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Top 850 Quotes From 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Stephen Covey)

1. The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule but to schedule your priorities.


2. “A thousand-mile journey begins with the first step” and can only be taken one step at a time.”


3. “Start small, make a promise. and keep it. Then, make larger promises and keep them.”


4. “Courage is not the absence of fear but the awareness that something else is more important.”


5. “My own experience with people confirms the point Frankl makes—that the highest of the three values is attitudinal, in the paradigm or reframing sense. In other words, what matters most is how we respond to what we experience in life.”


6. “As long as you feel you are serving others, you do the job well. When you are concerned only with helping yourself, you do it less well – a law as inexorable as gravity.” (306


7. “If you don't let a teacher know what level you are -- by asking a question, or revealing your ignorance -- you will not learn or grow.”


8. “If you carefully consider what you wanted to be said of you in the funeral experience, you will find your definition of success.”


9. “We become what we repeatedly do.”


10. “Effective leadership is putting first things first. Effective management is discipline, carrying it out.”


11. “Strength lies in differences, not in similarities.”


12. “We are not a product of what has happened to us in our past. We have the power of choice.” — Stephen Covey


13. “always treat your employees exactly as you want them to treat your best customers. You can buy a person’s hand, but you can’t buy his heart.”


14. “It is character that communicates most eloquently...In the last analysis, what we are communicates far more eloquently than anything we say or do.”


15. “Into the hands of every individual is given a marvelous power for good or evil—the silent, unconscious, unseen influence of his life. This is simply the constant radiation of what man really is, not what he pretends to be.”


16. “It becomes obvious that if we want to make relatively minor changes in our lives, we can perhaps appropriately focus on our attitudes and behaviors. But if we want to make significant, quantum change, we need to work on our basic paradigms.”


17. Genetic determinism — basically says your grandparents did it to you. Your nature and character go through the generations and you inherited it.


18. “It takes a great deal of character strength to apologize quickly out of one’s own heart rather than out of pity. A person must possess himself and have a deep sense of security in fundamental principles and values in order to genuinely apologize.” (207


19. “If we keep doing what we’re doing, we’re going to keep getting what we’re getting.” Stephen Covey


20. “You can buy a person’s hands, but you can’t buy his heart.”


21. “Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic.”


22. Leadership is communicating others' worth and potential so clearly that they are inspired to see it in themselves. -Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People


23. “People want to be understood. And whatever investment of time it takes to do that will bring much greater returns of time as you work from an accurate understanding of the problems and issues and from the high Emotional Bank Account that results when a person feels deeply understood.” (265


24. “What you do has far greater impact than what you say.” – Stephen Covey, author and educator


25. “My experience has been that there are times to teach and times not to teach. When relationships are strained and the air charged with emotion, an attempt to teach is often perceived as a form of judgment and rejection.”


26. Stop setting goals. Goals are pure fantasy unless you have a specific plan to achieve them. - Stephen Covey


27. “always treat your employees exactly as you want them to treat your best customers.”


28. The key is in not spending time, but in investing it. – Stephen R. Covey.


29. “The key to life is not accumulation. It’s contribution.” ~ Stephen Covey


30. Leadership is a choice, not a position. – Stephen Covey


31. “Be proactive.” Stephen Covey


32. I'm not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions. – Stephen Covey


33. “Every human has four endowments – self awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom… The power to choose, to respond, to change.”


34. “Integrity includes but goes beyond honesty. Honesty is telling the truth – in other words, conforming our words to reality. Integrity is conforming reality to our words – in other words, keeping promises and fulfilling expectations.” (205-206


35. “Begin with the end in mind.”


36. “To try to change outward attitudes and behaviors does very little good in the long run if we fail to examine the basic paradigms from which those attitudes and behaviors flow. This”


37. “We are not a product of what has happened to us in our past. We have the power of choice.” – Stephen Covey


38. “Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” ~ Stephen Covey


39. “Trust is the highest form of human motivation. It brings out the very best in people. But it takes time and patience.” – Stephen R. Covey


40. “Nuestra conducta es una función de nuestras decisiones, no de nuestras condiciones. Podemos subordinar los sentimientos a los valores. Tenemos la iniciativa y la responsabilidad de hacer que las cosas sucedan.”


41. “We see the world, not as it is, but as we are──or, as we are conditioned to see it.”


42. “If my sense of security lies in my reputation or in the things I have, my life will be in a constant state of threat and jeopardy that these possessions may be lost or stolen or devalued.”


43. “David O. McKay taught, “The greatest battles of life are fought out daily in the silent chambers of the soul.”


44. “We are the instrument of our own performance”


45. “The way you spend your time is a result of the way you see your time and the way you really see your priorities.”


46. “Two people can see the same thing, disagree, and yet both be right. It’s not logical; it’s psychological.”


47. “three central values in life—the experiential, or that which happens to us; the creative, or that which we bring into existence; and the attitudinal, or our response in difficult circumstances”


48. “It’s not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us. ” — Stephen R. Covey


49. “There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity.”


50. “In other words, what matters most is how we respond to what we experience in life.”


51. “principle of making what is important to the other person as important to you as the other person is to you.”


52. “Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.”


53. “Without trust, we don’t truly collaborate; we merely coordinate or, at best, cooperate. It is trust that transforms a group of people into a team.” – Stephen Covey


54. “When the trust account is high, communication is easy, instant, and effective.” – Stephen R. Covey


55. “Really seeking to understand another person is probably one of the most important deposits you can make, and it is the key to every other deposit.” (200


56. “He was the master of being “proactive,” and much to our vexation while growing up, we were never allowed to make excuses or blame our circumstances, friends, or teachers for our problems. We were simply taught to “make it happen” or “choose another response.”


57. “People can’t live with change if there’s not a changeless core inside them.”


58. “You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage – pleasantly, smiling, nonapologetically – to say ‘no’ to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger ‘yes’ burning inside.”


59. “Many people seem to think that success in one area can compensate for failure in other areas of life.”


60. “Albert Einstein observed, “The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.”


61. “He looked into his own head and thought he saw the world,”


62. “Maturity is the balance between courage and consideration. I”


63. “The fundamental problem has nothing to do with your behavior or your attitude. It has everything to do with having a wrong map.”


64. “Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” – Stephen Covey


65. “Anything less than Win/Win in an interdependent reality is a poor second best that will have impact in the long-term relationship.”


66. “The way we see things is the source of the way we think or the way we act”


67. “in relationships, the little things are the big things.”


68. “But until a person can say deeply and honestly, “I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday,” that person cannot say, “I choose otherwise.” – Stephen R. Covey


69. "Isn’t it kind of silly to think that tearing someone else down builds you up?” – Sean Covey


70. “Between stimulus and response is our greatest power—the freedom to choose.”


71. “I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday,”


72. “The more people rationalize cheating, the more it becomes a culture of dishonesty. And that can become a vicious, downward cycle. Because suddenly, if everyone else is cheating, you feel a need to cheat, too. ” — Stephen Covey


73. “We are the creative force of our life, and through our own decisions rather than our conditions, if we carefully learn to do certain things, we can accomplish those goals.” –Stephen Covey, American educator, author, businessman


74. “Be loyal to those who are not present. In doing so, you build the trust of those who are present. ” – Stephen Covey


75. Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.


76. “Independent people can get what they want through”


77. “Trust is the highest form of human motivation.”


78. “The more closely our maps or paradigms are aligned with these principles or natural laws, the more accurate and functional they will be”


79. “There is no effectiveness without discipline, and there is no discipline without character.”


80. “Happiness, like unhappiness, is a proactive choice.” (97


81. “Roles and goals give structure and organized direction to your personal mission. If you don’t yet have a personal mission statement, it’s a good place to begin.”


82. “It’s not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us. Of course, things can hurt us physically or economically and can cause sorrow. But our character, our basic identity, does not have to be hurt at all.”


83. “What you do has far greater impact than what you say.” — Stephen Covey, author, businessman and speaker


84. Stephen R. Covey on Effective Leadership.


85. “At some time in your life, you probably had someone believe in you when you didn’t believe in yourself.”


86. “To change ourselves effectively, we first had to change our perceptions.” ― Stephen R. Covey


87. “What we are communicates far more eloquently than anything we say or do.”


88. “Go out with your spouse on a regular basis. Have dinner or do something together you both enjoy. Listen to each other; seek to understand.”


89. “It is much more ennobling to the human spirit to let people judge themselves than to judge them. And”


90. “The proactive approach is to change from the inside-out: to be different, and by being different, to effect positive change in what’s out there—I can be more resourceful, I can be more diligent, I can be more creative, I can be more cooperative.”


91. “If I make deposits into an Emotional Bank Account with you through courtesy, kindness, honesty, and keeping my commitments to you, I build up a reserve. Your trust toward me becomes higher, and I can call upon that trust many times if I need to.”


92. “Anytime we think the problem is “out there,” that thought is the problem. We empower what’s out there to control us. The change paradigm is “outside-in”—what’s out there has to change before we can change. The”


93. “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. ARISTOTLE”


94. “People often find themselves achieving victories that are empty, successes that have come at the expense of things they suddenly realize were far more valuable to them.”


95. “Our behavior is governed by principles. Living in harmony with them brings positive consequences; violating them brings negative consequences.”


96. “as Marilyn Ferguson observed, “No one can persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either by argument or by emotional appeal.”


97. “You can’t be successful with other people if you haven’t paid the price of success with yourself.”


98. “I am not a product of my circumstances; I am a product of my decisions.”


99. “A moment of choice is a moment of truth. It’s the testing point of our character and competence.” – Stephen Covey


100. “You can buy a person's hand, but you can't buy his heart. His heart is where his enthusiasm, his loyalty is. You can buy his back, but you can't buy his brain. That's where his creativity is, his ingenuity, his resourcefulness.”


101. The taproot of trust. Executive Excellence, 8(12


102. “Frankl says we detect rather than invent our missions in life. I like that choice of words. I think each of us has an internal monitor or sense, a conscience, that gives us an awareness of our own uniqueness and the singular contributions that we can make. In”


103. “churchgoing is not synonymous with personal spirituality. There are some people who get so busy in church worship and projects that they become insensitive to the pressing human needs that sourround them, contradicting the very precepts they profess to believe deeply.”


104. “A fruit salad is delicious precisely because each fruit maintains its own flavor.” ―Sean Covey


105. First things first. EXECUTIVE EXCELLENCE, 11, 3-3.


106. “There are times when transformation requires no outside counsel. Often when people are really given the chance to open up, they unravel their own problems and the solutions become clear to them in the process.” (263


107. “people have character strength but they lack communication skills, and that undoubtedly affects the quality of relationships as well.”


108. “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand. Most people listen with the intent to reply.” Stephen Covey


109. “The children of blame are cynicism and hopelessness. When we succumb to believing that we are victims of our circumstances and yield to the plight of determinism, we lose hope, we lose drive, and we settle into resignation and stagnation.”


110. “Our ultimate freedom is the right and power anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us.” Stephen Covey


111. “I’ve set and met my career goals and I’m having tremendous professional success. But it’s cost me my personal and family life. I don’t know my wife and children anymore. I’m not even sure I know myself and what’s really important to me. I’ve had to ask myself—is it worth it?”


112. “Integrity in an interdependent reality is simply this: you treat everyone by the same set of principles.”


113. “But I think the most important aspect of The 7 Habits—what makes it not just practical, but profound—is its emphasis on building character rather than “attaining success.” There is no effectiveness without discipline, and there is no discipline without character.”


114. “Make small commitments and keep them. Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic. Be part of the solution, not part of the problem.”


115. “Treat them all the same by treating them differently.”


116. “Question 1: What one thing could you do (something you aren’t doing now) that, if you did it on a regular basis, would make a tremendous positive difference in your personal life? Question 2: What one thing in your business or professional life would bring similar results?”


117. “Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny.” —Stephen Covey, educator and businessman


118. “It is character that communicates most eloquently."


119. “The language of reactive people absolves them of responsibility.


120. “…every Goliath can be overcome.”


121. “Happiness, like unhappiness, is a proactive choice.”


122. “Culpar a los demás y al entorno de nuestros problemas y dificultades puede convertirse en una norma; puede atenuar temporalmente nuestro dolor, pero al mismo tiempo nos encadena a esos mismos problemas. Muéstrenme”


123. “Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny.” Stephen Covey


124. “It’s not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us.” – Stephen R. Covey


125. “What you do has far greater impact than what you say.” – Stephen Covey


126. The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness


127. “Emerson once put it, “What you are shouts so loudly in my ears I cannot hear what you say.”


128. “Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny.”


129. “Accountability breeds response-ability.” ~ Stephen Covey


130. I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions. –Stephen Covey


131. “Admission of ignorance is often the first step in our education.”


132. “Be patient with yourself. Self-growth is tender; it's holy ground. There's no greater investment.” – Stephen Covey


133. “In our quest for short-term returns, or results, we often ruin a prized physical asset -- a car, a computer, a washer or dryer, even our body or our environment.”


134. “If you put good people in bad systems, you get bad results.”


135. “Where we stand depends on where we sit."


136. “Failing organizations are usually over-managed and under-led.”- Stephen Covey.


137. “Put first things first.” Stephen Covey


138. “Principles are the territory. Values are maps. When we value correct principles, we have truth—a knowledge of things as they are.”


139. “Trust is the highest form of human motivation. It brings out the very best in people.” – Stephen Covey


140. “For every thousand hacking at the leaves of evil, there is one striking at the root.” We can only achieve”


141. “The beauty of trust is that it erases worry and frees you to get on with other matters. Trust means confidence.” —Stephen M.R. Covey”


142. “Because their identity and sense of self-worth are wrapped up in their work, their security is vulnerable to anything that happens to prevent them from continuing in it.”


143. “So often the problem is in the system, not in the people. If you put good people in bad systems, you get bad results. You have to water the flowers you want to grow.”


144. “It is possible to be busy—very busy—without being very effective.”


145. “Our language, for example, is a very real indicator of the degree to which we see ourselves as proactive people.”


146. “Between stimulus and response, there is a space where we choose our response.”


147. “Be patient with yourself. Self-growth is tender; it’s holy ground. There’s no greater investment. ” - Stephen Covey


148. “It is character that communicates most eloquently.”


149. “If I really want to improve my situation, I can work on the one thing over which I have control - myself.”


150. How to succeed with people. Shadow Mountain.


151. “efectividad reside en el equilibrio, en lo que denomino el equilibrio P/CP. «P» es la producción de los resultados deseados, los huevos de oro. «CP» es la capacidad de producción, la aptitud o el medio que produce los huevos de oro.”


152. “Effective leadership is putting first things first. Effective management is discipline, carrying it out.” - Stephen Covey


153. “Encouraging wellness and prevention helps improve quality of life and can lower costs, too. I saw too many patients who had poor health because of their decisions, but too often, all they needed was a doctor to help point them in the right direction.” Charles Boustany


154. “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”


155. ″What matters most is how we respond to what we experience in life.″


156. “…If you were to fault yourself in one of these three areas, which would it be: (1) the ability to prioritize; (2) the inability or desire to organize around those priorities, or (3) the lack of discipline to execute around them, to stay with your priorities and organization?”


157. “if you don’t know yourself, if you don’t control yourself, if you don’t have mastery over yourself, it’s very hard to like yourself,”


158. “Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be.”


159. The Divine Center. Bookcraft Pubs.


160. Management works in the system; leadership works on the system. - Stephen Covey


161. “Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else trie to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly.” Stephen Covey


162. “We share in the spirit embodied in the Alcoholics Anonymous prayer, “Lord, give me the courage to change the things which can and ought to be changed, the serenity to accept the things which cannot be changed, and the wisdom to know the difference.”


163. “Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships. ”– Stephen Covey


164. “Love is a verb. Love — the feeling — is a fruit of love, the verb.” — Stephen Covey


165. “probably know someone whose energy is devoted to justifying his or her position in an ongoing negative relationship. If you look, you can sometimes see beyond behavior into the center that creates it.”


166. “Strength lies in differences, not in similarities.” – Stephen Covey


167. “The only thing that endures over time is the Law of the Farm. You must prepare the ground, plant the seed, cultivate, and water it if you expect to reap the harvest.” Stephen Covey


168. I’m not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions. – Stephen Covey


169. “Suddenly I saw things differently, and because I saw differently, I thought differently, I felt differently, I behaved differently.”


170. “We see the world, not as it is, but as we are.”


171. “…murder is suicide, …anger is a two-edged sword.”


172. Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships. - Stephen R. Covey


173. “Knowledge is the theoretical paradigm, the what to do and the why. Skill is the how to do. And desire is the motivation, the want to do. In order to make something a habit in our lives, we have to”


174. The seven habits of highly effective people. Journal of Et Nursing, 19(3


175. “Strength lies in differences, not in similarities “ – Stephen Covey, Marketeer and motivational speaker


176. “Integrity is, fundamentally, the value we place on ourselves. It’s our ability to make and keep commitments to ourselves, to “walk our talk.”


177. “…if we want to make relatively minor changes in our lives, we can perhaps appropriately focus on our attitudes and behaviors. But if we want to make significant, quantum change, we need to work on our basic paradigms.” (39


178. “Universal principles or natural laws, such as responsibility, integrity, abundance and renewal”


179. “We judge ourselves by our intentions. And others by their actions.”


180. “Happiness - in part at least - the fruit of the desire and ability to sacrifice waht we want for what we want eventually”


181. “One of the most important ways to manifest integrity is to be loyal to those who are not present. In doing so, we build the trust of those who are present.” ~ Stephen Covey


182. “Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. ” — Stephen Covey


183. “Things were going to get worse before they got better, and everyone knew it.”


184. “The attitude was “If a person of your intelligence and competence and commitment disagrees with me, then there must be something to your disagreement that I don’t understand, and I need to understand it. You have a perspective, a frame of reference I need to look”


185. “Our new paradigm was created as we invested in the growth and development of our own character.”


186. “You can pretty well summarize the first three habits with the expression “make and keep a promise.” And you can pretty well summarize the next three habits with the expression “involve others in the problem and work out the solution together.”


187. “Eventually, if there isn’t deep integrity and fundamental character strength, the challenges of life will cause true motives to surface and human relationship failure will replace short-term success.”


188. Management works in the system; leadership works on the system. - Stephen Covey


189. “Marriage, in its truest sense, is a partnership of equals, with neither exercising dominion over the other, but, rather, with each encouraging and assisting the other in whatever responsibilities and aspirations he or she might have.” Gordon B. Hinckley


190. “Live Your Life By A Compass Not By A Clock.” – Stephen Covey


191. “Marilyn Ferguson observed, “No one can persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either by argument or by emotional appeal.”


192. “But the greatest opportunities and boundless accomplishments of the Knowledge Worker Age are reserved for those who master the art of “we.”


193. “Sharpen the Saw” is about continuous improvement in the personal and interpersonal spheres of influence.


194. “Independent people who do not have the maturity to think and actinterdependently may be good individual producers, but they won't be good leaders or team players”


195. “If you start to think the problem is ‘out there,’ stop yourself. That thought is the problem.” –Stephen Covey


196. “If our feelings control our actions, it is because we have abdicated our responsibility and empowered them to do so.”


197. “He who wants to keep his garden tidy doesn’t reserve a plot for weeds.”


198. “Our greatest joy and our greatest pain come in our relationships with others.” — Stephen R. Covey


199. “Trust is the highest form of human motivation. It brings out the very best in people. But it takes time and patience. ” — Stephen R. Covey


200. Management is efficiency in climbing the ladder of success; leadership determines whether the ladder is leaning against the right wall.' – Stephen Covey


201. “True discipline means channeling our best hours into first-order objectives, and that means being a nonconformist in the best sense.”


202. CNN. 41106. Retrieved July 17, 2012.


203. “Suppose you want your daughter to have a clean room—that’s P, production, the golden egg. And suppose you want her to clean it—that’s PC, production capability.”


204. Be patient with yourself. Self-growth is tender; it's holy ground. There's no greater investment. -Stephen Covey


205. “Proactive people subordinate feelings to values.”


206. “Personality and Character Ethics,”


207. “I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.” –Stephen Covey


208. Stephen R. Covey on the Meaning of Leadership.


209. “It's sometimes a painful process. It's a change that has to be motivated by a higher purpose, by the willingness to subordinate what you think you want now for what you want later.”


210. “Don’t argue for other people’s weaknesses. Don’t argue for your own. When you make a mistake, admit it, correct it, and learn from it- immediately.”


211. “When it comes to developing character strength, inner security and unique personal and interpersonal talents and skills in a child, no institution can or ever will compare with, or effectively substitute for, the home’s potential for positive influence.” Stephen Covey


212. “Effective leadership is putting first things first. Effective management is discipline, carrying it out.” ~ Stephen Covey


213. “Courage isn't absenct of fear, it is the awareness that something else is important”


214. “Listen twice as much as you speak.”


215. The first job of a leader - at work or at home - is to inspire trust. It's to bring out the best in people by entrusting them with meaningful stewardships, and to create an environment in which high-trust interaction inspires creativity and possibility. - Author: Stephen M.R. Covey


216. “Be loyal to those who are not present. In doing so, you build the trust of those who are present. ” —Stephen Covey, author and businessman


217. “there are times to teach and times not to teach.”


218. “It comes from within.”


219. “Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.” Stephen Covey


220. “When the trust account is high, communication is easy, instant, and effective” – Stephen R. Covey


221. “Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things.” Management is efficiency in climbing the ladder of success; leadership determines whether the ladder is leaning against the right wall.”


222. Live out of your imagination, not your history.


223. “But knowing I need to listen and knowing how to listen is not enough. Unless I want to listen, unless I have the desire, it won’t be a habit in my life. Creating a habit requires work in all three dimensions.”


224. Three roles of the leader in the new paradigm. The leader of the future, 149-160.


225. “Begin with the end in mind” is based on the principle that all things are created twice. There’s a mental or first creation, and a physical or second creation, to all things.”


226. “Stop setting goals. Goals are pure fantasy unless you have a specific plan to achieve them.” – Stephen Covey


227. “The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person. Reactive people are driven by feelings, by circumstances, by conditions, by their environment. Proactive people are driven by values–carefully thought about, selected and internalized values.”


228. “If you don't let a teacher know what level you are -- by asking a question, or revealing your ignorance -- you will not learn or grow”


229. ″As Marilyn Ferguson observed, ‘No one can persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either by argument or by emotional appeal.’ ″


230. “that no one can hurt me without my consent,”


231. “I am the creative force of my life.”


232. “To ignore the unexpected (even if it were possible) would be to live without opportunity, spontaneity, and the rich moments of which “life” is made.” ~ Stephen Covey


233. “But borrowing strength builds weakness.”


234. “Strategies for Influence” explores and shares the BIG IDEAS from the Leaders of Influence that can help you with your Career, Business, and Leadership. Click on any of the links below to explore the Big Ideas that have influenced our work and culture.


235. “In the last analysis, as Marilyn Ferguson observed, “No one can persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either by argument or by emotional appeal.”


236. “The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities. ”


237. “organizations are composed of people, and the more effective those people, the stronger the organization.”


238. “We are not a product of what has happened to us in our past. We have the power of choice. ” — Stephen Covey


239. “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. ARISTOTLE Our character, basically, is a composite of our habits. “Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny,” the maxim goes.”


240. “Proactive people make love a verb. Love is something you do: the sacrifices you make, the giving of self, like a mother bringing a newborn into the world.”


241. “Be patient with yourself. Self-growth is tender; it’s holy ground. There’s no greater investment.”– Stephen Covey


242. “Effective leadership is putting first things first. Effective management is discipline, carrying it out.” – Stephen R. Covey


243. “Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” — Stephen Covey


244. “Proactive people aren’t pushy. They’re smart, they’re value driven, they read reality, and they know what’s needed. Look at Gandhi.”


245. “Principles are like lighthouses. They are natural laws that cannot be broken. As Cecil B. DeMille observed of the principles contained in his monumental movie, The Ten Commandments, “It is impossible for us to break the law. We can only break ourselves against the law.” While”


246. “Be patient with yourself. Self-growth is tender; it’s holy ground. There’s no greater investment.” –Stephen Covey


247. “Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” – Stephen R. Covey


248. ″The more people are into quick fix and focus on the acute problems and pain, the more that very approach contributes to the underlying chronic condition.″


249. “That which we obtain too easily, we esteem too lightly. It is dearness only which gives everything its value. Heaven knows how to put a proper price on its goods.”


250. “It builds weakness in the person forced to acquiesce, stunting the development of independent reasoning, growth, and internal discipline. And finally, it builds weakness in the relationship. Fear replaces cooperation, and both people involved become more arbitrary and defensive.”


251. “Samuel Johnson observed: “The fountain of content must spring up in the mind, and he who hath so little knowledge of human nature as to seek happiness by changing anything but his own disposition, will waste his life in fruitless efforts and multiply the grief he proposes to remove.”


252. “It takes humility to seek feedback. It takes wisdom to understand it, analyze it and appropriately act on it.” —Stephen Covey”


253. “If you don’t let a teacher know at what level you are—by asking a question, or revealing your ignorance—you will not learn or grow.”


254. The key is in not spending time, but in investing it.' – Stephen R. Covey


255. “Are leaders born or made? This is a false dichotomy – leaders are neither born nor made. Leaders choose to be leaders.” – Stephen R. Covey


256. First things first. Simon and Schuster.


257. Primary Greatness: The 12 Levers of Success. Simon and Schuster.


258. “Win/Win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions.”


259. “God was at the center of your life, everything else would find its proper place.”


260. Environmental determinism — basically says your boss is doing to you — or your spouse, or that bratty teenager, or your economic situation, or national policies. Someone or something in your environment is responsible for your situation.


261. [Favorite Quote]: “It's not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us.”


262. “Ironically…as you care less about what others think of you, you will care more about what others think of themselves and their worlds, including their relationship with you.” (69


263. “To begin with the end in mind means to start with a clear understanding of your destination. It means to know where you’re going so that you better understand where you are now and so that the steps you take are always in the right direction.”


264. “Point out the potential failure paths, what not to do, but don’t tell them what to do.”


265. “Leadership is a choice, not a position.” ~ Stephen Covey


266. “Accountability breeds response-ability.” – Stephen R. Covey


267. “Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.” -Stephen Covey, author


268. “Empathy takes time, and efficiency is for things, not people.”


269. “I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor. HENRY DAVID THOREAU”


270. “BODY - cultural tendency: maintain lifestyle; treat health problems with surgery and medication / Principle; prevent diseases and problems by aligning lifestyle to be in harmony with established, universally accepted principles of health.


271. “I don’t define leadership as becoming the CEO. A CEO is no more likely to be a leader than anyone else. I am talking about leading your own life, being a leader among your friends, being a leader in your own family.”


272. “Life is not accumulation, it is about contribution.”


273. “It's incredibly easy to get caught up in the thick of thin things.”


274. “Most believe that the key to influence is communication—getting your point across clearly and speaking persuasively. In fact, if you think about it, don’t you find that, while others are speaking to you, instead of really listening to understand, you are often busy preparing your response?”


275. “What you do has far greater impact than what you say.” Stephen Covey


276. “Inside-out” means to start first with self; even more fundamentally, to start with the most inside part of self—with your paradigms, your character, and your motives.”


277. “My experience tells me that people instinctively trust those whose personality is founded upon correct principles.”


278. “Covey found a similar pattern in personal effectiveness: first build upon a strong core of principles that are not open for continuous change; at the same time, be relentless in the quest for improvement and continuous self-renewal.”


279. “Always treat your employees exactly as you want them to treat your best customers.” - Stephen R. Covey


280. “Every human has four endowments – self-awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom. The power to choose, to respond, to change.” Stephen Covey


281. “What you are shouts so loudly in my ears I cannot hear what you say.”


282. “Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.”


283. “They had more liberty, more options to choose from in their environment; but he had more freedom, more internal power to exercise his options.”


284. “By behaving in ways that build trust with one, you build trust with many.”


285. “Be patient with yourself. Self-growth is tender; it’s holy ground."


286. Borrowing strength builds weakness.”


287. “Accountability breeds responsibility.” – Stephen Covey


288. “We are not a product of what has happened to us in our past. We have the power of choice.” ~ Stephen Covey


289. Living the Seven Habits. ISBN 0-684-85716-2.


290. “What you do has far greater impact than what you say.” ~ Stephen Covey


291. “Only basic goodness gives life to technique.”


292. “Interdependent people combine their own efforts with the efforts of others to achieve their greatest success.” -Stephen Covey


293. “We see the world, not as it is, but as we are – or, as we are conditioned to see it.”


294. “responsibility—“response-ability”—the ability to choose your response.”


295. “Independent people who do not have the maturity to think and act interdependently may be good individual producers, but they won't be good leaders or team players.”


296. “The successful person has the habit of doing the things failures don’t like to do,” he observed. “They don’t like doing them either necessarily. But their disliking is subordinated to the strength of their purpose.” That”


297. “Leadership is a choice, not a position.”


298. “You can change the fruit without changing the root.” Stephen Covey


299. “As clearly and objectively as we think we see things, we begin to realize that others see them differently from their own apparently equally clear and objective point of view. “Where we stand depends on where we sit.”


300. “Highly proactive people don’t blame circumstances, conditions or conditioning for their behavior. Their behavior is their own conscious choice.”


301. “Seek first to understand, then to be understood."


302. “What is synergy? Simply defined, it means that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. It”


303. “Let people learn from your mistakes or the mistakes of others. Point out the potential failure paths, what not to do, but don’t tell them what to do.”


304. “The Character Ethic taught that there are basic principles of effective living, and that people can only experience true success and enduring happiness as they learn and integrate these principles into their basic character.”


305. “Interdependent people combine their own efforts with the efforts of others to achieve their greatest success.” – Stephen Covey


306. “Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things.” Stephen Covey


307. “It is one thing to make a mistake, and quite another thing not to admit it."


308. “T. S. Eliot expresses so beautifully my own personal discovery and conviction: “We must not cease from exploration. And the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we began and to know the place for the first time.”


309. “Animals do not possess this ability. We call it “self-awareness” or the ability to think about your very thought process.”


310. “A person must possess himself and have a deep sense of security in fundamental principles and values in order to genuinely apologize.”


311. “If you want small changes in your life, work on your attitude. But if you want big and primary changes, work on your paradigm.”


312. “It is impossible for us to break the law. We can only break ourselves against the law.”


313. “I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.” -Stephen Covey


314. “If you want to have more freedom, more latitude in your job, be a more responsible, a more helpful, a more contributing employee. If you want to be trusted, be trustworthy. If you want the secondary greatness of recognized talent, focus first on primary greatness of character.”


315. When the trust account is high, communication is easy, instant, and effective. – Stephen R. Covey


316. “It takes a great deal of character strength to apologize quickly out of one’s heart rather than out of pity. A person must possess himself and have a deep sense of security in fundamental principles and values in order to genuinely apologize.”


317. I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions. —Stephen Covey


318. “The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule but to schedule your priorities.”


319. “Live, love, laugh, leave a legacy.”


320. ″Paradigms are powerful because they create the lens through which we see the world.″


321. “Think Win/Win” is about a “win” for all is ultimately a better long-term resolution than if only one person in the situation had gotten their way.


322. ”When the trust account is high, communication is easy, instant, and effective. ” – Stephen R. Covey


323. “Show me someone who is humble enough to accept and take responsibility for his or her circumstances and courageous enough to take whatever initiative is necessary to creatively work his or her way through or around these challenges, and I'll show you the supreme power of choice.”


324. “Employers and business leaders need people who can think for themselves – who can take initiative and be the solution to problems.”


325. “Trust is the glue of life. It’s an essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” – Stephen R. Covey


326. “We can't live without eating, but we don't live to eat.”


327. “The more people are into quick fixes and focus on the acute problems and pain, the more that very approach contributes to the underlying chronic condition. The way we see the problem is the problem.”


328. “That’s right. So you have to weigh that consequence against the other consequence and make a choice. I know if it were me, I’d choose to go on the tennis trip. But never say you have to do anything.”


329. “Sincere apologies make deposits; repeated apologies interpreted as insincere make withdrawals. And the quality of the relationship reflects it.”


330. “time management’ is really a misnomer–the challenge is not to manage time, but to manage ourselves.”


331. “Essentialism: only once you give yourself permission to stop trying to do it all, to stop saying yes to everyone, can you make your highest contribution towards the things that really matter.”


332. “Proactive people aren’t pushy. They’re smart, they’re value driven, they read reality, and they know what’s needed.”


333. “Principles are not values. A gang of thieves can share values, but they are in violation of the fundamental principles we’re talking about. Principles are the territory. Values are maps. When we value correct principles, we have truth—a knowledge of things as they are.”


334. “Live out of your imagination, not your history.” —Stephen Covey


335. “Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be.” –Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (313-314


336. I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions. —Stephen R. Covey, American educator


337. “It shows, first of all, how powerfully conditioning affects our perceptions, and our paradigms. If ten seconds can have that kind of impact on the way we see things, what about the conditioning of a lifetime?”


338. “A good affirmation has five basic ingredients: it’s personal, it’s positive, it’s present tense, it’s visual, and it’s emotional.


339. Live, love, laugh, leave a legacy.


340. “Our character is basically a composite of our habits because they are consistent. Often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily, express our character.”


341. “What you do has far greater impact than what you say." - Stephen Covey


342. “We may be very busy, we may be very efficient, but we will also be truly effective only when we begin with the end in mind.” (105


343. “the real mantra of success is sustainability and growth.”


344. “When the trust is high, communication is easy, instant, and effective.” ~ Stephen Covey


345. “I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.” ~ Stephen Covey


346. “Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose.”


347. “Effective leaders are not problem-minded; they’re opportunity minded. They feed opportunities and starve problems.” -Stephen Covey.


348. Our greatest joy and our greatest pain comes in our relationships with others.” — Stephen Covey


349. “Always treat your employees exactly as you want them to treat your best customers.” – Stephen R. Covey


350. When you listen with empathy to another person, you give that person psychological air. -Stephen R. Covey


351. The speed of trust: The one thing that changes everything. Simon and Schuster.


352. “Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.”


353. “Just listen and seek to understand.”


354. “Rather than focusing on things and time, fourth generation expectations focus on preserving and enhancing relationships and on accomplishing results–in short, on maintaining the P/PC Balance.”


355. “Our character is basically a composite of our habits because they are consistent. Often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily, express our character.” Stephen Covey


356. “When other people disagree with us, we immediately think something is wrong with them. But, as the demonstration shows, sincere, clearheaded people see things differently, each looking through the unique lens of experience.”


357. “Happiness can be defined, in part at least, as the fruit of the desire and ability to sacrifice what we want now for what we want eventually.”


358. “The only thing that endures over time is the Law of the Farm. You must prepare the ground, plant the seed, cultivate, and water it if you expect to reap the harvest.”


359. “The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule but to schedule your priorities.” Stephen Covey


360. “The more people rationalize cheating, the more it becomes a culture of dishonesty. And that can become a vicious, downward cycle. Because suddenly, if everyone else is cheating, you feel a need to cheat, too.” — Stephen Covey


361. “Trust is the highest form of human motivation. It brings out the very best in people. But it takes time and patience.” ~ Stephen R. Covey


362. “Interdependence is a far more mature, more advanced concept. If I am physically interdependent, I am self-reliant and capable, but I also realize that you and I working together can accomplish far more than, even at my best, I could accomplish alone.


363. Servant-leadership from the inside out. Insights on leadership: Service, stewardship, spirit, and servant leadership.


364. “In the midst of the most degrading circumstances imaginable, Frankl used the human endowment of self-awareness to discover a fundamental principle about the nature of man: Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose.”


365. “I’ve seen unhappy marriages where each spouse wants the other to change, where each is confessing the other’s “sins,” where each is trying to shape up the other.”


366. “Sometimes the most proactive thing we can do is to be happy, just to genuinely smile.”


367. “He that is good with a hammer tends to think everything is a nail.”


368. “But until a person can say deeply and honestly, “I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday,” that person cannot say, “I choose otherwise.”


369. “Your attitude determines your altitude,”


370. “Goethe taught, “Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be.”


371. “In the great literature of all progressive societies, love is a verb. Reactive people make it a feeling. They’re driven by feelings.”


372. “We can’t go very far to change our seeing without simultaneously changing our being, and vice versa.”


373. “T. S. Eliot’s observation: We must not cease from exploration and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we began and to know the place for the first time.”


374. “Be patient with yourself. Self-growth is tender; it’s holy ground. There’s no greater investment.” ~ Stephen Covey


375. Be patient with yourself. Self-growth is tender; it’s holy ground. There’s no greater investment.”– Stephen Covey


376. “…cooperation in the workplace is as important to free enterprise as competition in the marketplace.” (242


377. Trust is equal parts character and competence ... You can look at any leadership failure, and it's always a failure of one or the other. - Author: Stephen Covey


378. “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. OLIVER WENDELL HOLMES”


379. “Interdependent people combine their own efforts with the efforts of others to achieve their greatest success.” - Stephen Covey


380. You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage—pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically, to say “no” to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger “yes” burning inside. The enemy of the “best” is often the “good."


381. “It's not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us.”


382. “The way you spend your time is a result of the way you see your time and the way you really see your priorities”


383. “many people break themselves against. This principle can be easily understood by remembering Aesop’s fable of the goose and the golden egg. This fable is the story of a poor farmer who one”


384. “Leadership is affirming people’s worth and potential so clearly that they are inspired to see it in themselves.”


385. “Maturity is the balance between courage and consideration”


386. Effective leadership is putting first things first. Effective management is discipline, carrying it out. —Stephen Covey


387. “Be loyal to those who are not present. In doing so, you build the trust of those who are present.” — Stephen Covey


388. The key is to not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities. Stephen R. Covey


389. “love is a verb. Reactive people make it a feeling. They’re driven by feelings.”


390. Leading in the knowledge worker age. The leader of the future, 2, 215-226.


391. “Principles are guidelines for human conduct that are proven to have enduring, permanent value. They’re fundamental.”


392. “What you do has greater impact than what you say.” Stephen Covey


393. “To Retain those who are present, be loyal to those who are absent.” ~ Stephen Covey


394. “the last analysis, as Marilyn Ferguson observed, “No one can persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either by argument or by emotional appeal.”


395. The ideal community. In Community of the Future (pp. 49-58


396. “Be patient with yourself. Self-growth is tender; it’s holy ground. There’s no greater investment.”


397. “By making and keeping promises to ourselves and others, little by little, our honor becomes greater than our moods.”


398. “Habit 1: Be Proactive


399. “Hear both sides before judging.”


400. “Courage isn’t absence of fear, it is the awareness that something else is important”


401. “One person’s mission is another person’s minutiae.”


402. “If we wanted to change the situation, we first had to change ourselves. And to change ourselves effectively, we first had to change our perceptions.” ~ Stephen Covey


403. The Key Is Not To Prioritise What’s On Your Schedule, But To Schedule Your Priorities. Steven Covey


404. “What you do has far greater impact than what you say.” –Steven Covey


405. “But until a person can say deeply and honestly, ‘I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday,’ that person cannot say, ‘I choose otherwise.’”


406. “Sameness is not oneness; uniformity is not unity… The essence of synergy is to value the differences.” (286


407. “Effective leadership is putting first things first. Effective management is discipline, carrying it out.” –Stephen Covey