure, no diamonds.” Mary Case
4. Even the best of friends face conflicts, but that needn’t mean the end of the relationship.” – Anonymous
5. “When trust is broken, it does not need to be the end of a relationship. Much can be learned from staying in a relationship and learning from the conflict situation.” – Dr. Margaret Paul
6. “The aim of argument and of discussion, should not be victory, but progress.” Joseph Joubert
7. “Choosing to be respectful in conflict resolution will guide a person’s words and actions during a confrontation. When you respect the other person, you make the effort to be calm and non-adversarial in your speech and conduct.” – John Ward
8. “Happiness comes as a result of conflict, resolution, and growth — as the result of having to work at something.”
9. “Our laws are bent and carefully crafted to ensure we keep protecting the very people we should be protected against.”
10. “In dwelling, live close to the ground. In thinking, keep to the simple. In conflict, be fair and generous. In governing, don't try to control. In work, do what you enjoy. In family life, be completely present.”
11. “Two households, both alike in dignity
12. You know, a lot of people don’t love themselves. And they go through life with deep and haunting emotional conflicts. So the length of life means that you must love yourself. And you know what loving yourself also means? It means that you’ve got to accept yourself.
13. “goals create an “either-or” conflict: either you achieve your goal and are successful or you fail and you are a disappointment.”
14. “Tarot helps us look within ourselves to understand our emotions, the reasoning behind our words and conduct, and the source of our conflicts.” ~ Benebell Wen
15. “These spaces in our togetherness are not here for us to fight one another but so that we could experience companionship, friendship and love each other.”
16. If I, taking care of everyone’s interests, also take care of my own, you can’t talk about a conflict of interest.
17. “Nagasaki and Hiroshima remind us to put peace first every day; to work on conflict prevention and resolution, reconciliation, and dialogue; and to tackle the roots of conflict and violence.” – Antonio Guterres
18. “Quote words that affirm
19. “The ocean has a life of its own. It’s tides, whirlpools, currents and eddies are a testament to its conflicting emotions.”
20. Peace is better than war, because conflict resolutions can be made without a wastage of life and resources.
21. Do not kid yourself- a conflict is never about the surface issue. It is about the ones unsaid, untreated and unhealed wounds.
22. * "If civilization is to survive, we must cultivate the science of human relationships - the ability of all peoples, of all kinds, to live together, in the same world at peace."
23. “The better able team members are to engage, speak, listen, hear, interpret, and respond constructively, the more likely their teams are to leverage conflict rather than be leveled by it.” Runde and Flanagan
24. * “Dialogue is the only way to end war and terror. We need practical solidarity with those who are weaker and diplomacy from below.”
25. “To be on the same page, we need to be in the same book.” – Rahul Guhathakurta
26. “If necessity is the mother of invention, conflict is its father.” Kenneth Kaye
27. “One of the best ways for leaders to raise the level of healthy conflict on a team is by mining for conflict during meetings.”
28. “If you’re still having trouble determining how to rate a particular habit, here is a question I like to use: “Does this behavior help me become the type of person I wish to be? Does this habit cast a vote for or against my desired identity?” Habits that reinforce your desired identity are usually good. Habits that conflict with your desired identity are usually bad.”
29. * " Let us never negotiate out of fear. But let us never fear to negotiate
30. “10% of conflicts are due to difference in opinion. 90% are due to wrong tone of voice.” Unknown
31. “Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.”- Martin Luther King, Jr.
32. “Difficulties are meant to rouse. not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.”~ William Ellery Channing
33. “Up to now we haven’t paid much attention to the Nice Guy, but he is everywhere. He is the relative who lets his wife run the show. He is the buddy who will do anything for anybody, but whose own life seems to be in shambles. He is the guy who frustrates his wife or girlfriend because he is so afraid of conflict that nothing ever gets resolved.”—Robert A. Glover
34. “We stand against the small tide of those who want to make everyone unhappy with conflicting theory and thought.”
35. “Bravery is the choice to show up and listen to another person, be it a loved one or perceived foe, even when it is uncomfortable, painful, or the last thing you want to do.” – Alaric Hutchinson
36. “When human beings live together, conflict is inevitable. War is not.” – Daisaku Ikeda, philosopher
37. Marriage means expectations and expectations mean conflict.
38. We don’t get harmony when everybody sings the same note. Only notes that are different can harmonize. The same is true with people.
39. I believe that the basic nature of human beings is gentle and compassionate. It is therefore in our own interest to encourage that nature, to make it live within us, to leave room for it to develop. If on the contrary we use violence, it is as if we voluntarily obstruct the positive side of human nature and prevent its evolution.
40. “To make life more bearable and pleasant for everybody, choose the issues that are significant enough to fight over, and ignore or use distraction for those you can let slide that day. Picking your battles will eliminate a number of conflicts, and yet will still leave you feeling in control.” Lawrence Balter
41. “When we aren't curious in conversations we judge, tell, blame and even shame, often without even knowing it, which leads to conflict."
42. “Furthermore, goals create an “either-or” conflict: either you achieve your goal and are successful or you fail and you are a disappointment. You mentally box yourself into a narrow version of happiness. This is misguided.”
43. “Feeling threatened whenever you confront conflicts can be a problem. You will likely respond to conflict by closing off or expressing things with bias and sometimes anger. This is not a healthy way of managing and addressing disagreements.” – John Ward
44. “We have the potential to help people out of poverty, out of disease, out of slavery and out of conflict. Too often, we turn the other way because we think there's nothing we can do.” – Alicia Keys
45. By the time a man realizes that his father was right, he has a son who thinks he’s wrong.
46. #9. Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less. – Marie Curie
47. “Wild ducks make a lot of noise, but they also have the sense to benefit from occasionally flying in formation.” Unknown
48. “The Anatomy of Conflict:
49. “An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.” – Mahatma Gandhi
50. “Do not let a savage turn you into a savage.”
51. The more incompetent one feels, the more eager he is to fight.
52. A stiff apology is a second insult. The injured party does not want to be compensated because he has been wronged; he wants to be healed because he has been hurt.
53. “If you truly aim to harness your social intelligence, then approach conflict resolutions respectfully and objectively.” – John Ward
54. “The customer is always 'RIGHT' is not necessarily true. The customer is just another human being who tries to bully, influence & manipulate to fit the title of Mr. Right. Conflict resolution represents an art of maintaining a balancing act without allowing the customer realize their Mr. Right mask has been removed.”
55. “I will tell you only this: that you are one of the Old Ones, the first to have been born for five hundred years, and the last. And like all such, you are bound by nature to devote yourself to the long conflict between the Light and the Dark.”
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57. “The first thing to remember about resolving conflicts is that the goal is not to win or be right. The goal is to strengthen and maintain relationships. You are arguing not to argue, you are arguing to settle both you and your peer’s issues.” – John Ward
58. “When there is trust, conflict becomes nothing but the pursuit of truth.”
59. “Conformity is painful. You know, it's too tight. Conformity leads to rebellion. So a desire for happiness is in direct conflict with a desire for freedom.” – Thomas Jane
60. “Conflict with and hostile criticism from loved ones increase our self-doubts and create a sense of helplessness, classic triggers for depression. We need validation from our loved ones. Researchers say that marital distress raises the risk for depression tenfold!”
61. “If we don’t trust one another, then we aren’t going to engage in open, constructive, ideological conflict. And we’ll just continue to preserve a sense of artificial harmony.”
62. “The butterfly symbolises resurrection and transformation. And transformation does not come without struggle, conflict and pain.” — Karl H. Federschmidt
63. “One of the most basic principles for making and keeping peace within and between nations. . . is that in political, military, moral, and spiritual confrontations, there should be an honest attempt at the reconciliation of differences before resorting to combat”
64. People are disturbed not by things, but by the view they take of them.
65. Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.
66. “Being nice is often about avoiding conflict, letting inappropriate actions slide, or bottling up words and actions that ought to be spoken and enacted to prevent creating an uncomfortable scene. At its worst, being nice reinforces actions and attitudes that strip away human dignity.”
67. Don’t ever take a fence down until you know why it was put up.
68. “If we manage conflict constructively, we harness its energy for creativity and development.” – Kenneth Kaye | quotes about conflict in relationships |
69. “Conflict can destroy a team which hasn’t spent time learning to deal with it.” Thomas Isgar
70. “It isn’t that they can’t see the solution. It is that they can’t see the problem.” G. K. Chesterton
71. * Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression, and retaliation.
72. “Conflict can and should be handled constructively; when it is, relationships benefit. Conflict avoidance is *not* the hallmark of a good relationship. On the contrary, it is a symptom of serious problems and of poor communication.” – Harriet B. Braiker
73. “please tell me what you want
74. Conflict can and should be handled constructively; when it is, relationships benefit. Conflict avoidance is *not* the hallmark of a good relationship. On the contrary, it is a symptom of serious problems and of poor communication.”– Harriet B. Braiker
75. “See the system. When you find yourself stuck in an oversimplified polarized conflict, a useful first step is to try to become more aware of the system as a whole: to provide more context to your understanding of the terrain in which the stakeholders are embedded, whether they are disputants, mediators, negotiators, lawyers, or other third parties. This can help you to see the forest and the trees; it is a critical step toward regaining some sense of accuracy, agency, possibility, and control in the situation.”
76. It is worth noting that it is important to select short-term rewards that reinforce your identity rather than ones that conflict with it.»
77. * "This is the way of peace: Overcome evil with good, falsehood with truth, and hatred with love."
78. The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph.” ― Thomas Paine
79. “In dwelling, live close to the ground. In thinking, keep to the simple. In conflict, be fair and generous. In governing, don't try to control. In work, do what you enjoy. In family life, be completely present.” – Lao Tzu
80. “It's not about winning or loosing; it's about realizing who- and why we are.”
81. The risks of the conflict never overwhelmed me, only the fear of marginalization.”
82. ¨ Love is the most ethically consistent experience, because selfishness and altruism no longer seem opposed or in conflict. ¨- Peter Breggin
83. * "...We can work it out. Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend."
84. “Harmony itself is good, I suppose, if it comes as a result of working through issues constantly and cycling through conflict. But if it comes only as a result of people holding back their opinions and honest concerns, then it’s a bad thing.”
85. “Was I kind to others? It was hard to nail down an answer. I worried that if I did turn out to have a personality, it would be one of the unkind ones. Did I only worry about this question because as a woman I felt required to put the needs of others before my own? Was “kindness” just another term for submission in the face of conflict? These were the kind of things I wrote about in my diary as a teenager: as a feminist I have the right not to love anyone.”
86. “God's love is too great to be confined to any one side of a conflict or to any one religion.” – Desmond Tutu
87. “That’s what peace is, right? Postponing the conflict until the thing you were fighting over doesn’t matter.”
88. “When people self-identify and publicly declare their outlook on conflict, they become much more open to adjusting it to whatever team norms need to be established.”
89. “Conflict resolution, be it between partners or the members of the united nations, is in essence very simple. There where are two parties is in reality but one partnering with itself (and leaving space between itself) so not to be by itself and this for the purpose of companionship, friendship, love. The good news is that this knowledge can also be used in interpersonal relationships be it with family, friends and loved ones. Best is to always come back to a single truth. Truth is that all this is self and that the purpose of self is love which is why self is diverse to begin with.”
90. “In one of our concert grand pianos, 243 taut strings exert a pull of 40,000 pounds on an iron frame. It is proof that out of great tension may come great harmony.” Theodore E. Steinway
91. * If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.
92. All conflict can be traced back to someone’s feelings getting hurt, don’t you think?
93. “Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” William James
94. “When there is trust, conflict becomes nothing but the pursuit of truth, an attempt to find the best possible answer.” - Patrick Lencioni Infographic published by Neil Beyersdorf neil-beyersdorf.branded.me/
95. Deflect, co-opt, absorb or annihilate. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a sword fight or conducting a worldwide military campaign, these are the options for dealing with your opposition.”
96. “Pick your battles. Some conflicts are not worth your time and energy to resolve. If you see a stranger’s comment on the internet that is against your beliefs, think about how much it matters to you first and if it is worth your time and energy to discuss things with this stranger.” – John Ward
97. Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe. – Barbara De Angelis
98. “All great relationships, the ones that last over time, require productive conflict in order to grow. This is true in marriage, parenthood, friendship, and certainly business.”
99. The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly; it is dearness only that gives everything its value. I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress and grow brave by reflection. 'Tis the business of little minds to shrink; but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.
100. "Why is it braver to be a single mother versus being with a partner? Being a couple and having a child could be more challenging because there might be conflict if the male partner cannot understand the extreme attachment a woman feels when she has a child.” – Monica Cruz
101. Men die of boredom, psychological conflict and disease. They do not die of hard work. - David Ogilvy
102. “Conflict is good in a negotiation process... it's the clash of two ideas, which then, all being well, produces a third idea.” – Luke Roberts | love conflict quotes | friends conflict quotes
103. They say marriages are made in Heaven. But so is thunder and lightning.
104. “You can’t comfort the afflicted without afflicting the comfortable.” – Princess Diana
105. * We found out that the young people who had a substantial number of lessons in the Resolving Conflict Creatively Curriculum ... not only did better in terms of people skills, that they managed their emotions, they were less violent and more caring, but they actually did better on their academic achievement tests.
106. “To make meetings less boring, leaders must look for legitimate reasons to provoke and uncover relevant, constructive ideological conflict.”
107. “Every action has a preceding cause.
108. “I swore never to be silent whenever human beings endure suffering and humiliation. We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.” – Elie Weisel
109. * "There's been a quantum leap technologically in our age, but unless there's another quantum leap in human relations, unless we learn to live in a new way towards one another, there will be a catastrophe."
110. “This failure to build trust is damaging because it sets the tone for the second dysfunction: fear of conflict. Teams that lack trust are incapable of engaging in unfiltered and passionate debate of ideas. Instead, they resort to veiled discussions and guarded comments.”
111. “People who don’t like conflict have an amazing ability to avoid it, even when they know it’s theoretically necessary”
112. “The more deeply a thought or action is tied to your identity, the more difficult it is to change it. It can feel comfortable to believe what your culture believes (group identity), or to do what upholds your self-image (personal identity), even if it’s wrong. The biggest barrier to positive change at any level—individual, team, society—is identity conflict.”
113. “When it comes to conflict resolution, how to solve conflict be it between couples, family, friends or nations, it is important to remember the 'tree of knowledge': 1) who we really are 2) how we really got here 3) why we are really here. And the answer to these three questions is surprisingly simple. 1) Who we are is (the same) one not wanting to be alone. 2) How we got here is the desire not to be alone. 3) Why we are here is companionship otherwise known as love. Now it is true that we are different, that we have our unique personalities and quirks, that we have our 'other-ness' but the purpose of this 'other-ness' has always been and will forever continue to be 'together-ness'. For all this so self would not feel by itself. For all this so self could experience companionship otherwise known as love. Now. What is there thus to argue about? Now. What is there thus to fight over? Nothing is more absurd than conflict. Ignorance breeds conflict while knowledge breeds peace. So let's step back. Let us breathe. Let us reflect. Let us remember. Let us accept. Let us love.”
114. “Do not think of knocking out another person’s brains because he differs in opinion from you. It would be as rational to knock yourself on the head because you differ from yourself ten years ago.” Horace Mann
115. We know from personal and professional experience that recovery is not always easy. Sobriety quotes can be a helpful part of our daily toolbox that we reach into to help aid and motivate us during times of personal conflict or challenge. They can also be used to express ourselves or to reach out and help and encourage others.
116. “How many wars, conflicts, and fights start with a misunderstanding?” – Hesha Abrams
117. “You can’t comfort the afflicted without afflicting the comfortable.” – Princess Diana | avoid conflict quotes | inner conflict quotes
118. “Workplace bullying–in any form–is bad for business. It destroys teamwork, commitment and morale.” Tony Morgan
119. “I think all art comes out of conflict. When I write I am always looking for the dramatic kernel of an event, the junctures of people's lives when they go in one direction, not another.” – Joyce Carol Oates
120. To practice the process of conflict resolution, we must completely abandon the goal of getting people to do what we want.
121. “The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly; it is dearness only that gives everything its value. I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress and grow brave by reflection. ‘Tis the business of little minds to shrink; but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.” Thomas Paine
122. “Soulmates are those that we’ve known many lifetimes, have had many karmic contracts with, and with whom we have resolved conflicts. Marriage partners may or may not be soul mates, though they will be a soul contract. With true soul mates, there is no struggle. What’s left over is love.” — Karen M. Black
123. “Meetings are boring because they lack drama. Or conflict. This is a shame because most meetings have plenty of potential for drama, which is essential for keeping human beings engaged. Unfortunately, rather than mining for that golden conflict, most leaders of meetings seem to be focused on avoiding tension and ending their meetings on time.”
124. * “If you believe in a security strategy -- a strategy of more friends and fewer enemies, a strategy of greater cooperation and a strategy of keeping America better at home as we grow more diverse -- we have to build the minds and hearts to build this kind of world.”
125. “Therefore, it is key that leaders demonstrate restraint when their people engage in conflict, and allow resolution to occur naturally, as messy as it can sometimes be. This can be a challenge because many leaders feel that they are somehow failing in their jobs by losing control of their teams during conflict. Finally, as trite as it may sound, a leader’s ability to personally model appropriate conflict behavior is essential. By avoiding conflict when it is necessary and productive—something many executives do—a team leader will encourage this dysfunction to thrive.”
126. “You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view.”
127. “I finally did work out a very good relationship with my father, but it was rough growing up. We had a lot of conflicts, and I think it surfaced in many of my works.” – Ira Levin
128. Sometimes we're loyal to more than one thing. When there's a conflict, we have to choose which loyalty to honor.” — Claudia Gray
129. “‘Nukkin ya?’ said Pickles. ‘Geez, you’re talking like one of them now.’
130. Living with integrity means speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. – Barbara De Angelis
131. You can’t shake hands with a clenched fist.
132. “Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.”
133. #5. Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment. – Benjamin Franklin
134. “Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.” William Ellery Channing
135. “A man will fight harder for his interests than for his rights.” Napoleon Bonaparte
136. “Ironically, most leaders of meetings go out of their way to eliminate or minimize drama and avoid the healthy conflict that results from it. Which only drains the interest of employees.”
137. “If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself.”
138. “An apology is the superglue of life. It can repair just about anything.” Lynn Johnston
139. “A wise person can successfully resolve a conflict by incorporating basic knowledge of Psychology to understand human behavior , Dispute Resolution to bring both parties together to form an agreeable solution and Law to restrain from engaging in illegal actions.”
140. Anyone can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person at the right time, and for the right purpose and in the right way – that is not easy.
141. The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. -Thomas Paine
142. On great teams, the kind where people trust each other, engage in open conflict and then commit to decisions—team members have the courage and confidence to confront one another when they see something that isn't serving the team.'—Patrick Lencioni
143. “Instinct is the great director in the formation of all relationships.”
144. “A willingness to trust and openly listen to alternative ideas and views is essential for collaboration to be successful.” – Dale Eilerman
145. * If you have nothing to say, say nothing.
146. “There where is two is one not wanting to be alone.”
147. #7. When you have a conflict, that means that there are truths that have to be addressed on each side of the conflict. And when you have a conflict, then it’s an educational process to try to resolve the conflict. And to resolve that, you have to get people on both sides of the conflict involved so that they can dialogue.” – Dolores Huerta
148. This also means recognizing that addiction is in fact a disease, not a moral failure. Rather than blaming yourself for your addiction, be kind to yourself. Do not feel bad if you were unable to achieve sobriety on your own. You may not yet possess the tools to do so, but treatment you can develop these tools. Treatment offers structure and accountability, increasing the odds of remaining sober. Moreover, programs teach healthier ways of coping, dealing with conflict, and responding to triggers.
149. “All great relationships, the ones that last over time, require productive conflict in order to grow.”
150. 26. “People with good emotional sobriety tend not to create unnecessary conflict in their lives; it is simply too costly to their own peace of mind. They understand that their inner peace is their responsibility, and that if they lose it, only they can get it back.” – Tian Dayton Ph.D
151. “And then quite distinctly I felt the splintering along the fissure line in my heart as the smaller part wrenched itself away from the whole.”
152. “If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes; but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent’s good will.”
153. Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved through understanding.
154. An apology is the superglue of life. It can repair just about anything.
155. Healing is the end of conflict with yourself.
156. * Courtesy towards opponents and eagerness to understand their view-point is the ABC of non-violence.
157. “But the Bible claims something radically out of step with its time. It claims there is one true Creator God who made everything. And the world was born, not out of conflict or war or jealous infighting, but out of the overflow of his creativity and love.”
158. “Instead of suppressing conflicts, specific channels could be created to make this conflict explicit, and specific methods could be set up by which the conflict is resolved.” – Albert Low
159. #8. Change means movement. Movement means friction. Only in the frictionless vacuum of a nonexistent abstract world can movement or change occur without that abrasive friction of conflict. – Saul Alinsky
160. “Unlike tires, life has no spare.”
161. * If you start a conversation with the assumption that you are right or that you must win, obviously it is difficult to talk.
162. “Respectful communication under conflict or opposition is an essential and truly awe-inspiring ability.” – Bryant McGill
163. “Contrary to popular wisdom and behavior, conflict is not a bad thing for a team. In fact, the fear of conflict is almost always a sign of problems.”
164. “For kids like me, the part of the brain that deals with stress and conflict is always activated–the switch flipped indefinitely. We are constantly ready to fight or flee, because there is constant exposure to the bear, whether that bear is an alcoholic dad or an unhinged mom. We become hardwired for conflict. And that wiring remains, even when there’s no more conflict to be had.”
165. “Emotional intelligence is the essential life skill that helps you understand, utilize, and manage your emotions such that you can relieve stress and empathize with others. This skill is also crucial in overcoming challenges, communicating effectively, and defusing conflict between people.” – John Ward
166. “For good ideas and true innovation, you need human interaction, conflict, argument, debate”
167. “Why matrix organizational structures became so popular I’m not really sure. There is certainly an element of flexibility and collaboration suggested by them, but in reality they are forums for confusion and conflict. They have certainly not contributed to the breakdown of silos; they’ve merely added an element of schizophrenia and cognitive dissonance for employees who are unlucky enough to report into two different silos.”
168. “Change means movement. Movement means friction. Only in the frictionless vacuum of a nonexistent abstract world can movement or change occur without that abrasive friction of conflict.” – Saul Alinsky
169. “If you are trying to resolve conflict and the people get into a fight, try to calm them down, and if it doesn’t work, get them to walk away from the situation. You can always encourage them to come back to the table when they are calm because, again, issues will come and go, but we must maintain the sanctity of relationships.” – John Ward
170. “In a conflict, being willing to change allows you to move from a point of view to a viewing point—a higher, more expansive place, from which you can see both sides.” – Thomas Crum
171. “When people respond too quickly, they often respond to the wrong issue. Listening helps us focus on the heart of the conflict. When we listen, understand, and respect each other’s ideas, we can then find a solution in which both of us are winners.” Dr. Gary Chapman
172. “Where shall we three meet again in thunder, lightning, or in rain? When the hurlyburly ‘s done, when the battle ‘s lost and won”
173. “Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” – William James
174. “Compromise is a positive way of solving the problem and getting everyone to recognize that they play a crucial role in conflict resolution.” – John Ward
175. "Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.” — William Ellery Channing
176. “For people to address these worries more easily, they should see conflicts as an opportunity for growth more than a battleground. The fear of conflict can skew your perspective of things and take your focus away from problem solving and resolution. Removing this fear is more challenging for people who have been in traumatizing unhealthy relationships and painful experiences from previous disagreements. These people tend to view conflict as a terrifying, demoralizing, or humiliating situation.” – John Ward
177. “This world’s anguish is no different
178. “Living with integrity means…not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships; asking for what you want and need from others; speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension; behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values; making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.” ~ Barbara De Angelis
179. “I don’t know if there’s an actors’ slow-pitch softball league I could join. My agency has a team, but they say it would be a conflict of interest for the people they rep to play because I could hit a pop-up and they’d have to drop it on purpose. ” — Miles Teller
180. “Michael, if you can’t pass, you can’t play.” Coach Dean Smith to Michael Jordan in his freshman year at UNC
181. “He must master or be mastered; while to show mercy was a weakness. Mercy did not exist in the primordial life. It was misunderstood for fear, and such misunderstandings made for death. Kill or be killed, eat or be eaten, was the law; and this mandate, down out of the depths of Time, he obeyed.”
182. “How should a Christian act when evil was in power?”
183. “In the end, the aggressors always destroy themselves, making way for others who know how to cooperate and get along. Life is much less a competitive struggle for survival than a triumph of cooperation and creativity.” Fritjof Capra
184. The most important thing in any negotiation, almost, is making sure that you strip it of the emotion and deal with the fact.
185. * Mediation and reconciliation work is about a profound quest for justice and social transformation. But at the same time, they are about service, solidarity, about exploring and rediscovering the human spirit that has been lost or shattered through human conflict, cruelty, ignorance and greed…
186. “Reconciliation is wonderful, but it’s not always possible, because it depends on a godly response from both parties. Forgiveness however depends only on us. We can forgive even if the offending party is unresponsive.” – Michael Hare
187. Money is not an end in itself. It is merely a tool to help us achieve some particular goal. If the way we handle our money conflicts with our personal values, we are not going to wind up living happy and fulfilled lives.” – David Bach
188. “Even the most gifted people and leaders are subject to feeling conflicted about ending things, so they resist.”
189. Today everything’s a conflict of interest.
190. #4. Every conflict we face in life is rich with positive and negative potential. It can be a source of inspiration, enlightenment, learning, transformation, and growth-or rage, fear, shame, entrapment, and resistance. The choice is not up to our opponents, but to us, and our willingness to face and work through them. – Kenneth Cloke
191. #14. In case of dissension, never dare to judge till you’ve heard the other side. – Euripides
192. No one in history has ever been insulted into agreement.
193. “People with good emotional sobriety tend to avoid unnecessary conflict, but they do speak up where necessary.” – Tian Dayton Ph.D
194. To a disciple who was forever complaining about others the Master said, ‘If it is peace you want, seek to change yourself, not other people. It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to carpet the whole of the earth.
195. * "I wish that the Resolving Conflict Creatively Program could be taught in every classroom in America, because we are not going to deal with the violence in our communities, our homes, and our nation, until we learn to deal with the basic ethic of how we resolve our disputes and to place an emphasis on peace in the way we relate to one another."
196. “When marriage fail, it is not increasing conflict that is the cause. It is decreasing affection and emotional responsiveness. (...) The lack of emotional responsiveness rather than the level of conflict is the best predictor of how solid a marriage will be.”
197. “During the next two weeks I am going to be pretty intolerant of behavior that demonstrates an absence of trust, or a focus on individual ego. I will be encouraging conflict, driving for clear commitments, and expecting all of you to hold each other accountable. I will be calling out bad behavior when I see it, and I’d like to see you doing the same. We don’t have time to waste.”
198. “The five behavioral manifestations of teamwork: trust, conflict, commitment, accountability and results.”
199. “When there is trust, conflict becomes nothing but the pursuit of truth, an attempt to find the best possible answer.”
200. The need for justice grows out of the conflict of human interests. That is to say, if there were no conflict of interests among mankind, we should never have invented the word justice, nor conceived the idea for which it stands.
201. “Power in organizations is the capacity generated by relationships. It is an energy that comes into existence through relationships.” Margaret Wheatley
202. “The more we run from conflict, the more it masters us; the more we try to avoid it, the more it controls us; the less we fear conflict, the less it confuses us; the less we deny our differences, the less they divide us.” David Augsburger
203. “I happen to feel that the degree of a person’s intelligence is directly reflected by the number of conflicting attitudes she can bring to bear on the same topic.”
204. “Sometimes we’re loyal to more than one thing. When there’s a conflict, we have to choose which loyalty to honor.” – Claudia Gray, Lost Stars
205. The only difference between stumbling blocks and stepping stones is the way in which we use them.
206. “We must not, in trying to think about how we can make a big difference, ignore the small daily differences we can make which, over time, add up to big differences that we often cannot foresee.” – Marian Wright Edelman
207. ”Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” – Timothy Bentley
208. “Ignore rumours about whose throne this is. Can't the Badman Killa go out to pee in peace? Come on ye desperados. I am very comfortable with conflict, be it of the legal or mortal kind. My father is a mediator, a bridge maker. I am a grave maker.”
209. * “Unless both sides win, no agreement can be permanent.”
210. Did it ever occur to you, that there is no conflict of interests among men, neither in business nor in trade nor in their most personal desires – if they omit the irrational from their view of the possible and destruction from their view of the practical?
211. “Flowers are restful to look at. They have neither emotions nor conflicts. “Sigmund Freud
212. The quality of our lives depends not on whether or not we have conflicts, but on how we respond to them.
213. Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.
214. “Sometimes we’re loyal to more than one thing. When there’s a conflict, we have to choose which loyalty to honor.” — Claudia Gray
215. ″‘The king who owned this island,’ said Caspian slowly, and his face flushed as he spoke, ‘would soon be the richest of all kings of the world. I claim this land for ever as a Narnian possession. It shall be called Goldwater Island. And I bind all of you to secrecy. No one must know of this. Not even Drinian – on pain of death, do you hear?’
216. “I don’t think anyone ever gets completely used to conflict. If it’s not a little uncomfortable, then it’s not real. The key is to keep doing it anyway.” – Patrick Lencioni
217. “Never leave a relationship the moment trust is broken for you can learn much if you stay in the conflict of the situation.”
218. “An argument would have begun to steam and boil and sputter – and you know how arguments end. Even if I had convinced him that he was wrong, his pride would have made it difficult for him to back down and give in.”
219. One of the most basic principles for making and keeping peace within and between nations…is that in political, military, moral, and spiritual confrontations, there should be an honest attempt at the reconciliation of differences before resorting to combat.
220. “The only thing that will redeem mankind is cooperation.”
221. “While many of us struggle with taking too much ownership over things that are not ours, there’s
222. “Our world faces many grave challenges: Widening conflicts and inequality. Extreme weather and deadly intolerance. Security threats – including nuclear weapons. We have the tools and wealth to overcome these challenges. All we need is the will.” Antonio Guterres
223. “Each of the stories we tell and hear is like a small flicker of light - when we have enough of them, we will set the world on fire. But I don’t think we can do it without story. It doesn’t matter what community is in question or what the conflict appears to be on the surface, resolution and change will require people to own, share, and rumble with stories.”
224. “I worried that if I did turn out to have a personality, it would be one of the unkind ones. Did I only worry about this question because as a woman I felt required to put the needs of others before my own? Was "kindness" just another term for submission in the face of conflict? These were the kind of things I wrote about in my diary as a teenager: as a feminist I have the right not to love anyone.”
225. “Great art is the expression of a solution of the conflict between the demands of the world without and that within.” – Edith Hamilton
226. “Flowers are restful to look at. They have neither emotions nor conflicts.” — Sigmund Freud
227. Dealing with the problems that you have been avoiding is difficult, but worthwhile and necessary. Although the thought of recovery may seem daunting, don’t let that hold you back. Instead, recognize your fears and address them through treatment. A good recovery program will provide therapy, family counseling, life skills training, and other services to help you through this process. It is important that both the individual dealing with the addiction and their loved ones participate in this process. Treatment provides an opportunity for the addict and their families to move beyond their fears and learn how to address painful issues and conflict in a healthier way.
228. One might as well try to ride two horses moving in different directions, as to try tomaintain in equal force two opposing or contradictory sets of desires
229. “The answer to the question - what is the secret of a good relationship? - is One realizing it is Two not to be alOne. Of course Man and WoMan are One. One perceives itSelf as Two not to be by itSelf. Let me illustrate this by the following story. I have this Dachshund named Ouroboros. Ouroboros is by itself. Ouroboros likes companionship. But Ouroboros is alone. What does Ouroboros do? Ouroboros sees itself, its own tail, and starts chasing it. Round and Round Ouroboros goes. Indeed like Earth. That's how Earth appears round by the way. But let's return to Ouroboros. Man and WoMan are actually Ouroboros. Forget about such nonsense that Man is from Mars and WoMan is from Venus. Man and WoMan are One not wanting to be alOne. Of course there is no division. Of course there is no separation. Of course Man and WoMan are always in relationship with each other. There where is the other is Ouroboros chasing itself! The desire not to be alOne, the desire for Companionship, the desire to Love and Be Loved is what drives Human-kind. Conclusion? Don't stop chasing each other. It's all about Love. Woof. Woof! Please note: the above is not exclusive to relationships between men and women but nations too. Humankind must never forget it is One perceiving itself as Two not to be alOne. In other words. Humankind must never forget its raison d'être is Love. Love is Purpose. Loneliness is Cause. Always return to Love when in doubt for Love is always aRound.”
230. “The many lives lost during long years of conflict… because of those selfless sacrifices, we are able to bathe in peace and prosperity now. To ingrain this history within the new generation will be a vital cog in helping to maintain the peace.” – Naruto Uzumaki
231. “Navigating conflict is not easy. If you decide to speak with the person you are in conflict with, find a private time and place to talk. Be sure not to involve others in the conflict. Practice what you plan to say so you are calm and confident. Your goal is to speak your truth, take responsibility for your part, and treat others with dignity. This is no easy task, but an important skill to practice over time.”
232. ‘Well I s’pose he is a mate of yours and all,’ said Pickles.
233. “Environmentalists have a very conflicted relationship with their cars.” – Tom Arnold
234. “The leader is going to have to be ready to not only light the fuse of good conflict but to gently fan the flames for a while too.”
235. “Bravery is the choice to show up and listen to another person, be it a loved one or perceived foe, even when it is uncomfortable, painful, or the last thing you want to do.”
236. “Sometimes we’re loyal to more than one thing. When there’s a conflict, we have to choose which loyalty to honor. ” —Claudia Gray, author
237. “Problem #3: Goals restrict your happiness. The implicit assumption behind any goal is this: “Once I reach my goal, then I’ll be happy.” The problem with a goals-first mentality is that you’re continually putting happiness off until the next milestone. I’ve slipped into this trap so many times I’ve lost count. For years, happiness was always something for my future self to enjoy. I promised myself that once I gained twenty pounds of muscle or after my business was featured in the New York Times, then I could finally relax. Furthermore, goals create an “either-or” conflict: either you achieve your goal and are successful or you fail and you are a disappointment. You mentally box yourself into a narrow version of happiness. This is misguided. It is unlikely that your actual path through life will match the exact journey you had in mind when you set out. It makes no sense to restrict your satisfaction to one scenario when there are many paths to success. A systems-first mentality provides the antidote. When you fall in love with the process rather than the product, you don’t have to wait to give yourself permission to be happy. You can be satisfied anytime your system is running. And a system can be successful in many different forms, not just the one you first envision.”
238. “Uniqueness is good for without it One would be quite alone.”
239. Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, What else could this mean?
240. “Calmness plays an important role in communicating and keeping your conversation organized. Keeping calm during conflict resolution requires patience.” – John Ward
241. “Flowers are restful to look at. They have neither emotions nor conflicts.” – Sigmund Freud
242. “The quality of our lives depends not on whether or not we have conflicts, but on how we respond to them.”
243. “It's always more interesting to take on someone that's going to have hidden sides or a fatal flaw because there's going to be more to play with – more conflict, internally or in and around them – but it's probably the thing of finding the positive in there.” – Aidan Gillen
244. I am extraordinarily patient, provided I get my own way in the end.
245. "The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph! What we obtain too cheaply, we esteem too lightly. Heaven knows how to put a proper price on its goods.”
246. “Conflict is the beginning of consciousness.” – M. Esther Harding
247. The days are too short even for love; how can there be enough time for quarrelling.
248. “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity.”
249. “There is a psychological law that says: Appreciate and you prosper; belittle and you lose.Unless we learn to apply this law, as psychological as it is spiritual, we’re doomed to an existence of mediocrity, frustration, and defeat. Appreciation is no simple, vague theme. Appreciation is a real force. It is governed by a principle almost as direct as a law of physics: We draw to ourselves the good of everything we appreciate.” David Goodman
250. #10. Conflicts may be the sources of defeat, lost life and a limitation of our potentiality but they may also lead to a greater depth of living and the birth of more far-reaching unities, which flourish in the tensions that engender them. – Karl Jaspers
251. “Every day, from South Sudan to Afghanistan, we are reminded that the tragedy of conflict falls most heavily on the smallest shoulders… For Syrian children, this is a tsunami without the water. A five-year hurricane without the wind.”
252. “Conflict is very much a state of mind. If you’re not in that state of mind, it doesn’t bother you.” – Yotam Ottolenghi
253. “Each of the stories we tell and hear is like a small flicker of light - when we have enough of them. we will set the world on fire. But I don’t think we can do it without story. It doesn’t matter what community is in question or what the conflict appears to be on the surface. resolution and change will require people to own. share. and rumble with stories.”
254. “Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.”
255. “Conflict transformation rather than...conflict resolution. To me, the latter suggests going back to a previous state of affairs, and has a connotation that there may be a winner or a loser. [Conflict transformation has] the opportunity to create something new.”
256. “If we manage conflict constructively, we harness its energy for creativity and development”
257. “People with good emotional sobriety tend not to create unnecessary conflict in their lives; it is simply too costly to their own peace of mind. They understand that their inner peace is their responsibility, and that if they lose it, only they can get it back.” – Tian Dayton Ph.D
258. “Of course all that is here is Self desiring not to be by itself. It is why diversity exists. Diversity exist not to feel alone. Diversity exists for Companionship. Diversity exists for Love. The purpose is not to fight, quite the contrary, the purpose is Companionship otherwise known as Love.”
259. “There's no story if there isn't some conflict. The memorable things are usually not how pulled together everybody is. I think everybody feels lonely and trapped sometimes. I would think it's more or less the norm.” – Wes Anderson
260. * We need to learn and to show others that there are tried and tested, powerful ways of containing and resolving conflict which do not require the use of force.
261. #15. We don’t get harmony when everybody sings the same note. Only notes that are different can harmonize. The same is true with people. – Steve Goodier
262. “Where all think alike, no one thinks very much.” Walter Lippmann
263. Peace does not mean an absence of conflicts; differences will always be there. Peace means solving these differences through peaceful means; through dialogue, education, knowledge; and through humane ways.
264. “The best fiction is geared towards conflict. We learn most about our characters through tension when they are put up against insurmountable obstacles. This is true in real life.” – Sufjan Stevens
265. There are some people who always seem angry and continuously look for conflict. Walk away; the battle they are fighting isn’t with you, it is with themselves.
266. “There’s been a quantum leap technologically in our age, but unless there’s another quantum leap in human relations, unless we learn to live in a new way towards one another, there will be a catastrophe.” Albert Einstein
267. There is little value in preparing a cookbook of recipes for conflict success. The effects of conflict interaction depend directly on what the participants do mentally with conflict behaviour—that is, how they process and interpret their behaviour.
268. You can never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the old model obsolete.
269. “When one ceases from conflict, whether because he has won, because he has lost, or because he cares no more for the game, the virtue passes out of him.” Charles Horton Cooley
270. “A large ocean liner was headed across the Atlantic from Portsmouth to New York. As it neared its destination at night, a lookout on the wing of the bridge reported, ‘Light, bearing on the starboard bow.’ ‘Is it steady or moving astern?’ the captain called out. The lookout replied, ‘Steady, captain,’ which meant that they were on a collision course. The captain then called to the signalman, ‘Signal that ship: We are on a collision course, advise you change course 20 degrees.’ Back came a signal, ‘Advisable for you to change course 20 degrees.’ The captain said, ‘Send, I’m a Captain, change course 20 degrees.’ ‘I’m a seaman, second class,’ came the reply. ‘You had better change course 20 degrees.’ By that time the captain was furious. He spat out, ‘Send, This is the mighty ocean liner, HMS Franconia. Change course 20 degrees.’ Back came the flashing light,’ This is a lighthouse, suggest you change course 20 degrees.’ Anonymous
271. What may appear as the truth to one person will often appear as untruth to another person. But that need not worry the seeker. Where there is honest effort, it will be realized that what appeared to be different truths are like the countless and apparently different leaves of the same tree.
272. “In the West, we have been withdrawing from our tradition-, religion- and even nation-centred cultures, partly to decrease the danger of group conflict. But we are increasingly falling prey to the desperation of meaninglessness, and that is no improvement at all.”
273. “Then the more reliable and consistent we are in our follow through on commitments, and our
274. “Listen first. Give your opponents a chance to talk. Let them finish. Do not resist, defend or debate. This only raises barriers. Try to build bridges of understanding.”
275. Conflict cannot survive without your participation.
276. “That’s what Alice liked about the desert, its constant relentless conflict with itself. The desert was unexpectedly beautiful and horrible at once.” ― Joy Williams
277. * For love of domination we must substitute equality; for love of victory we must substitute justice; for brutality we must substitute intelligence; for competition we must substitute cooperation. We must learn to think of the human race as one family.
278. “Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.” – Marie Curie
279. “I don’t know if there’s an actors’ slow-pitch softball league I could join. My agency has a team, but they say it would be a conflict of interest for the people they rep to play because I could hit a pop-up and they’d have to drop it on purpose.” – Miles Teller
280. “A lack of healthy conflict is a problem because it ensures the third dysfunction of a team: lack of commitment. Without having aired their opinions in the course of passionate and open debate, team members rarely, if ever, buy in and commit to decisions, though they may feign agreement during meetings.”
281. “It takes two to keep the marriage vow. It takes two to have an agreement. It takes two to resolve conflict. Bottom line? Both of you need to want to work it out.” – Tabitha M.
282. “Happiness comes as a result of conflict, resolution, and growth — as the result of having to work at something.” – Chrissy Stockton
283. Knowing when to fight is just as important as knowing how.
284. “To judge givers, we often rely on personality cues, but it turns out these cues can be misleading. In half a century of research, psychologists have discovered a fundamental personality trait that distinguishes how people tend to appear in their social interactions. It’s called agreeableness — agreeable people tend to appear cooperative and polite — they seek harmony with others, coming across as warm, nice, and welcoming. Disagreeable people tend to be more competitive, critical, and tough — they’re more comfortable with conflict, coming across as skeptical and challenging.”
285. “The Argument Hangover® is the period of time between having an argument with your partner and fully resolving emotionally to reconnect as a couple.”
286. “Never again would I allow myself to be made a foot soldier in a conflict I did not understand.”
287. “People like to say that the conflict is between good and evil. The real conflict is between truth and lies.” ~ Miguel Angel Ruiz
288. “As you let go of niceness, guilt, pleasing others, and fear of conflict, everything improves. Your relationships get better, your self-esteem skyrockets, your sense of personal and social power increase, your career and business success surge, and you feel more relaxed around people in all situations. ”—Aziz Gazipura
289. “I don’t think anyone ever gets completely used to conflict. If it’s not a little uncomfortable, then it’s not real. The key is to keep doing it anyway”
290. “Since narcissists deep down feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world’s fault.” — M. Scott Peck
291. Most people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply
292. “It is ironic that so many people avoid conflict in the name of efficiency, because healthy conflict is actually a time saver.”
293. If passion drives you, let reason hold the reins.
294. “Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.”
295. “When you have a conflict, that means that there are truths that have to be addressed on each side of the conflict. And when you have a conflict, then it's an educational process to try to resolve the conflict. And to resolve that, you have to get people on both sides of the conflict involved so that they can dialogue.” – Dolores Huerta
296. * "Forgiveness does not overlook the deed. It rises above it."
297. A no-effort relationship is a doomed one, not a great one. It takes work to communicate accurately, and it takes work to expose and resolve conflicting hopes and beliefs. It doesn’t mean there is no. they lived happily ever after,” but it’s more like. they worked happily ever after.” – Unknown
298. As soon as we are alone,…inner chaos opens up in us. This chaos can be so disturbing and so confusing that we can hardly wait to get busy again. Entering a private room and shutting the door, therefore, does not mean that we immediately shut out all our inner doubts, anxieties, fears, bad memories, unresolved conflicts, angry feelings, and impulsive desires. On the contrary, when we have removed our outer distraction, we often find that our inner distractions manifest themselves to us in full force. We often use outer distractions to shield ourselves from interior noises. This makes the discipline of solitude all the more important. Henri J.M. Nouwen
299. “Problem #3: Goals restrict your happiness. The implicit assumption behind any goal is this: “Once I reach my goal, then I’ll be happy.” The problem with a goals-first mentality is that you’re continually putting happiness off until the next milestone. I’ve slipped into this trap so many times I’ve lost count. For years, happiness was always something for my future self to enjoy. I promised myself that once I gained twenty pounds of muscle or after my business was featured in the New York Times, then I could finally relax. Furthermore, goals create an “either-or” conflict: either you achieve your goal and are successful or you fail and you are a disappointment. You mentally box yourself into a narrow version of happiness. This is misguided. It is unlikely that your actual path through life will match the exact journey you had in mind when you set out. It makes no sense to restrict your satisfaction to one scenario when there are many paths to success.”
300. “You have the choice that I didn’t have, and you’re choosing wrong.”
301. “Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” – William James
302. The problem with holding a grudge is that your hands are then too full to hold onto anything else.
303. “If you are going to enjoy thriving relationships and sustain them long-term, you must become intentional about how you can resolve conflicts positively.” – John Ward
304. “In order to get to a healthier and more productive place, we need to give up our fear of conflict, turmoil, and resistance.” — John Gottman
305. “Raise your heart, not you hand.”
306. “The thing I hate about an argument is that it always interrupts a discussion.” G. K. Chesterton
307. “Oh yes! I'll do this - force you together and invite conflict - because I want you to think about what the world would be like if we all worked to understand people who are different than we are.”
308. “The greatest conflicts are not between two people but between one person and himself.” – Garth Brooks
309. #2. Do not think of knocking out another person’s brains because he differs in opinion from you. It would be as rational to knock yourself on the head because you differ from yourself ten years ago. – Horace Mann
310. * There is no time left for anything but to make peace work a dimension of our every waking activity
311. “Undivided but Self-differentiated.
312. ‘So it has come to that, King Edmund, has it?’ said Caspian, laying his hand on his sword-hilt.”
313. ‘Who are you talking to?’ said Edmund. ‘I’m no subject of yours. If anything it’s the other way round. I am one of the four ancient sovereigns of Narnia and you are under allegiance to the High King my brother.’
314. You can’t talk your way out of something you behaved your way into. You have to behave your way out of it.
315. “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.” Dale Carnegie
316. “The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn't being said. The art of reading between the lines is a lifelong quest of the wise." Shannon L. Alder
317. “Observe well how the word ‘narcissism’ is often used into marriages. The victims are often those who have separated with their significant other, rather than being on good terms with them. Therefore, we must dig deeper to the core of the word and discover its true meaning. In return, we will get a glimpse of our mentality and the main attributes that drive us to label each other with that conflicted word.”
318. “Every great movie has conflict.”
319. “Stressful thoughts reflect a conflict with reality. Stress happens when the mind resists what is.”
320. Do not think of knocking out another person’s brains because he differs in opinion from you. It would be as rational to knock yourself on the head because you differ from yourself ten years ago.
321. “Conformity is painful. You know, it's too tight. Conformity leads to rebellion. So a desire for happiness is in direct conflict with a desire for freedom.” – Thomas Jane | handling conflict quotes | friends conflict quotes
322. Arguments drag out because one is too stubborn to forgive and the other is too proud to apologise.
323. “You can still smile and greet your enemies.”
324. Don’t be afraid of opposition. Remember, a kite rises against, not with, the wind.
325. “Conflict forces us to be fully present because it shatters our ego—stripping away all hope of escape or sugar coating. It removes everything that is nonessential to our authentic being; it removes all superficial layers. Conflict is painful because it wakes us up out of our created illusions. And if we lean into it, conflict can be the catalyst to our enlightenment.” – Alison Hutchinson
326. Working through conflict, we maintain and build a strong but flexible, honest but loving connection in our relationship. – Aaron F. Steinberg
327. “When you realize you’ve made a mistake, make amends immediately. It’s easier to eat crow while it’s still warm.” Dan Heist
328. “Was I kind to others? It was hard to nail down an answer. I worried that if I did turn out to have a personality, it would be one of the unkind ones. Did I only worry about this question because as a woman I felt required to put the needs of others before my own? Was ´kindness´ just another term for submission in the face of conflict? These were the kind of things I wrote about in my diary as a teenager: as a feminist I have the right not to love anyone.”
329. “The lack of conflict is precisely the cause of one of the biggest problems that meetings have: they are boring”
330. “If we don’t trust one another, then we aren’t going to engage in open, constructive, ideological conflict.”
331. “Not nice means speaking up and asserting yourself, your opinions, ideas, and desires. It’s challenging others when you disagree, standing behind your convictions, and being willing to have difficult conversations. You do this because you want full contact with life and other humans instead of hiding who you are behind a polite wall of fear. When you do have conflict or disagreement, and you inevitably will if you’re being not nice, then you are as vulnerable, skillful, and compassionate as you can be in your communications. ”—Aziz Gazipura
332. “I’ve always believed that a lot of the troubles in the world would disappear if we were talking to each other instead of about each other.” Ronald Reagan
333. #1. The quality of our lives depends not on whether or not we have conflicts, but on how we respond to them. – Thomas Crum
334. “Cooperation isn’t the absence of conflict but a means of managing conflict”
335. “Conflict and resolution are two sides of the same coin.”
336. “I have come to the conclusion that there is only one way under high heaven to get the best of an argument— and that is to avoid it. Avoid it as you would avoid rattlesnakes and earthquakes.”
337. Human beings, who are almost unique in having the ability to learn from the experience of others, are also remarkable for their apparent disinclination to do so.
338. “We are always trying to build a bridge between ‘what is’ and ‘what should be’. And in that, there is contradiction and conflict.” – Jiddu Krishnamurti
339. “It is the eternal struggle between these two principles—right and wrong. They are the two principles that have stood face to face from the beginning of time and will ever continue to struggle. It is the same spirit that says, ”You work and toil and earn bread, and I'll eat it.” – Abraham Lincoln
340. “Because when a team recovers from an incident of destructive conflict, it builds confidence that it can survive such an event, which in turn builds trust.”
341. “Can’t be loyal to everyone, it’s a conflict of interest. ” — Tyconis Allison
342. “Furthermore, goals create an “either-or” conflict: either you achieve your goal and are successful or you fail and you are a disappointment. You mentally box yourself into a narrow version of happiness. This is misguided. It is unlikely that your actual path through life will match the exact journey you had in mind when you set out. It makes no sense to restrict your satisfaction to one scenario when there are many paths to success”
343. (302) 581-9243
344. “Conflict cannot survive without your participation.” Wayne Dyer
345. “Be leery of silence. It doesn't mean you won the argument. Often, people are just busy reloading their guns.” – Shannon L. Alder
346. “A good manager doesn’t try to eliminate conflict; he tries to keep it from wasting the energies of his people. If you’re the boss and your people fight you openly when they think that you are wrong–that’s healthy.” Robert Townsend
347. “Raising children who are hopeful and who have the courage to be vulnerable means stepping back and letting them experience disappointment, deal with conflict, learn how to assert themselves, and have the opportunity to fail. If we’re always following our children into the arena, hushing the critics, and assuring their victory, they’ll never learn that they have the ability to dare greatly on their own.”
348. “There where appears to be two is in reality one not wanting to be alone. Now. Who is thus arguing with who? Now. Who is thus fighting with who? All this is self and the purpose of self... the purpose of self is simply Love.”
349. “Conflicts will arise one way or another and when conflicts are not confronted, it does not resolve itself. The emotions you feel might temporarily fade away but since the issue has never been resolved, it comes back up. It only takes another trigger and you are back to those feelings again.” – John Ward
350. An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.
351. “If peace is really what you want, then you will choose peace. If peace mattered to you more than anything else and if you truly knew yourself to be spirit rather than a little me, you would remain nonreactive and absolutely alert when confronted with challenging people or situations. You would immediately accept the situation and thus become one with it rather than separate yourself from it.”
352. “Successful leaders manage conflict; they don’t shy away from it or suppress it but see it as an engine of creativity and innovation. Some of the most creative ideas come out of people in conflict remaining in conversation with one another rather than flying into their own corners or staking out entrenched positions. The challenge for leaders is to develop structures and processes in which such conflicts can be orchestrated productively.” Ronald Heifetz and Marty Linsky
353. “The art of living lies not in eliminating but in growing with troubles.” Bernard Baruch
354. “Since narcissists deep down feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world’s fault.” ~ Scott Peck
355. Whenever two good people argue over principles, they are both right.
356. Laughing at our mistakes can lengthen our own life. Laughing at someone else’s can shorten it.
357. ″ Some demonstrate courage through their unyielding devotion to absolute principle. Others demonstrate courage through their acceptance and compromise. through their advocacy of conciliation. through their willingness to replace conflict with co-operation. Surely their courage was of equal quality. through different caliber. ”
358. “Martha: I swear…if you existed I’d divorce you…I haven’t been able to see you for years…you’re a blank, a cipher.”
359. “Happiness is a byproduct of function, purpose, and conflict; those who seek happiness for itself seek victory without war.” – William S. Burroughs
360. “The best characters to play are the ones who have deep internal conflict.” – George Blagden
361. In a conflict, being willing to change allows you to move from a point of view to a viewing point – a higher, more expansive place, from which you can see both sides.
362. The ocean has a life of its own. Its tides, whirlpools, currents and eddies are a testament to its conflicting emotions.” – Anthony T. Hincks
363. "Peace is not absence of conflict; it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.” — President Ronald Reagan
364. When conflict becomes a win-lose contest in our minds, we immediately try to win.
365. “It’s like a lightning storm on a warm summer night; though the lightning itself may be scary it helps to clean the air. Negatively charged ions produced by the storm attach themselves to pollutants, which fall to the ground. That’s why the air smells so clean at times. The same is true when you deal with disagreements in an appropriate way.” Mitch Temple
366. “Oh yes! I'll do this - for you together and invite conflict - because I want you to think about what the world would be like if we all worked to understand people who are different than we are.”
367. What people often mean by getting rid of conflict is getting rid of diversity, and it is of utmost importance that these should not be considered the same. We may wish to abolish conflict, but we cannot get rid of diversity. Fear of difference is fear of life itself.
368. “Peace is not absence of conflict; it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.” ~ President Ronald Reagan
369. The many lives lost during long years of conflict… because of those selfless sacrifices, we are able to bathe in peace and prosperity now. To ingrain this history within the new generation will be a vital cog in helping to maintain the peace. Naruto Uzumaki
370. “Much of what we consider valuable in our world arises out of these kinds of lopsided conflicts, because the act of facing overwhelming odds produces greatness and beauty.”
371. “Correcting the correction is back to square one.”
372. “A good manager doesn’t try to eliminate conflict; he tries to keep it from wasting the energies of his people. If you’re the boss and your people fight you openly when they think that you are wrong-that’s healthy.” Robert Townsend
373. * Gandhi once declared that it was his wife who unwittingly taught him the effectiveness of nonviolence. Who better than women should know that battles can be won without resorting to physical strength.
374. “The Four Pillars of Self Knowledge:
375. “find someone who can demonstrate trust, engage in conflict, commit to group decisions, hold their peers accountable, and focus on the results of the team, not their own ego.”
376. “There are two ways of meeting difficulties: You alter the difficulties or you alter yourself meeting them.” Phyllis Bottome
377. “Peace is not the absence of conflict; it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.” – Ronald Reagan
378. Men die of boredom, psychological conflict, and disease. They do not die of hard work.
379. When trust is broken, it does not need to be the end of a relationship. Much can be learned from staying in a relationship and learning from the conflict situation. - Dr. Margaret Paul
380. “You can’t win an argument. You can’t because if you lose it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it.”
381. A willingness to trust and openly listen to alternative ideas and views is essential for collaboration to be successful.
382. “My only love sprung from my only hate.”
383. #3. Peace is not the absence of conflict, but the ability to cope with it. – Mahatma Gandhi
384. “Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.”
385. “When one appears to be at an impasse;
386. “There are no opponents; there is only oneself not wanting to be by itself.”
387. “When introverts are in conflict with each other…it may require a map in order to follow all the silences, nonverbal cues and passive-aggressive behaviors!” Adam S. McHugh
388. “Pick battles big enough to matter, small enough to win.” Jonathan Kozol
389. “the fear of conflict is almost always a sign of problems.”
390. “We cannot stand by while children are shut out from opportunity due to conflicts and emergencies.”
391. “Conflict is very much a state of mind. If you’re not in that state of mind, it doesn’t bother you.” – Yotam Ottolenghi | friends conflict quotes | love conflict quotes
392. The president can’t have a conflict of interest.
393. Every conflict we face in life is rich with positive and negative potential. It can be a source of inspiration, enlightenment, learning, transformation, and growth-or rage, fear, shame, entrapment, and resistance. The choice is not up to our opponents, but to us, and our willingness to face and work through them.
394. “The Law of Win/Win says, ‘Let’s not do it your way or my way; let’s do it the best way’.” Greg Anderson
395. “Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.” – William Ellery Channing
396. * We have to face the fact that either all of us are going to die together or we are going to learn to live together and if we are to live together we have to talk.
397. Because people aren’t perfect and relationships are messy, we all need to learn how to resolve conflicts.
398. “I see it all raving before me the endless yakking kitchen mouthings of life, the long dark grave of tomby talks under midnight kitchen bulbs, in fact it fills me with love to realize that life so avid and misunderstood nevertheless reaches out skinny skeleton hand to me and to Billie too -- But you know what I mean.
399. “Meetings are boring because they lack drama. Or conflict.”
400. “Personal relationships are the only thing that prevents breakdown in the systems structure. There is constant need for arbitration of conflicts between various members of the system, for adjudication of disputes or jurisdiction, on direction, on budgets, on people, on priorities, and so on. The most important people, regardless of their job descriptions or assigned tasks, spend most of their time keeping the machinery running. In no other organizational structure is the ratio between output and effort needed for internal cohesion as unfavorable as in the systems structure.”
401. “Could my opponents be right? Partly right? Is there truth or merit in their position or argument? Is my reaction one that will relieve the problem, or will it just relieve any frustration? Will my reaction drive my opponents further away or draw them closer to me?”
402. “The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph.”- Thomas Paine
403. “My father would say to me, ‘Any organization which works for peace, I will join. If you want to resolve a dispute or come out from conflict, the very first thing is to speak the truth. If you have a headache and tell the doctor you have a stomachache, how can the doctor help? You must speak the truth. The truth will abolish fear.‘”
404. “Life feels more vivid in a conflict zone. It is clear what matters, and who you can count on, for what.” – Alan Huffman
405. “No relationship survives or, more accurately, survives happily without a joint commitment to the genuine happiness of the other person. We do not have to sacrifice our destiny, talents, friendships, or ambitions, but their impact on the other person has to be seriously considered. When times are uncomfortable, challenging, not what we wanted or imagined, or actively distressing, we should not revert to dishonesty, nondisclosure, or manipulation to get our own way. What good is getting our way if that way is destructive to our partner? We will end up suffering anyway from the painful demise of our relationship. A different, new, reformed way can evolve. Some things aren’t that important, and disagreement is of minimal importance. Some things have a huge impact on the life of both people, and some sort of agreement has to be earnestly sought. Compromise is not difficult when the people involved care about the other’s emotional, mental, and physical health.”
406. It is possible to conceive conflict as not necessarily a wasteful outbreak of incompatibilities, but a normal process by which socially valuable differences register themselves for the enrichment of all concerned.
407. “For most people, conflict is like voluntarily having a colonoscopy or root canal without anesthesia. Even people that seem to enjoy arguing don’t enjoy when they feel powerless, which is the worst part of conflict.” – Hesha Abrams
408. “Though force can protect in emergency, only justice, fairness, consideration and cooperation can finally lead men to the dawn of eternal peace.”
409. “Observe well how the word ‘narcissism’ is often used into marriages. The victims are often those who have separated with their significant other, rather than being on good terms with them. Therefore, we must dig deeper to the core of the word and discover its true meaning. In return, we will get a glimpse of our mentality and the main attributes that drive us to label each other with that conflicted word.” ~ Mwanandeke Kindembo
410. “Because of our differences in culture and beliefs, conflicts become inevitable.” – John Ward
411. “Avoiding conflict in the short-term builds resentment in the long-term.”
412. “Let me assure you that from now on, every staff meeting we have will be loaded with conflict. And they won’t be boring. And if there is nothing worth debating, then we won’t have a meeting.” The”
413. Peace is not the absence of conflict, but the ability to cope with it.
414. “I think that all moralities adequately serving the function of fostering social cooperation must contain a norm of reciprocity – a norm of returning good for good received. Such a norm is a necessity, I argue, because it helps relieve the strains on motivation of contributing to social cooperation when it comes into conflict with self-interest.” ~ David Wong
415. “Can’t be loyal to everyone, it’s a conflict of interest. ” – Tyconis Allison
416. “People argue. People fight. You this. I that. My goodness. What's going on here! Snap out of it already. So here's the deal. There's nothing to argue about. There's nothing to fight over. Why? Better sit down for some serious infinite regress . Ready? Here we go. Every action creates a reaction. This much is true. The goal here for conflict resolution and peacemaking purposes is thus to understand what caused the first action; it is Self* which then discovers that there is nothing to argue about nor that there is anything to fight over for the first action was caused by Self* not wanting to be by itself. In other words. All this is Self and the purpose of Self, why Self perceives itself as diverse, is Love so Love simply Love. (* Initial Singularity in scientific terminology).”
417. “Low trust causes friction, whether it is caused by unethical behavior or by ethical but incompetent behavior (because even good intentions can never take the place of bad judgment). Low trust is the greatest cost in life and in organizations, including families. Low trust creates hidden agendas, politics, interpersonal conflict, interdepartmental rivalries, win-lose thinking, defensive and protective communication—all of which reduce the speed of trust. Low trust slows everything—every decision, every communication, and every relationship.”
418. “Men die of boredom, psychological conflict and disease. They do not die of hard work.” — David Ogilvy
419. Often those that criticise others reveal what he himself lacks
420. “Difference is of the essence of humanity. Difference is an accident of birth and it should therefore never be the source of hatred or conflict. The answer to difference is to respect it. Therein lies a most fundamental principle of peace: respect for diversity.” – John Hume.
421. “When the Nice Guy does something good for himself he is doing something that implies he is valuable. This will conflict with his deeply held belief that he is worthless. As a result, he will experience dissonance — a clashing of two competing messages. In time, one of the beliefs will win. I encourage recovering Nice Guys to keep being good to themselves, no matter how frightening. In time the core messages from childhood are replaced with new, more accurate beliefs that reflect their inherent worth.”—Robert A. Glover
422. “We don't get harmony when everybody sings the same note. Only notes that are different can harmonize. The same is true with people.”
423. “From interviews and orientation to performance reviews and compensation decisions, “the three virtues,” as they came to be known, were to be regular topics of conversation. And, of course, there was plenty of hands-on, practical training around the five behavioral manifestations of teamwork: trust, conflict, commitment, accountability, and results. Those courses had become much more effective with participants who shared the three underlying virtues.”
424. “Because when a team recovers from an incident of destructive conflict, it builds confidence that it can survive such an event, which in turn builds trust. This is not unlike a husband and wife recovering from a big argument and developing closer ties and greater confidence in their relationship as a result.”
425. “Basically, every character I’ve ever played, I’ve based entirely on internal conflict. And I love doing that because I think it’s very human.” – James McAvoy
426. “I think what makes people fascinating is conflict, it’s drama, it’s the human condition. Nobody wants to watch perfection.” – Nicolas Cage
427. The better able team members are to engage, speak, listen, hear, interpret, and respond constructively, the more likely their teams are to leverage conflict rather than be levelled by it.
428. “Where is the other person coming from?”
429. “Men engage in factional conflict through fear, both when they have committed injustice and are frightened of paying the penalty, and when they are about to suffer injustice and wish to forestall it.”
430. Conflict can destroy a team, which hasn’t spent time learning to deal with it.
431. “Let me assure you that from now on, every staff meeting we have will be loaded with conflict. And they won’t be boring. And if there is nothing worth debating, then we won’t have a meeting.”
432. We can often do more for other men by trying to correct our own faults than by trying to correct theirs.
433. “The future of self is love.”
434. There are two ways of meeting difficulties: you alter the difficulties, or you alter yourself to meet them.
435. "Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbors to compromise whenever you can. Point out to them how the nominal winner is often a real loser -- in fees, expenses, and waste of time."
436. “Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.” ~ William Ellery Channing
437. “The Law of Win/Win says, ”Let’s not do it your way or my way; let’s do it the best way”
438. * One of the basic causes for all the trouble in the world today is that people talk too much and think too little. They act impulsively without thinking. I always try to think before I talk.
439. “After he and June had Nina and Jay, a woman appeared at June’s door while Mick was on tour—Mick fathered her son Hud, whom she leaves with June. June forgave Mick for his affair, but eventually, he left her to marry another woman.”
440. “Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.” — William Ellery Channing
441. There are some people who always seem angry and continuously look for conflict. Walk away from these people. The battle they’re are fighting isn’t with you, it’s with themselves.” Rashida Rowe
442. “First, we go figure out how to recognize a real team player, the kind of person who can easily build trust, engage in healthy conflict, make real commitments, hold people accountable, and focus on the team's results. Then, we stop hiring people who can't. Finally, we help the people who are acting like jackasses change their ways or move on to different companies.”
443. “The lack of conflict is precisely the cause of one of the biggest problems that meetings have: they are boring.”
444. #13. If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart. – Nelson Mandela
445. “You can't invalidate all and expect to be validated.”
446. “Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth. even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe. and not what others believe.”
447. The many lives lost during long years of conflict… because of those selfless sacrifices, we are able to bathe in peace and prosperity now. To ingrain this history within the new generation will be a vital cog in helping to maintain the peace.Never Give Up Naruto Quotes
448. You do not achieve anything without trouble, ever.
449. You can’t win an argument. You can’t because if you lose it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it.
450. “Every conflict we face in life is rich with positive and negative potential. It can be a source of inspiration, enlightenment, learning, transformation, and growth-or rage, fear, shame, entrapment, and resistance. The choice is not up to our opponents, but to us, and our willingness to face and work through them.” Kenneth Cloke and Joan Goldsmith
451. “Life is simply a long journey of problem-solving and conflict resolution.”
452. “Conflict is inevitable but combat is optional.” Max Lucado
453. “The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph! What we obtain too cheaply, we esteem too lightly. Heaven knows how to put a proper price on its goods.”
454. Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.
455. * To reconcile conflicting parties, we must have the ability to understand the suffering of both sides.
456. * The god of Victory is said to be one-handed, but Peace gives victory to both sides.
457. “Do not think of knocking out another person's brains because he differs in opinion from you. It would be as rational to knock yourself on the head because you differ from yourself ten years ago.” – Horace Mann
458. “Peace cannot be kept by force. It can only be achieved by understanding.” – Albert Einstein
459. “Two conflicting forces cannot exist in one human heart. When doubt reigns, faith cannot abide. Where hatred rules, love is crowded out. Where selfishness rules, there love cannot dwell. When worry is present, trust cannot crowd its way in.” – Billy Graham
460. 25. “People with good emotional sobriety tend to avoid unnecessary conflict, but they do speak up where necessary.” – Tian Dayton Ph.D
461. “When team members trust one another, when they know that everyone on the team is capable of admitting when they don’t have the right answer, and when they’re willing to acknowledge when someone else’s idea is better than theirs, the fear of conflict and the discomfort it entails is greatly diminished. When there is trust, conflict becomes nothing but the pursuit of truth, an attempt to find the best possible answer. It is not only okay but desirable.”
462. “Empathy is the key to negotiating and resolving conflict ”
463. “Bullying consists of the least competent most aggressive employee projecting their incompetence on to the least aggressive most competent employee and winning.” Tim Field
464. “We don't get harmony when everybody sings the same note. Only notes that are different can harmonize. The same is true with people.” – Steve Goodier
465. “Under the strain of this continually impending doom and by the sleeplessness to which I now condemned myself, ay, even beyond what I had thought possible to man, I became, in my own person, a creature eaten up and emptied by fever, languidly weak both in body and mind, and solely occupied by one thought: the horror of my other self.”
466. Conflict is inevitable but combat is optional.
467. “Members of teams that tend to avoid conflict must occasionally assume the role of a “miner of conflict”—someone who extracts buried disagreements within the team and sheds the light of day on them. They must have the courage and confidence to call out sensitive issues and force team members to work through them. This requires a degree of objectivity during meetings and a commitment to staying with the conflict until it is resolved. Some”
468. “So, I agree that all our favorite movies have conflict. What I don’t get is why our meetings need to have it too. I mean, sure, they won’t be as boring. But how much of a difference is that really going to make in the long run?” Will considered the question, wanting to find the right words. Casey didn’t let him. “Come on now, Matt. If we’re engaged, don’t you think we’re going to be making better decisions? And we’ll probably be more likely to get everyone’s ideas and opinions out on the table.” “And that’s one of the big problems with your meetings now,” added Will. “Every time you guys are on the verge of getting into a crucial conversation about something that might get heated, you seem to bail out.”
469. “There is an immutable conflict at work in life and in business, a constant battle between peace and chaos. Neither can be mastered, but both can be influenced. How you go about that is the key to success.” – Phil Knight
470. The longer we listen to one another – with real attention – the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions.
471. Every conflict we face in life is rich with positive and negative potential. It can be a source of inspiration, enlightenment, learning, transformation, and growth–or rage, fear, shame, entrapment, and resistance. The choice is not up to our opponents, but to us, and our willingness to face and work through them.
472. “If you disagree with them you may be tempted to interrupt. But don’t. It is dangerous. They won’t pay attention to you while they still have a lot of ideas of their own crying for expression. So listen patiently and with an open mind.”
473. “What do I want the outcome to be?”
474. “Understand: we are all too afraid – of offending people. of stirring up conflict. of standing out from the crowd. of taking bold action.”
475. The biggest problem with being nice is that it’s not a solution. It’s just a way to avoid conflict and have relationships.
476. “You’ve got to know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em, know when to walk away, know when to run.” Kenny Rogers
477. “conflict is productive”
478. “And maybe now you’ll start treating everybody with respect. Not just the people you think are important.”
479. “No one seemed ready to offer an answer, so Kathryn quickly provided it for them. Just above absence of trust she wrote fear of conflict. “If we don’t trust one another, then we aren’t going to engage in open, constructive, ideological conflict. And we’ll just continue to preserve a sense of artificial”
480. #11. A solid rock is not disturbed by the wind; even so, a wise person is not agitated by praise or blame. – Dhammapada
481. “Good habits can make rational sense, but if they conflict with your identity, you will fail to put them into action.”
482. “Prior to the conflict, Europe had enjoyed decades of relative peace and stability. This stability resulted from a series of mutual defense pacts that deterred nations from seeking military solutions to disagreements with their neighbors. Additionally, the experience of so many years of peace led to a citizenry across Europe that became naive about warfare.”
483. “All great relationships, the ones that last over time, require productive conflict in order to grow. This”
484. “The Law of win/win says: Let’s not do it your way or my way; let’s do it the best way.” Greg Anderson
485. * “When will our consciences grow so tender that we will act to prevent human misery rather than avenge it?”
486. Listening is not waiting to talk.
487. “Conflicts acquire a life of their own until the combatants forget what, it is, that they are fighting about. They are just engaged in combat.”
488. When introverts are in conflict with each other, it may require a map in order to follow all the silences, nonverbal cues, and passive-aggressive behaviors!
489. “Every action creates a reaction. This much is true. The goal here for conflict resolution and peacekeeping purposes is thus to understand what caused the first action; it is Self* which then discovers that there is nothing to argue about nor that there is anything to fight over for One's very own purpose it is Companionship, it is Friendship, it is Love. (* Humanity)”
490. The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. – Thomas Paine
491. “Living with integrity means: Speaking your truth. even though it might create conflict or tension.”
492. “Am I not destroying my enemies when I make friends of them?” Abraham Lincoln
493. “When money is associated with love, it can cause resentment and conflict. Love shouldn’t have a price tag.”
494. I have a self-made quote: Celebrate diversity, practice acceptance and may we all choose peaceful options to conflict.
495. “Did this stem from a misunderstanding?"
496. “Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”
497. To be, or not to be: that is the question
498. “To make meetings less boring, leaders must look for legitimate reasons to provoke and uncover relevant, constructive ideological conflict. By doing so, they’ll keep people engaged, which leads to more passionate discussions, and ultimately, to better decisions.”
499. “If we manage conflict constructively, we harness its energy for creativity and development.” – Kenneth Kaye
500. “Whether they will admit it or not, all men love fighting.”
501. “The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph.” ― Thomas Paine
502. “Was I kind to others? It was hard to nail down an answer. I worried that if I did turn out to have a personality, it would be one of the unkind ones. Did I only worry about this question because as a woman I felt required to put the needs of others before my own? Was ‘kindness’ just another term for submission in the face of conflict? These were the kind of things I wrote about in my diary as a teenager: as a feminist I have the right not to love anyone.”
503. “‘I object to every single thing you just said.’”
504. “The high road is not always evenly paved.”
505. “It's daughters playing soccer with the children of the rival group, sons marrying outsiders, aunts trading with longstanding enemies, and individuals of all backgrounds sharing a market, hospital, school, or art center with the people they've been told to hate. In their day-to-day lives, ordinary people often engage in actions that observers view as banal and unimportant, when in fact these everyday acts help establish relationships that can prevent local outbreaks of violence and, at times, serve as the basis to deal with conflict.”
506. “Serpentining" means trying to control a situation, backing out of it, pretending it's not happening, or maybe even pretending that you don't care. We use it to dodge conflict, discomfort, possible confrontation, the potential for shame or hurt, and/or criticism (self- or other-inflicted). Serpentining can lead to hiding out, pretending, avoidance, procrastination, rationalizing, blaming, and lying.
507. “Does this behavior help me become the type of person I wish to be? Does this habit cast a vote for or against my desired identity?” Habits that reinforce your desired identity are usually good. Habits that conflict with your desired identity are usually bad.”
508. Peace is not absence of conflict; it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.
509. “Genuine tragedies in the world are not conflicts between right and wrong. They are conflicts between two rights.” Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel
510. “Unify all, divide none.”
511. “In a study, 82% of participants who were told they shared a rare trait with another participant were willing to help them vs. only 55% when they were told they shared a common trait. It was an uncommon commonality that drove people to act like givers. We gravitate toward people, places, and products with which we share an uncommon commonality. To explain why, researcher Marilynn Brewer developed an influential theory. On the one hand, we want to fit in: we strive for connection, community, belonging, and affiliation with others. On the other hand, we want to stand out: we search for uniqueness and individuality. As we navigate the social world, these two motives are often in conflict. The more strongly we associate with a group, the greater our risk of losing our uniqueness. The more we work to distinguish ourselves from others, the greater our risk of losing our sense of belongingness. How do we resolve this conflict? The solution is to be the same and different at the same time. A popular way to achieve this is to join a unique group. Being part of a group with shared interests, identities, values, skills, or experiences gives us a sense of connection and belonging. At the same time, being part of a group that is clearly distinct from other groups gives us a sense of uniqueness. The more unique a group, value, interest, skill, or experience is, the more likely it is to facilitate a bond. These are the groups in which we take the most pride, and feel the most cohesive and valued.”
512. If war is the violent resolution of conflict, then peace is not the absence of conflict, but rather, the ability to resolve conflict without violence.
513. "The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph."— Thomas Paine, American Founding Father
514. “Confirmation bias helps to explain the self-fulfilling nature of imposter syndrome. We pay more attention and place greater emphasis on evidence that supports our belief, while discrediting or ignoring any conflicting information. It means we interpret our experiences in ways that support our beliefs.” – Dr Jessamy Hibberd
515. Change means movement. Movement means friction. Only in the frictionless vacuum of a nonexistent abstract world can movement or change occur without that abrasive friction of conflict.
516. “Meditation brings wisdom; lack of meditation leaves ignorance. Know well what leads you forward and what hold you back, and choose the path that leads to wisdom.
517. “Don’t ever take a fence down until you know why it was put up.” Robert Frost
518. Men die of boredom, psychological conflict and disease. They do not die of hard work
519. Never ascribe to an opponent motive meaner than your own.
520. We may have different points of arguments from perspectives of belief, faith and religion. But we must not hate each other. We are one human family.
521. “A couple that can argue well can also live together well. This does not mean that arguing is valued in and of itself. However, conflict is inevitable when two different people try to share their lives at many different levels. It is very important that neither is scared to speak up. It is vital that each can honestly say how they feel and what they think. Each must know that they are respected, even if disagreed with. Only in this way, can a genuine, open, and deep bond be grown between the two.”
522. #6. “When you find yourself stuck in an oversimplified polarized conflict, a useful first step is to try to become more aware of the system as a whole: to provide more context to your understanding of the terrain in which the stakeholders are embedded, whether they are disputants, mediators, neg